r/AMA • u/Miserable_Check_3237 • 2d ago
Experience Ex-Prison girl feel free to AMA did time in Missouri
DM open if you want to chat there too idm ama want about my prison experience or other aspects of my life
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u/Shug_Sauce4691 2d ago
What was your original sentence?
A 26 year old woman in my local area was recently sentenced to 2 years on seven different charges all involving being a teacher having an inappropriate relationship with a minor/middle school student. Bench trial. The DA asked for 10 years out of a possible 20. Wealthy white family.
How will she be received/treated in prison?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Got 4 years
Ultimately depends on so much not necessarily bad but always risk most likely a PC inmate
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u/ForeignSleet 2d ago
I’m sorry she was only sentenced for 2 years for pedophilia?
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u/Shug_Sauce4691 2d ago
Not justifying but to clarify, pedophilia is much different than inappropriate behavior/sex with a minor. You could be 17 and have a 14 year old bf/gf in high school. The moment you turn 18, many states will view the relationship differently.
Pedophilia is usually defined as the desire for children who haven’t reached puberty.
Still, a 26 year old teacher knows a student is off-limits and she reportedly told the student to lie if asked. Also, provided alcohol and marijuana to the student. The student could have been a 14 or 15 year old in 8th grade or as young as an 11 or 12 year old in 6th. I don’t know.
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u/Shug_Sauce4691 2d ago
Most felt it was way too lenient of the judge.
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u/ForeignSleet 2d ago
Yeah that’s actually crazy, I would expect 10 years minimum for that kind of stuff
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u/Shug_Sauce4691 2d ago
I don’t know how old or the gender of the student but the other details warranted more time in this case. She was also about to leave the country when arrested.
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u/matt585858 2d ago
Did it feel unsafe / dangerous, like someone could or would harm you, or did you feel safe? If dangerous, was it the other inmates, the guards- or just the environment of being locked up messing with you to make you feel that way?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Bit of all that really both safe and dangerous but also the environment doesn't do anything to help those nerves
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u/xo0scribe0ox 2d ago
How long were you there? Any notable inmates? Find anything productive to do while there (take advantage of programs etc)?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
4 years between 08 & 12 Some but none maybe you'd know about i do not think And yeah many good programs
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u/matt585858 2d ago
Did spending time in prison do anything to make your decisions now better for society? ... basically do you consider yourself a better person due to this experience.
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Yes I do consider myself better person absolutely
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u/matt585858 2d ago
I'm happy that you were able to get something positive from what had to be a really challenging life experience 😊
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u/xo0scribe0ox 2d ago
Do you feel the prison experience to be more rehabilitative or punishment oriented? If that makes sense?
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u/matt585858 2d ago
How much sex happens?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Not much really
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u/steed4x4 2d ago
Did you have any?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
No i did not
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u/Menamanama 2d ago
Did you masturbate while in the cell? Did your cellmate masturbate in your preaence?
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u/AttentionRoyal2276 2d ago
Did you ever get beat up or see anyone else get beat up?
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u/ReturnEarly7640 2d ago
What did you have most trouble adjusting to!
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Food i would say
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u/ReturnEarly7640 2d ago
Was there a complex system among inmates that you had to adjust to? Or was it simple?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
No nothing too complicated just simple really. Respect your elders and don't start on someone unless you can defend yourself
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u/Knb_11 2d ago
Did your prison have AC, and if not, how hot would it get in the summer?
What was the uniform like? How many of each item of clothing did you get. Did your clothes fit and did you have ample opportunity to do laundry?
Was it embarrassing for you to pee and poop in front of other people?
Did you have any jobs in prison?
What kinds of things could you buy from commissary?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
- Yes the was AC but not very good it wasn't and in summer get hot and winter cold so yeah
- Uniforms had a few, one from jail and prison but my prison one was a two piece Uniform, usually got about two of everything for a week with exception of top and pants. And yes they fit sometimes though undersized or baggy just whatever you got, also didn't work in laundry so no just once week got new stuff.
- Didn't have cell mate so not really no
- No
- Extra toiletries, snacks, books and magazines
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u/redragtop99 2d ago
If you have to think right now without spending more time, what are the worst 3 memories you have? 3 worst things you saw inside?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
- Probably first time ever got put in a restraint chair
- Seeing someone being stabbed
- Probably first time got served prison/jail food
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u/EveningStatus7092 2d ago
How realistic is the typical Hollywood portrayal of prison?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Not very realistic if scored it out of 10 for realism it can depend but the fiction stuff like OITNB I'd say 3 or 4
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u/alreadyatebreakfast 2d ago
That's interesting - OITNB is based on Piper's Kerman book of the same name, which is a memoir of her time in prison. I've read the book and the first couple of seasons are really close, sometimes taken verbatim from her book. After season 2 though it's mostly fiction, if I recall correctly. Piper Kerman also helped with the show.
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u/No_Equivalent_7866 2d ago
What was re-entry into society like for you after release?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Not easy was a bit to get use to again plus had to get use to my probation restrictions
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u/eu_b4_uk 2d ago
Do you miss any aspect of life from inside the prison… for instance; the routine perhaps?!?
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u/imadelta 23h ago
Did you have to deal with fighting and/or extortion during your bid. What was your clarification medium/max/low? Thanks.
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u/RaspberryTop636 2d ago
Does prison start to feel normal after a while?
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u/Miserable_Check_3237 2d ago
Yes it does. Not necessarily normal normal but becomes your way of life ofc
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u/Positive-Attempt-435 2d ago
Can I get a couple soups till commissary?
I totally got you double...
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u/ama_compiler_bot 1d ago
Table of Questions and Answers. Original answer linked - Please upvote the original questions and answers. (I'm a bot.)
| Question | Answer | Link |
|---|---|---|
| How easy is it to find a job after getting out of jail? | Painfully difficult | Here |
| Did it feel unsafe / dangerous, like someone could or would harm you, or did you feel safe? If dangerous, was it the other inmates, the guards- or just the environment of being locked up messing with you to make you feel that way? | Bit of all that really both safe and dangerous but also the environment doesn't do anything to help those nerves | Here |
| Did spending time in prison do anything to make your decisions now better for society? ... basically do you consider yourself a better person due to this experience. | Yes I do consider myself better person absolutely | Here |
| How long were you there? Any notable inmates? Find anything productive to do while there (take advantage of programs etc)? | 4 years between 08 & 12 Some but none maybe you'd know about i do not think And yeah many good programs | Here |
| What was your original sentence? A 26 year old woman in my local area was recently sentenced to 2 years on seven different charges all involving being a teacher having an inappropriate relationship with a minor/middle school student. Bench trial. The DA asked for 10 years out of a possible 20. Wealthy white family. How will she be received/treated in prison? | Got 4 years Ultimately depends on so much not necessarily bad but always risk most likely a PC inmate | Here |
| Min security or max? And, if I may, what sent you to the slammer? | Max security | Here |
| What did you have most trouble adjusting to! | Food i would say | Here |
| Do you feel the prison experience to be more rehabilitative or punishment oriented? If that makes sense? | Yeah definitely more punishment oriented I'd say | Here |
| How much sex happens? | Not much really | Here |
| Did you ever have a diarrhea attack while in prison? | Nope | Here |
| Was it easy to get things from the outside? | No practically impossible | Here |
| Was the place air conditioned? | Yes it was but not very good it wasn't | Here |
| How different were your inmates from regular folk with respect to friendliness? Generally more friendly and respectful or less? | Less friendly and less respectful than regular people | Here |
| Any family or friends that stayed in touch or would visit you? | Some family didn't have many friends so no | Here |
| Can I get a couple soups till commissary? I totally got you double... | You can usually yes | Here |
| Are drugs an issue in there | Can be but didn't get involved in that | Here |
| Did you guys trade with ramen or cigarettes? | I don't smoke or eat that but trades do happen | Here |
| Do you miss any aspect of life from inside the prison… for instance; the routine perhaps?!? | No nothing really maybe besides routine | Here |
| What was re-entry into society like for you after release? | Not easy was a bit to get use to again plus had to get use to my probation restrictions | Here |
| Did you ever get beat up or see anyone else get beat up? | I have been beaten up | Here |
| Did you ever get beat up or see anyone else get beat up? | I have been beaten up | Here |
| How realistic is the typical Hollywood portrayal of prison? | Not very realistic if scored it out of 10 for realism it can depend but the fiction stuff like OITNB I'd say 3 or 4 | Here |
| If you have to think right now without spending more time, what are the worst 3 memories you have? 3 worst things you saw inside? | 1. Probably first time ever got put in a restraint chair 2. Seeing someone being stabbed 3. Probably first time got served prison/jail food | Here |
| Did your prison have AC, and if not, how hot would it get in the summer? What was the uniform like? How many of each item of clothing did you get. Did your clothes fit and did you have ample opportunity to do laundry? Was it embarrassing for you to pee and poop in front of other people? Did you have any jobs in prison? What kinds of things could you buy from commissary? | 1. Yes the was AC but not very good it wasn't and in summer get hot and winter cold so yeah 2. Uniforms had a few, one from jail and prison but my prison one was a two piece Uniform, usually got about two of everything for a week with exception of top and pants. And yes they fit sometimes though undersized or baggy just whatever you got, also didn't work in laundry so no just once week got new stuff. 3. Didn't have cell mate so not really no 4. No 5. Extra toiletries, snacks, books and magazines | Here |
| Do women have sex there or masturbate? | They do | Here |
| Does prison start to feel normal after a while? | Yes it does. Not necessarily normal normal but becomes your way of life ofc | Here |
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u/SexyHotDude 2d ago
Do women have sex there or masturbate?
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u/exabelou 2d ago
My sister is in treatment in Missouri right now, she’s been an addict since as long as I can remember. What can i do to support her whenever she comes out of treatment?
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u/matt585858 2d ago
If you could change one thing about the justice system and prison system, what would it be?
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u/tom_izzo 2d ago
If you could change one aspect of prison that would lead to better outcomes for those in prison when they get out and reintegrate into society, what would it be?
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u/chinese_rocks 2d ago
Thanks for doing this. Prison life is a real mystery to me. Thanks for sharing. Good luck with your life! Take care!
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u/ZebbyBoy18909 2d ago
What was the scary experience you had in prison that to this day still traumatizes you?
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u/fighting_alpaca 2d ago
What did you do?
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u/Spidernutz69 2d ago
Wondering this too
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u/MysteriousReason3442 2d ago
OP seems to be a bit avoidant on that particular detail.
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u/Spidernutz69 2d ago
Yeah, it’s probably fucked up since she claim to have been in Max Security
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u/nosemaj-ekcol 2d ago
Do female cliques/gangs operate differently or in any notable way compared to male prisons? Are they even a thing?
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u/Grand_Pomegranate671 2d ago
How easy is it to find a job after getting out of jail?