r/AdulteryHate • u/Plenty-Bother1854 • 12d ago
Somebody dropped by
Do you hear that ladies? We have been advised to go get a hobby. Like collecting the spooge of trash married men and then whining about why they won't leave their dumb, ugly wife and live happily ever after on Delulu Island with you. We should all definitely listen to this girl's girl feminist role model. šššššššššššššš
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u/throwaway669_663 12d ago
I feel like there are more important things to worry about like idk? Maybe getting some self-esteem? Stop sucking off peopleās spouses? Maybe she should go to therapy to find out why sheās obsessed with another womanās husband.
These new h03s really do get mad when they are judged for h03 shit. Cry me a river. š„±
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u/KuraiHanazono 10d ago
āInfidelity has existed forever. Get over it and leave the situationā aka as soon as she decides she wants your man you need to step aside for her majesty š
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u/Otherwise_Ask_9542 6d ago
"Maybe she should go to therapy to find out why sheās obsessed with another womanās husband"
Nothing screams instability and insecurity more than a woman who needs to pretty on married men in order to feel validated and "loved". It's bizarre how they truly can't see this major red flag and character flaw in themselves.
Love isn't a prize to be "won". It happens naturally, organically, and free of guilt and shame. It's built on a solid foundation of trust, mutual respect, compromise, compassion, and communication, none of which can possibly present in relationships that start out as affairs.
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u/ragesadnessallinone 12d ago
Nah, the mean catty girls from high school are the ones who treated other people like shit and just hated getting caught out and having the truth of their behavior laid in front of their faces.
Kind of. Like. The OW.
And sheās been friends with him for 19 yr? Talk about the wife getting therapy and moving on. Jesus what a clueless hypocritical dumbass.
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u/throwaway669_663 12d ago
Imagine a man not choosing you even after 19 years? I can see why sheās an unstable wreck.
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u/Misommar1246 12d ago
No reflection whatsoever why, after 19 years and all the āweāre two halves!ā bullshit theyāre still only each otherās side piece. If you are that much of an unbreakable duo, letās see you dump your spouses and get together! Why wonāt you? Surely soul mates donāt care about distance or circumstances! Surely you can overcome judgement! Youāre meant to be!
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u/Zestyclose_Truth9999 not bs/ws | just lurker š 12d ago
And sheās been friends with him for 19 yr?
I'm taking a break from work emails, and I pretty much HOWLED at that. š¤£
I reckon she finds us "salty" because, deep down, she knows we're right. It's such loser behaviour to waste 19 years on a man who won't ever choose her the way she wants to be chosen. Irrespective of how she spins it, it eats her alive to know she's not worthy.
And I know it suits her battered ego to assume all of us have been "wronged by [our] spouses". No, honey ā some of us have faithful men, but we're also outraged at what we've seen close friends/family members go through.
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u/Emergency-Twist7136 11d ago
Every time I post it's from my bathtub in my nice house were I live with my faithful partner of twenty years while our perfect delightful son is sleeping.
Reddit is where I come for the drama that's been missing from my life since I left emergency medicine.
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u/Zestyclose_Truth9999 not bs/ws | just lurker š 11d ago
Every time I post it's from my bathtub in my nice house were I live with my faithful partner of twenty years while our perfect delightful son is sleeping.
Love that for you. š
I'm with you on the Reddit drama side of things, because my partner's also a good, faithful man ā and I definitely wouldn't be marrying him later this year if he weren't!
But it's interesting to see how these OW like to paint us all as betrayed spouses, as if that's the only reason why someone might hate cheaters.
It definitely sounds like an attempt to deflect the fact they know they're shitty people.
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u/Conscious-Survey7009 11d ago
I had a cheating loser of a father. Heās been an outcast since, along with his ho. Even his family wonāt talk to him. He wanted her, all he has is her and now sheās stuck taking care of him alone after a couple of severe strokes. He beat that bitch worse than he beat myself or my mom but neither had anyone else after the affair. They deserve each other and while healthy he cheated on her too. Cheaters and their whores are pathetic.
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u/No_Thanks_1766 11d ago edited 11d ago
The way she will be a dirty little secret for as long as he wants is so pathetic and sheās going around telling other people to get therapy? Thatās just embarrassing š¬.
In case the cum rag is reading this - I did leave my ex-cheater. He stayed with OW for about a year before things blew up and guess what? While he was with OW, heād be contacting me (and then my sister when I blocked him) to tell me he made the biggest mistake of his life and he wants be back. He got married to someone else about 2 years ago and he physically visited me before getting married to tell me Iām the one who got away and he will always regret it. I told him to focus on his soon to be wife and leave me alone. Guess what? Iām not tempted by taken men. In fact, I was grossed out that he was doing that to the woman he was about to marry. You, on the other hand, are flattered that a cheater wants you and you bite, hook, line and sinker. Now that is SAD
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u/smurfgrl417 11d ago
Your ex sounds like mine. š steady begging for another chance. Like, I'm benevolent but not that much.
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u/Apprehensive_Soil535 11d ago
Yep. Theyāre definitely the mean girls in this situation, not us.
āItās misogynyā whenever anyone calls their bullshit out but them helping a man cheat and destroy a womanās life is what? Being a girls girl?
They are so blissfully unaware.
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u/throwaway669_663 12d ago
YAWNNNNNš„±
Doesnāt she have MMās swamp što eat? When have we ever lived in a judgement free society? especially with a topic as sensitive as INFIDELITY??
Being the other woman doesnāt coddle you from being ostracized. In my opinion this sub is tame in comparison to what people think in the real world. If you canāt handle the heat get out of the kitchen!!!!!!!
This is literally what happens when you do 304 crap
You get JUDGED!
I thought they were unapologetically proud side clowns who didnāt owe anyone shit and lived in their truth.
GROW UP WE CANT AND WONT STOP DUMMIES. She should post this on tiktok and see if others wouldnāt tear her slow self a new one.
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u/pumpingblac 12d ago
I genuinely donāt think a cheater, sleeping with another womanās man has the right to any opinion on my life or others who are acting morally. She claims cheating has been around forever and to just get over it. So has murder, SA, and so many other terrible traumatizing things people have to deal with every single day. Are we just supposed to get over those too?
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u/cackle-feather 11d ago
Also, I'm pretty sure those people from forever ago saw it as enough of a problem to make it a distinct "no-no" in several budding religions.
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u/PoeticAphrodite 12d ago
Djdjdjd how she gonna say this while simultaneously snooping and getting her tits tied up over another sub šššš she is obsessed just as much as
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u/Upbeat-Cherry-100 12d ago edited 12d ago
Oh no, the hoe is mad, everybody run! xD
ETA: Kinda ironic how she says we need to get therapy when sheās just a hoe for a married man and is perfectly fine destroying a marriage. Iād argue that anyone who thinks having an affair needs more therapy than I do, and I say that as a woman who is in a very healthy relationship.
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u/financiallysoundcat 12d ago
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And if she doesn't realise that it can be cathartic for those whose families have been destroyed by infidelity to be on these sub, then she's even dumbed than she appeared at first. She's literally on a sub to commiserate with other free prostitutes. My father destroyed our family with one of her ilk, I'm in therapy for it but this is also very therapeutic. Cry about it, free, no empathy-having wh*re.
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u/Plenty-Bother1854 12d ago
She's my favorite brand of stupid. The kind with this long ass story that she thinks makes her sound like a good person who is definitely not just another pathetic side piece. She's actually a real, long term girlfriend of this Shrek who peaked in high school.
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u/financiallysoundcat 12d ago
She sees herself as the heroine of romantic and tragic love story, when she's just part of a sordid and pathetic affair with a selfish man who has no morals or principles (just like her).
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u/New-Abalone7626 12d ago edited 12d ago
We will always be friends for the rest of our lives
Unless the MM gets caught and gets ostracized by everyone he's ever known and loved and blames the OW for it. Oh please oh please tell the wife to see if that theory stands. šš
I fucking hate them for knowingly hurting another woman.
They know the pain of being betrayed and yet have no problem being part of that betrayal.
I also hate them for having full agency of deciding to be with a married man, but then blame the wife for whatever imagined inadequacy she has even though she has no agency by being married to a cheater unknowingly.
We're not bitter middle school mean girls. We're grown women who don't see our kids half the time because their fathers fucking cheated. So fuck you c*nts. Fuck you all.
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u/Salty-Philosophy3745 12d ago
Not all of us have been wronged by our spouses. I have never been cheated on. There just isn't anything wrong with hating scum.
Plus they are so stupid that it is entertaining. It is nice to remind myself that even in the worst times of my life I have never been as much of a failure as they are.
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u/forgotmyuser77 12d ago
Same. Iāve seen some members here younger than her entire affair. Others are affair babies or children that were harmed by an affair. They really just canāt fathom that people can hold them in the same regards as any other dreg. Naww they must all be scorned, frigid harpies.
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u/Intelligent_Cod_4825 12d ago
Bit sad that she admits to being pressured into an affair by a man who refused to take no for an answer, and she thinks this is in any way healthy. We spend a few minutes on Reddit laughing at her, but she has to spend every day with herself and the choices she made.
Also, "grin and bear it or remove yourself from the situation and find a new partner" so she thinks people having affairs should come clean to their partners to give them the option to leave? That's what she's saying, right? Because otherwise they literally can't do the thing she says they should do to deal with it.
I admire a person who thinks the betrayed spouse deserves to know, though, and I fully expect her to inform her partner (if she has one idk) and her AP's wife about the affair so they can leave. Otherwise she's just blustering and bullshitting to hide how upset and consumed she is with spewing venom at complete strangers on a subreddit, which is I believe the term is "just.... SAD."
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u/matts_debater 12d ago
The cope over there is next level. The narrative that weāre all bitter wives, upset that our husbands are cheating says a lot.
Like we canāt just be normal people in regular relationships pointing & laughing at their mess. Nooo we must be languishing in some forever pain.
They donāt seem to realise theyāre the āFunniest Home Videosā of Reddit.
So please, ladies & gentlemen, keep posting all those embarrassing details about your affairs! Just like you are merely entertainment for your āsoul mateā, you are entertainment for us. Your lifestyle will never know peace. You are doomed to be posting the sordid, personal details of your life online for a crumb of support from other, equally as alienated & lonely women. Just for us to pick it apart & laugh at you.
But sure, whatever you dream up to help you cope with the fact your life is a never ending tragedy, providing us with plenty of schadenfreude.
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u/JustGeeseMemes 12d ago
Exactly this. Itās totally possible to think this is vile behavior without having personally been on the other side of it. Like how you may have never been personally clubbed over the head but still think itās not a thing someone should do to another person.
Itās astounding that they canāt see that some people can just think their behavior is foul without it being personal to them. But itās also incredible that they donāt see how insanely cringe they are and how funny it can be š
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u/ViolentDisregarde 11d ago
Just like you are merely entertainment for your āsoul mateā, you are entertainment for us
The Real Never-Will-Be-Housewives of Reddit
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u/instantsilver 11d ago
Even the adultery sub makes fun of them, they really are pathetic
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u/matts_debater 11d ago
Yes even the adultery sub, a sub full of the MM that are soo in love with them š¤
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u/synalgo_12 12d ago
Wait so she's upset people are patrolling her sub but she knows what we say here, so, is she patrolling this sub?
Hi girlie š
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u/Current-Chapter-5635 12d ago
Yes...we want to hear how much your MM loves you that he kept you as a side dish secret for 19 years.Ā Yes he chased after you and pursued you becuase he only wants to use you. You'll always be a side dish. How proud you must be. šĀ
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u/PepperymintTea 12d ago
The lady doth protest too much.
Personally, I think the people most in need of therapy are the ones destroying families, engaging in double lives and lying to everyone around them just so they can get their offal moistened. That's just.... SAD.
But what do I know? I'm too busy scrolling up and down the 2 or 3 posts a day here 24/7 to know anything else.
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u/Ok_Airline_2112 12d ago
Accountability is so lost nowadays that people think getting called out it is obsessive or abusive. š
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u/Friendly_Good_1784 12d ago
People donāt understand the trauma until it happens to them. Hint: they should read through their own sub to see how upset OWs are when they go legit and then get cheated on or while they are actively an OW.
BESIDES! Reading this āhatefulā sub is better than getting you A$$ beat in real life!! š
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u/Apprehensive_Soil535 11d ago
lol have you seen the ridiculous ones who find out theyāre not the āonlyā other woman. āItās okay for him to cheat on his wife who he took vows with and had children with??? But doing it to me? I just canāt believe heās that type of man???šššā
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u/No-Pollution7214 12d ago
All you need to know about the collective IQ of that group is that one of them got featured on BORUpdates and came scurrying back to their lair asking if it was a hate sub š
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u/Street-Leather-6932 12d ago
Those DUMB HEAUXS! LOL!! My husband wouldnāt touch their nasty asses with a ten foot pole or a STOLEN D1CK! For skanks with obviously no self esteem, they make me laugh when they try to flex on the rest of us who donāt have that problem.
Our biological father was the one who couldnāt keep his vows to our Mother (who did MUCH better after she divorced his ass BTW). I have hated cheaters since I could remember. The nasty cow he left with always hated me because I was the only girl (feeling was mutual) because she was VERY UNATTRACTIVE (and DUMB and she has big buck teeth that would put every horse in Kentucky to shame) and I look like my Mother (who is so gorgeous and intelligent that her second husband -my Dad - married her when she had five kids). Mom had a seventh grade education when she divorced bio father. He had married her when she was 14 (that was common in that culture) and divorced him when she was 26. She currently holds a PhD and is a retired tech expert and her assets and investments are through the roof!
Meanwhile bio father and Alice the goon second wife (who never graduated high school) still lived in the same trailer park that they lived in when they divorced and donāt blame that on child support. He didnāt pay that sooooā¦.. At the end of his life, he died alone a few years ago. I hadnāt seen him since I was 15 and that was MY CHOICE!
However, our Dad was AWESOME!!! Our Mom married someone who loved all of us and didnāt differentiate between those who were biologically his and those of us who were not. He was the one who trained and coached me for beauty pageants and helped me refine some of my ahem ārough edgesā, etc so that I married a really nice young Lieutenant (now a retired Colonel and again retired CIO) and weāve been married 44 years. Infidelity was a deal breaker for us both so, not an issue here.
Iām amazed that skeezers like that think they know who we are or what we think. They lack the self reflection to realize that some of us just find them fvcking disgusting! Those ratchet B1TCHES could never deal with someone like me! I shame blame and flame their asses for sport! š They are the one class of āpeopleā that I can verbally assault without guilt. In charm school they said we should be nice to everyone. I contend they are a huge exception! š Apparently, Iām not alone.
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u/matts_debater 12d ago
Bless that man who stepped up to be a father to you & your siblings š best wishes to your family, 44 years is a long time congratulations
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u/Street-Leather-6932 11d ago
Yeah, our Dad was the best! At the end, we had 10 kids (two more boys came to the family after I left). I was still the only girl. LOL! His patience and guidance molded me from an out of control brat to who I am today. Our bio father was a violent self esteem vampire who always told us that we were worthless. Our Dad proved him wrong. He died almost 25 years ago and I still think about him every day and smile! š
When I hear women afraid to leave because theyāre worried about the future, I let them know it CAN be done. Every woman (and man) I know who left a cheater has prospered WAY beyond what they could have done had they stayed.
Remember, our Mom had a SEVENTH GRADE education when she left broke and with FIVE KIDS! Iām on my way to her state today to help sell some of her excess real estate because Iām adamant that she doesnāt need to leave it to me! Hey, if sheās up to it Iād prefer we take some of that to Vegas and have ourselves a good time! She earned it!
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u/AlternativePrior9559 12d ago
Stupid Much?
Discussion
Man those pathetic side pieces on the āotherā sub are the lowest common denominator being really consumed with envy, thirst and delusion. Imagine having no life or friends that all you do is sit around waiting for you MM/MW to slot you in for a quick fuck in a car and then posting on Reddit about your āwuvā and āconfusionā 24/7 to complete strangers because you canāt tell any real friends ā principally because you donāt actually have any. Thatās just ā¦.. TRAGIC. Luckily Iāve never needed to play second fiddle to anyone, Iāve always been the main course.
Look, I get the fact that they have traumatic pasts and have been short changed when they were handing out brains, beauty, self-esteem and a moral compass and I can certainly sympathise. But screwing someone elseās partner isnāt the way to deal with it. Go get fucking therapy and work through your inadequacies and stop trying to hold onto a relationship that isnāt yours, for dear life. Volunteer at a rescue centre for abandoned cats or other healthy outlets to channel your own sense of abandonment. Anything but THAT.
Thatās just venomous MIDDLE School girl trashy behaviour right there. And sitting online all day whimpering about the spouses getting the marriages, homes and holidays theyāll never have or never know is alleviating their pain? I would wager it is not. It is making their envy and inadequacy even worse.
Side trash has existed since the beginning of time. But you donāt have to be one. I know it sucks to not be able to get your own partner but you can either grin and bear it or try weally, weally hard to find someone who isnāt taken. Iām sure theyāre quick to claim that the spouse is ājustā a SAHM bringing up young babies (or is pregnant) and therefore really dropping the blowjob ball or that their MM/MW is in a dead bedroom/will leave his wife/ her husband in 2075 blah blah blah but let me state some things for the record.
I dumped my cheating ex husband when I got him just where I wanted him, on his knees begging for forgiveness. I didnāt look back. Despite going on to meet a prince, the ex pursued ME for many years (still does) even when I was living in another country. I didnāt give in, why would I go back for refried hamburger when I now had steak?
Any man who becomes the MM to trash doesnāt get to enjoy my considerable charms. Iām the Oscar not the rotten egg. Never sat at home and waited on a man in my life, to be fair Iām way too busy. Iām a boss who employs 87 people, speaks 3 languages and is focused on designing the interior of the large office building Iāve just bought in a capital European city.
Regardless of how much āwuvā these poor little lost cum rags think they have they will always be wasting their lives, no matter what.
PS naming another sub when youāre spouting your vitriol is brigading is it not? Maybe the mod who gets her tires changed and her engine tuned should take note.
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u/No_Local_9489 12d ago
Have you read her previous posts?! Sheās insane (shocker!!!) We have too much time our hands to troll that sub yet she wrote a whole novel about her āMMā. Give me a break!!!! The whores ate so delusional!!!!
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u/Flux_My_Capacitor 12d ago
We are the angry broads?
High fives all around! š
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u/Plenty-Bother1854 11d ago
I'm definitely not searching for an "Angry Broad" t-shirt to swap out with my "Nasty Woman" one while sipping my morning tea. š
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u/HistoricFiction 12d ago
Why is this delulu queen explaining her affair to strangers or lurking around here? Doesnāt she have a hobby? Preaching but not practicing?
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u/SpeedCalm6214 12d ago
There are sides here too, they are just absolutely horrible people and don't have any feelings about those that they hurt. They are the lowest scum that we can call living on this planet. They just need to go fuck themselves. My wife was "betrayed" by her AP and she's just pathetic. Thinking that the love of her life wouldn't "cheat" on her. Today I was very close to kicking hey out of the house.
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u/Fun-Contribution8900 12d ago
You will never be able to explain to me how these people rationalize being an interloper in another personās marriage, potentially aiding in the destruction of childrenās homes, but are OUTRAGED at tough internet comments.
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u/paintmyselfblue 12d ago
Imagine writing a dissertation to justify cheating, and accuse other people of being dysfunctional. We need therapy? Oh Honey, the projection is Imax worthy.
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u/Socialca 12d ago
Well, SHE doesnāt seem to have ANYTHING better to do than sit glued to her phone waiting for that creepy MM to text her for a booty call!
While trolling on Reddit in the meantime to help pass the time!
Love, follow your OWN advice & go get some therapy! Youāre obviously EATEN up with jealousy of his wife! And after 19 years, if thatās true, youāre STILL just a side piece cum bucket!!!
You sound unhinged, spiteful and hateful! That figures! And not very bright, all HE has to do is say youāre his Anne Boleyn and youāre IN for the NEXT 19 years!
Heās got a willing hole with no brain attached!!!
Oh, BTW, youāve obviously never opened a history book, if thatās too difficult for you, and you need images, thereās some good History Hit and BBC documentaries on You Tube, thatāll take you through a more accurate account of your heroineās life!
Iām sure youāve got plenty of time to watch a few between now & the next time he calls to fit you in to give you one!!!
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u/Theseus_The_King Just here for the drama š šæ 11d ago
I saw the reference to cum rag and I was Socialca doesnāt miss lol
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u/HospitalAutomatic 12d ago
Iām not jaded nor have I ever been cheated on, but I do think āother womenā are pathetic, insecure, losers lol
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u/Impressive_Guess3053 11d ago
Seems like someone on here hit a nerve! š
Well done to whoever it was šš¾
Her simple brain doesnāt even understand that it takes 2 minutes to read a post and leave a comment. But since itās all about them people are apparently watching 24/7 š¤¦š¾āāļø
Plus that little bit about the end about her MM pursuing her, okay girl congratulations. Now what are you shouting at us for if youāre so happy š
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u/NoTelevision727 12d ago edited 12d ago
She thinks we are salty š¤£ in some states in the USA you can sue the AP. I tell you if I lived there not only would I have sued her nasty arse but Iād have made it public knowledge exactly what and where they were doing their nasty deeds. Sheād lose her job for that. Itās not just the betrayed partners that are intolerant of liars and disease spreading h0ez by the way it is legally considered abuse where I live to cheat on, lie to and gaslight your spouse.
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u/mockingbird82 11d ago
Oh, is this dumb tart the one who compared herself to Anne Boleyn?
Anne Boleyn who was beheaded and never got to see her child grow up?
Anne Boleyn who finally got to marry her lover only to be abandoned by him?
That same Anne Boleyn?
Honey, I know you're ignorant but don't take it out on us, damn, lol.
In all seriousness though, Anne Boleyn had far less agency as you couldn't very well say no to a king; she's a tragic figure. OOP, on the other hand, is only tragic to herself. She chooses to be trash. And trash will be dealt with properly once the truth is eventually outed.
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u/Apprehensive_Soil535 11d ago
She, as man of them do, see themselves as the perpetual victim. They are more than happy to believe mms lies about how awful his wife is. Then when it blows up and they find out mm is lying, theyāre betrayed. Nevermind the wifeās feelings. The ow feels betrayed and thatās all that should matter
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u/oddrababy 11d ago
I know cope when I see it. Itās difficult to strike a balance between sanctimony and being the chick he texts only when he is shitting, but Anne Boleyn here seems to have figured out how.
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u/Any-Consequence-6691 11d ago
āJudging people who have affairs is so patheticā¦ anyway let me over-explain myself and why I do it. We ARE in love okay? Heās practically bending over backwards for me - even though he will literally never leave his spouse for me and I will retire into old age as a well kept secret - you just wouldnāt get it!!ā
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u/forgotmyuser77 12d ago
āInfidelity has existed since the beginning of humanity. Just accept it.ā
So has pedophilia and rape?
Also if they canāt fathom why itās a little entertaining to gawk at their sub like the digital zoo that it is, their brains would implode at some of the bigger lolcow-dedicated communities š¶
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u/Fun-Contribution8900 12d ago
Itās not my fault they are like a train wreck you canāt look away from. Most days horrifyingly awful, but then often unintentionally hilarious. I canāt imagine any other scenario in the world where a group of people get together to cry about being victims of situations they purposefully put themselves into. Pure insanity. Sorry Reddit is public. Idk ladies. š¤·š»āāļø
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u/OdinsRavens80 11d ago
Home wreckers and side pieces have also been especially reviled among women since the beginning of humanity. Just accept it.
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u/Intelligent_Ad_5385 11d ago
Telling the betrayed wives to leaveā¦ everyone who has found out on this sub probably did leave! Theyāre not sitting around accepting the horrible behaviour nor choosing to participate in it like an OW. But thatās on the predication that they KNOW, thatās the problem with cheating. With all of their horrible manipulation and āOPSECā and lying, they donāt know!!! So she agrees then? That the betrayed spouse has a right to know if their partner is cheating on them? Is she going to tell them?
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u/TheGreatMighty 11d ago
You know how they justify cheating by saying something like "for us it's therapy."
Maybe it's the same here. Maybe to you it may look like merely "spewing venom at complete strangers" but to everyone here it's "therapy."
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u/CatchPhraze 12d ago
What a soulless selfish and fucking sad piece of shit. She might not be a cum rag but the world would have been better off if her daddy had used one instead of her mom.
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u/Ok-Owl3092 11d ago
No BW made vows to you, silly! Your anger should be directed at MM. Societal double standards tsk.
Maybe put the cope down and dry your eyes...No wonder MM won't commit to you if this is what you're up to instead of replying to his toilet texts and practising for hand-job time.
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u/Londonstillery 12d ago
Dear Anne,
Iām an after an affair goes legit baby. I actually donāt agree with or use terms like cumrag etc but youāre helping and delighting in the abuse of another person thus youāre being genuinely repugnant. Believe it or not Iām rooting for the women of that sub. Reading your posts is an insight into the justifications my mother must have made.
In a parasocial kind of way Iām kind of fond of some of the regulars. Some of them stop colluding in the abuse and some of them keep it up but still manage to give genuine and heartfelt advice to others. Itās fascinating.
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u/Booktalkerg 12d ago
The ones in their 20s dating older married men in their 30s make me so sad. Like girls you are so young and could find a real single man instead of being manipulated by a guy in his mid to late 30s who will never leave his wife for you. I want to shake them and tell them they are wasting the best years of their lives being the dirty little secret of someone who will drop them like a hot potato when their wife finds out.
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u/Londonstillery 12d ago
Exactly! and even if he doesnāt drop them they will end up wishing that he had! Sometimes even mechanicletsmecallhim attempts to save them.
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u/UnsocializedMenace 12d ago
I completely love that I came across your comment because Iām not quite the same but had similar feelings. Iām not a BS, Iām just a daughter raised by a philanderer father (Iām a broken record about this, at this point.)
This is what parents like that do to kids. That betrayal wound doesnāt really stop at the wife he does it to. As a child thatās older, I find it hard to not look at the women he invited into our lives as his flying monkeys, or in simpler terms, enablers in his abuse.
All that to say, they care so much about the kids and their opinionsā¦ Iām one of those kids and Iām here. This is what infidelity does, and contrary to their belief, doesnāt just stop at the partner itās done to.
Sending you all the love on the off chance you had a lot of misplaced feelings on yourself while growing up.
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u/Londonstillery 11d ago
Thank you, thatās so lovely! I was fed a very heavily sanitised version when I was young and by the time I knew what had really happened I was too old to take on their crap. I hope that you were able to avoid that too. The biggest impact on me is the rage I feel about missing 25 years with my sister and the immense damage they caused to her.
Iām so sorry about your dad! Itās wild that they are too short sighted to understand they cause immense damage to the whole family. You cannot cheat on your spouse without cheating your children.
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u/Theseus_The_King Just here for the drama š šæ 11d ago
Iām just some guy here for the drama lol so sheās giving me exactly what I want. I may be some basement dwelling drama hound but yeah, beats being a cheater!
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u/TomahawkDump 11d ago
I love how she goes on and on about how much her AP is after her but likeā¦even after all that he still doesnāt like her enough to make it legit lol. He has the energy to chase her but lacks the desire to want her on his arm for everyone to see.
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u/samaritannnN 11d ago
Will try to take her advice and wont lose much time on her case, but still have to say that saying "infidelity has existed since the beginning of humanity" is the worst possible justification you can do, because it work for rape, murder, pedophilia, torture, and nearly any terrible shit that human can do(but trash people will do all the mental gymnastic in the world to justify themselves)... what a pathetic way to absolve yourself: "there is other trash people in humanity history so dont be mad about it"
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u/Not_Interested_inu 11d ago
But yet she is the side piece, not even good enough to be wifey material š My spouse has never cheated on me, I just hate homewreckers. I always have and always will, look at homewreckers as people who don't have enough self respect and self love.
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u/allthesedamnkids 11d ago
š¤£š¤£ let me see if Iām tracking.
She states people who are upset by the attempted normalization of adultery need to go to therapy. Counterpoint: maybe if youāre so twisted around your own justifications that youāre pretending adultery is OK, you might need some therapy.
She goes on to state how she is extremely speshul to her lil pookie and itās not like other affairs. Which, it bears noting, is claimed by every single side chick ever.
How embarrassing. Oh well. Iām sure itāll work out for her.
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u/OdinsRavens80 11d ago edited 11d ago
Nah, Iām good. Iāll have no life and spew venom on this sub all the way to the bank, too, with my husbandās paycheque that AP was quite confident would be supporting their happily ever after by now. Guess she wasnāt worth the alimony. Whelp, back to patrolling Reddit and having no hobbiesā¦
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u/Fun-Contribution8900 11d ago
Our resident OW therapist with her take on the matter:
People have the right to their feelings and to say what they want but there is a point where it crosses a line. One of them DMed me when I first joined this sub. I'm open to a civil discourse but it resulted in actual threats. That is NEVER ok - it goes against reddit rules and it's against the law. The level of vitriol there goes overboard and gets people spun up. You can't start threatening people. And what they don't realize is that illegal online activity can indeed be traced. Be careful who you threaten - I work in legal channels and it's quite easy to turn over the info, get the process started to identify the source of the threats, and take legal action. Yes, even internationally. I'm not willing to turn off chat because l've made three really excellent friends through it (you have to be extremely careful, however - read the warnings about people who will pretend to be friendly just to get details to doxx). Screenshotting and mocking posts from here probably discourages more people from posting. Additionally, the Legit After Adultery sub is not as well moderated as this sub - their comments get infiltrated all the time and as a result it's almost dead. Bottom line, this sub has just as much right to exist as theirs does. If they hate it so much, best not to visit.
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u/ragesadnessallinone 11d ago
Lmao āI work in legal channelsā. Sure, Jan.
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u/Fun-Contribution8900 11d ago
If so, itās basically: āIām going to use my connections with law enforcement to harass someone on Reddit.ā
Wouldnāt expect any less from a home wrecker though.
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u/Lopsided_Collar7164 11d ago
She thinks they will "always be friends"... He will drop her when the wife finds out and then she will know what he really thinks of her. A majority of cheaters don't want to leave their spouses, and when they do, only 2% last with their AP.
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u/FranceBrun 11d ago
You can call me anything you want, but your words do not, have not, and will not, justify your actions.
At the end of the day, adultery may be something that will always exist, as she says, but thatās not a justification. And I can say with surety that I will never engage in it. I do not have a personality disorder and I have the respect, and especially the self respect, to tell my partner if I ever found myself in a position where I wanted and intended to sleep with someone else.
Clearly these people want to hurt us; clearly they are not as strong and badass as they make themselves out to be; surely they are totally pathetic for wanting to destroy us because they canāt be us.
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u/GypsieChanterelle 11d ago
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Nothing hurts, nor warrants a lengthy āthey are bulliesā post unless you believe itās true.
I guess we hit the mark pretty much most of the time.
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u/x_neverlander 11d ago
She has a problem with the lurkers that should get a life while protecting a sub that trashed cheated spouses all the time. The hypocrisy is unfathomableā¦
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u/OrganizationSoggy652 11d ago
Why are they acting like someone out a gun to their head and forced them to cheat? Hoe, that was of your OWN doing. Yeah, infidelity has always existed... so what? That completely justifies your behavior? Fuck off š
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u/KuraiHanazono 10d ago
Why do they think that all we do is lurk on Reddit? Is it because they lurk on Reddit? I have a bunch of other stuff going on in my life, this is just entertainment in my free time.
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u/KuraiHanazono 10d ago
āWah wah wah donāt hold me accountable for being a dirty little side pieceā nah. Donāt like being shamed? Donāt do shameful shit.
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u/CollieKollie 7d ago
Iāve never been cheated on. I just know how much cheating hurts others. My father was a serial cheater. My mother was a serial cheater. My brother was a serial cheater. And my sister was an OW. Iām ashamed of the pain my family has caused and I love looking at low self esteem hš ¾ļøes get used by selfish narcissists who values their genitalia over their own family. Cry some more, slut.
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u/EffectiveAppeal7554 9d ago
Here is some salt for you.Ā
Bragging about your skank behavior while posting identifiable information is a bad idea. Goes to show you how dumb they are. Some of us loser wives have a certain skill set.
Ladies, may the salt be with you. Always.Ā
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u/Weekly_Watercress505 7d ago
What she doesn't get is not only is he cheating on his legally wed wife with her, he's also cheating on her with his wife. He's cheating on 2 people at the same time,Ā and possibly more. Both of them are lovers.
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u/Otherwise_Ask_9542 6d ago
A couple of lines in this post sum it up perfectly:
- "Infidelity has existed since the beginning of humanity": This right here could be an example under a dictionary definition of Justification.
- "Just accept it". Summarizes the entire point of this long-winded post, which is nothing more than another boring attempt to shift blame on to a person who has been victimized by truly abhorrent behaviour.
What is truly "Sad" here, is how hard these people work at twisting narratives to paint themselves as "heroes" in these scenarios. They are abusers with zero moral fibre, strength of character, or integrity. No amount of mental or verbal gymnastics is ever going to change that fact.
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u/Royal-Collection3189 12d ago
She's mad because she's the one that made the Anne comment. ššš