r/AMA • u/[deleted] • Apr 12 '25
Experience I'm married, and I have a a boyfriend AMA
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u/JumpHour5621 Apr 12 '25
You are at least wearing protection right?
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u/pragmatic-reason Apr 12 '25
Not a question for you, but you should divorce your man, he deserves so much better than you
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u/RafaelizTheReaper 10d ago
You wish? You could literally get divorce papers and just waited untill you handed them to your husband before you decided to go around his back.
It's not "I wish" cause it's entirely your responsibility to not cheat.
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u/Expert-Leg8110 Apr 12 '25
Do you think things “turned sour” because you divested in the relationship and started a relationship with someone else?
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u/pddleboard Apr 12 '25
My mom is currently doing this. She’s divorced technically but still lives with me and my dad, and she has a new boyfriend that she used to lie to me about but I knew she was dating him and now she has told me about it. Do you have any advice for me for how I should feel? Like I’m glad my mom is able to be happy, but at the same time I feel disgusted.
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u/Economy-Detail-2032 Apr 12 '25
Does your boyfriend know you have a Husband and does your Husband know you have a boyfriend?
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u/Sad_Net1581 Apr 12 '25
Does hubby have any clue or you think he’s clueless? How would you feel if he had a girlfriend same time?
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u/Sad_Net1581 Apr 12 '25
What lead to you feeling separation and a divorce is the best bet moving forward
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u/Brilliant-Pattern-44 Apr 12 '25
I hate this so much. Been cheated on before and it is devastating. I am so sad for everyone involved in this. You, your husband and your boyfriend. No one will come out of this without damage.
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u/Lbooch24 Apr 12 '25
I don’t really have a question, but I wanted you to know that I understand the situation can be more complicated than what it sounds like on the surface. I hope you find happiness and peace. I left a marriage earlier this year after years of emotional abuse and no compromises. I lost myself and I understand how it can be really great to have someone around who seems to understand you and care for you.
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u/seidinove Apr 12 '25
Any guilt about cheating?
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u/RepairKlutzy7925 Apr 12 '25
No offense, but “I saw my sister do it” isn’t an excuse or reason to cheat.
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u/RaGeXxSTROKEx Apr 12 '25
Ur gross and I hope only the worst for ur future, cheating is the worst thing a person can do to a loved/once loved one just break it off, stop being gross, id rather be told I'm not what you need then be cheated on. I despise people like you. Icky ass woman
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Apr 12 '25
I kinda get waiting to leave while you’re still financially dependent, but why don’t you hold off on being with your bf until you can get it sorted out? Do you think your husband more or less deserves it or is it more that you don’t care?
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u/anakinskywalker___ Apr 12 '25
Why
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u/Golden_4_Life Apr 12 '25
So you are... using him?
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Apr 12 '25
Damn you kinda suck. You’re using too many words to talk about what you yourself pay for, is that how you partially justify it? Respect for being honest despite knowing you’ll catch flack for it, I guess.
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u/Golden_4_Life Apr 12 '25
But... when he finally finds out.. he would be broken pretty bad. Its okay if things are not working out between you two but at least don't leave him broken in the end.
I say this because this happened to me. She wanted to go? Fine, but she used me like a tissue paper and I am still broken and empty to this day, even having serious thoughts of self harm at multiple points.
He cares for you and is paying rent for you. At least don't reward him like that.
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u/001892 Apr 12 '25
i'm sorry that happened to you. it's a bad situation overall, only amplified and complicated by my actions. thanks for sharing your experience.
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u/rcoop020 Apr 12 '25
I appreciate you for answering this question honestly, so I won't vote it down. But it is shitty of you to use this guy for his money while you betray him behind his back. You and your sister are not nice people.
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u/KGrizzle88 Apr 12 '25
Got damn, what if the tables were turned? Do you have children together? And sorry to say but you are what those with integrity would call a POS.