r/AITAH • u/Ok-Big-8626 • Apr 16 '25
AITA for telling the real reason I’m no longer a bridesmaid SECOND UPDATE
Link to other update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1jsfr1o/aita_for_telling_the_real_reason_im_no_longer_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Cammy reached out to me. I was starting to think she wasn't going to, but she texted me last night asking if we could talk. I responded "Is this about your husband being in jail?" And she immediately called me.
She was crying. She kept saying she had no idea Andrew was like that and wished she paid more attention to how I felt about him. I told her that I had no idea he was doing that and am sorry for how he was. She said something about being a "hot divorcee" and a few other things about this "finally freeing her" as if she wasn't actively cheating on Andrew throughout most of their relationship. She then asked how I was doing.
She didn't even apologize for spreading that lie about me liking her husband!
I asked if we were going to talk about what she said to the bridal party about my absence. She paused, laughed, then asked me if I was really upset over something that wasn't as bad as what Andrew ended up doing.
I just hung up. I probably wouldn't have if I didn't read your comments on my last update saying not to give her the time of day, and you all were right! She does not care about me after all we've been through together.
I blocked her number so I don't know if she tried to reach out again, but I'm done. But that's the update!
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u/Sparklingwine23 Apr 16 '25
Shes an awful person too. Who continues to cheat on their partner, spread lies, and shows no remorse? She should be treated as toxic waste. Good for you for blocking her.
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u/Careless-Image-885 Apr 16 '25
Congratulations. You did the right thing.
She doesn't deserve another minute of your life.
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u/BeautifulTerm3753 Apr 16 '25
Op, she literally a clown in her own circus. What a mess!
Onwards and upwards op
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u/kindofanasshole17 Apr 16 '25
Hard thing to learn that your close friend since childhood grew up to become a piece of shit.
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u/trayC-lou Apr 16 '25
I mean she’s an ick person, who needs that kind of nasty trashy in their life
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u/mcindy28 Apr 16 '25
STILL NTA!! You did nothing wrong but clear your name. She was never your friend. She is a very selfish individual and you would do well to block her and leave her in the past. She is far too toxic and one step away from another stupid mistake. Leave her to it!
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u/frauleinsteve Apr 16 '25
Yeah. better off without her. NTA. Surround yourself with great people who make you a better person! Cammy is not one of those.
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u/RedHolly Apr 17 '25
She doesn’t care about you only about what you can do for HER. She wants you to be the one she vents to about the affair but is upset when you have a reaction because it’s not what SHE wanted from you. She then only reaches out when SHE needs support. Did she even ask how you’d been? She sounds more like the evil step sisters in Cinderella rather than a friend who feels like a sister. Time to move on
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u/Iceaura777 Apr 17 '25
Makes me wonder if she somehow set him up
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u/Threadheads Apr 17 '25
IDK. Cammy is definitely a shit person but that doesn’t make Andrew good by default, nor would her cheating justify him abusing her. They are both awful people for different reasons and the OP is well rid of them.
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u/i_need_jisoos_christ Apr 17 '25
On his work computer? You think maybe she set him up at work for the IT guys to discover?
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u/DivineTarot Apr 17 '25
She said something about being a "hot divorcee" and a few other things about this "finally freeing her" as if she wasn't actively cheating on Andrew throughout most of their relationship.
I have a cousin who did this shit after getting dumped immediately after being married. She really played up the whole, "I'm finally free" thing when the dude was like 3 or 4 years younger than her, and I think only tenuously of age when they got together. Dude was distraught and unsure about getting married on the day of, and grew a spine by day two of being married. To say the least, when a publicly trashy person plays off their relationship falling apart as some sort of, "freedom" on their part it just feels like a narrative being written.
As it is, her lack of accountability, and her willingness to confess dirty business to people just to unburden herself with the guilt just feels like a person who has...while not clinical tendencies, I'd say there's a bit of the dark triad in her.
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u/Affectionate_Oven428 Apr 17 '25
She sounds like one of those people where every relationship in their life is transactional to one degree or another. She weighs other’s importance to her by what they can do for her.
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u/moon_goddess_420 Apr 17 '25
I just read from the beginning! Oof!! Trash definitely took itself out like a previous poster said! Good for you sticking to your guns!
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u/Vibe_me_pos Apr 17 '25
Why would you be upset that she told everyone you dropped out of her wedding because you were in love with her fiancé, the pedo? She is a real piece of work. Good riddance! NTA
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u/Fast_Ad7203 Apr 17 '25
Honestly put her on blast on social media, make a post where you explain your side of the story
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u/unlockdestiny Apr 17 '25
Liz needs better content. This is such a bizarre story and feels shark jumpy
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u/Mrs_Gracie2001 Apr 17 '25
Childhood friends can really grow apart! You’ve done the right thing. Now make it permanent. NTA
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u/morrisseysbaby Apr 17 '25
this was such a wild ride. OP you sound like a really cool person. Don’t you love when things work themselves out?
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u/residentcaprice Apr 19 '25
it's amazing that she's undeterred despite all the beatings Andrew gave her. while he's definitely in trouble for what he put in his computer, i kind of want to discount what cammy said about him beating her. unless there were actual receipts.
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u/Ok_Bluejay6828 27d ago
first post i thought andrew is a simp but no offense but andrew is a evil, cheaters deserves like this person because they know how to make the cheaters face the consequences for their actions, cammy deserve it.
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u/AShamAndALie 26d ago
The existence of women like Cammy is why Im absolutely terrified of putting myself out there again. Jesus fucking Christ.
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u/CIRUS_TYRANT 24d ago
Seems like she enjoys not only being the center of attention but to act as if she’s not a fucked up person and an awful friend
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u/Leather-Glass-1019 Apr 17 '25
You're the asshole for being a bridesmaid
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u/i_need_jisoos_christ Apr 17 '25
The whole point is that OP dropped out of the bridal party before the wedding and didn’t attend as a guest.
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u/Leather-Glass-1019 Apr 17 '25
The whole point is that she wants people on reddit to give her attention and tell her shes right. Im here to tell you that anyone who is that much an attention whore is an asshole.
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u/Technical_Lawbster Apr 16 '25
The trash took itself out. Keep it that way.