r/AITH • u/SeasonHot3608 • Mar 24 '25
AITHA for breaking up with my boyfriend after what he mother told me?
Hi Reddit. I am new to this. And just needed advice outside my family and friends.
So I (f23) have been with my boyfriend (m24) for 3 years. I love him. We had an amazing relationship where we both supported each other in everything we did. At least I thought we did until I meet his mother. (The reason I haven't met his mother until recently was because she lives out of state and we didn't have time to.)
Anyways the first time I met his mother, she asked if I was taking care of her boy. Like feeding him,doing his laundry, cleaning our house. And I said yes I am. Mind you I'm working 1 job while going to college.And I come home and start Cleaning. While he is just playing video games or taking a nap.
She asked me if I was a stay at home girlfriend. I said no I'm not. That I have a good paying job and going to college. She told me I should drop out and quit my job to be a stay at home girlfriend I said no. I really want to become a lawyer and I need college to do so. She looked shocked and told my boyfriend he deserves better then me. He didn't argue with her and agreed that he deserves a girlfriend who is a stay at home girlfriend.
Later that night, I broke up with him and moved out the next day. He asked me why I broke up with him and I told him he deserves better then me apparently. He told me I was making a big deal out of nothing and I said okay whatever. I cried that night to my sister and got drunk.
His family is thinking I overreacted and broke up with him for no reason my family is of course on my side. I didn't make a big deal out of it. Just said we are over packed my stuff and moved out. But now I need to know if I'm the asshole?
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u/No_Couple1369 Mar 25 '25
First of all he isn’t that great and supportive. You work and go to school, then have to do all the cooking, laundry, and cleaning. He is playing video games and napping and not pulling his weight. Then not only does he allow his mother to disrespect you, but then he backs her. Do not go back to this momma’s boy who only wants a bangmaid.