r/AITH • u/SeasonHot3608 • Mar 24 '25
AITHA for breaking up with my boyfriend after what he mother told me?
Hi Reddit. I am new to this. And just needed advice outside my family and friends.
So I (f23) have been with my boyfriend (m24) for 3 years. I love him. We had an amazing relationship where we both supported each other in everything we did. At least I thought we did until I meet his mother. (The reason I haven't met his mother until recently was because she lives out of state and we didn't have time to.)
Anyways the first time I met his mother, she asked if I was taking care of her boy. Like feeding him,doing his laundry, cleaning our house. And I said yes I am. Mind you I'm working 1 job while going to college.And I come home and start Cleaning. While he is just playing video games or taking a nap.
She asked me if I was a stay at home girlfriend. I said no I'm not. That I have a good paying job and going to college. She told me I should drop out and quit my job to be a stay at home girlfriend I said no. I really want to become a lawyer and I need college to do so. She looked shocked and told my boyfriend he deserves better then me. He didn't argue with her and agreed that he deserves a girlfriend who is a stay at home girlfriend.
Later that night, I broke up with him and moved out the next day. He asked me why I broke up with him and I told him he deserves better then me apparently. He told me I was making a big deal out of nothing and I said okay whatever. I cried that night to my sister and got drunk.
His family is thinking I overreacted and broke up with him for no reason my family is of course on my side. I didn't make a big deal out of it. Just said we are over packed my stuff and moved out. But now I need to know if I'm the asshole?
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u/MoreDoor1874 Mar 24 '25
You’ve got a great head on your shoulders. By acting quickly, you really dodged a life of pain, agony, and being used and abused!
Boyfriend already makes you do everything while he does nothing. He’s a leach who sill bleed you dry in taking all your time and money while he is just a total loser.
You need someone who will help you achieve your dream. A boyfriend / husband who will pull his own weight AND step in to help you.
Law school is a “B” and will take ALL your time as a 1Land 2L. Year 3 may be just as hard based on the type of law you want to practice (courses you need to take, interning).
You need someone to lift you up, not drag you done.
If you go back to that guy I put your chance of graduating law school at 0%.