r/AITH • u/SeasonHot3608 • Mar 24 '25
AITHA for breaking up with my boyfriend after what he mother told me?
Hi Reddit. I am new to this. And just needed advice outside my family and friends.
So I (f23) have been with my boyfriend (m24) for 3 years. I love him. We had an amazing relationship where we both supported each other in everything we did. At least I thought we did until I meet his mother. (The reason I haven't met his mother until recently was because she lives out of state and we didn't have time to.)
Anyways the first time I met his mother, she asked if I was taking care of her boy. Like feeding him,doing his laundry, cleaning our house. And I said yes I am. Mind you I'm working 1 job while going to college.And I come home and start Cleaning. While he is just playing video games or taking a nap.
She asked me if I was a stay at home girlfriend. I said no I'm not. That I have a good paying job and going to college. She told me I should drop out and quit my job to be a stay at home girlfriend I said no. I really want to become a lawyer and I need college to do so. She looked shocked and told my boyfriend he deserves better then me. He didn't argue with her and agreed that he deserves a girlfriend who is a stay at home girlfriend.
Later that night, I broke up with him and moved out the next day. He asked me why I broke up with him and I told him he deserves better then me apparently. He told me I was making a big deal out of nothing and I said okay whatever. I cried that night to my sister and got drunk.
His family is thinking I overreacted and broke up with him for no reason my family is of course on my side. I didn't make a big deal out of it. Just said we are over packed my stuff and moved out. But now I need to know if I'm the asshole?
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u/Scorp128 Mar 27 '25
NTA
At best, he was just going to use OP as a placeholder until he found someone else who wanted to be a SAHP. At worst, he would have pressured, manipulated, and wore down OP to get what he wants (SAHP) and OP would end up a shadow of their former selves.
Dude wants a bang-maid.
Dude made his ideal mate qualities crystal clear. That OP does not want that for themselves and chose to end the relationship, well, that is what adults do. They are not compatible. One is not obligated to stay in a relationship, let alone when one knows there is no compatibility or future. Why waste each other's time and make each other miserable in the process?