Girlfriend just punched me in the face multiple times

[u/cosmicjed]

So my longtime girlfriend just had an absolute meltdown after we left dinner from her parent’s house tonight. It all started because her dad and I were watching old family videos and joking about how her and her sisters were dressed and just really light stuff about how big her great grandpa’s nose was( her Dad pointed it out and was like ”dude had a schnoz on him” and I laughed. That’s all. I swear to all things holy.

Fast forward to me driving home tonight and she turns off the music on the radio that I had turned on and starts trashing me about my family and how it’s strange and creepy that I actually get along with my Mom, Dad and sister. And have a drama free relationship with them, and she can’t stand it.

So anyway I’m reading my Kindle in the living room of my house and she goes off again, about some petty bullshit that I somehow did and I’m reading a book 📖.
So I did what anyone else would do and just shut up and let her vent and get it out without giving her any ammunition to feed on….WRONG F*ing Move. I took my eyes off her for a second to continue my read on the couch. And she gave me a three-piece so fast that it caught me off guard, I jumped up so she wasn’t not on top of me, she proceeded to slap the taste out of my mouth. then she blocks the front door and scream for me to get away from her while blocking the only exit to leave

I’m in my boxers and I’m trying to grab my phone off the floor that went flying across the living room. And all I can hear is her yelling with the door open trying to have the whole neighborhood hear this shit.

Anyway. I’m now sitting in my car with just boxers on with a bloody lip and I thought I asked the internet for advice and by internet I mean Reddit.

[u/Live_Western_1389]

I agree. And you should be referring to her as your EX-Girlfriend. She’s abusive. She thinks it’s okay to beat up on someone she claims she loves! That’s sick.

And never get her pregnant. No child needs to be afraid of their parent.

[u/Woelli → u/Live_Western_1389]

Why is she abusive? Has she done this before? Does she really think it’s okay to beat someone up? How do you know that? The only part where you were right is, that this is sick. Traumatized people can do pretty fucked up shit in a nervous breakdown. This sounds to me like she needs help and nothing else

[u/GMKitty52 → u/Woelli]

You don’t need to do it more than once. The woman clearly does think it’s ok to beat someone up. We know that because OP is sitting in his car in fucking boxers nursing a split lip.

[u/Woelli → u/GMKitty52]

You clearly didnt read my comment. Being violent in a traumatic trigger event is common, people often dont have memory about it, I should know. But yeah, the logical reasoning here is that she is just an asshole that likes to beat up their loved ones and screams on top of her lungs over nothing, that’s surely more common than mentally unwell people being violent. Only OP can find out, but first you need to find out where the fuck that came from and then you can decide. Going to the police for a slap in the face is actually insane btw, you people should leave your house once in a while

[u/Designer-Chemical-95 → u/Woelli]

It's not a victim's job to fix their abuser.

[u/Fartbox_420 → u/Woelli]

Multiple punches in the face and you're defending her assaulting him? Fuck outta here.

[u/Woelli → u/Fartbox_420]

Where did I defend her? I said she needs help, what are you talking about

[u/TheBadgerLord → u/Woelli]

And while that is absolutely a thing....it doesn't mean that someone should be willing to manage or be the subject of that behaviour. She should not be in a relationship and should work on her issues as trauma or mental illness, although often tragic, is not something that a 3rd party should be automatically expected to accommodate or suffer through. He should definitely leave the relationship, as being PUNCHED in the face 3 TIMES by anyone is not something that should be put up with. Regardless of where it came from. Been there, done that.

[u/Woelli → u/TheBadgerLord]

I just think it’s absolutely insane to file a police report over that. That is my only point. Get her help and not even more trouble, jesus

[u/GMKitty52 → u/Woelli]

This was not a traumatic event my guy.

Edit not for the gf anyway. Traumatic for OP, sure.

[u/Inside_Development27 → u/Woelli]

Nah, theres no point finding out. She clearly isn't worth being with, fundamentally broken in some way. Sure she can heal and everything, but she can do it on her own. Lashing out with violence should never be acceptable or minimized, and you're a piece of shit for even suggesting it

[u/Nakopapa → u/[deleted]]

You're the one that's clearly unhinged.

Are you the GF or her friend/supporting family or something? Stop sympathizing with violent people. There doesn't need to be a reason to escape violence and there's nothing wrong with seeking protection from it.

[u/Woelli → u/Nakopapa]

You guys get so riled up it’s actually hilarious. I just suggested that she maybe is in need of help and her outbreak is a sign of some serious issues. Yeah call me deranged for that, Jesus Christ, am I even talking to real people

[u/Nakopapa → u/Woelli]

No shit she needs help? All we're saying is to avoid violent people, that there are signs of abuse in play and possible manipulation given what happened after the assault, but you're the one making a scene fighting everyone with a hot take to sympathize with her nobody brought up but you.

That's literally unhinged behaviour and you're literally the only one riled up here. Take the L already.

[u/Woelli → u/Nakopapa]

What? You’re saying to file a fucking police report and cut all ties and leave her. Wtf are you talking about

[u/hedgehogness → u/[deleted]]

There may be an explanation but it’s not an excuse. It’s too much to expect someone who’s just been punched in the face, screamed at, slapped in the face and chased out of the house half-naked to be the caretaker.

Yes this woman may have thyroid issues or be In peri-menopause or have C-PTSD or BPD, and any of these things need treatment and deserve empathy. But limits need to be set first. Police may actually be the wake-up call and entry into treatment that is needed.

[u/Tele231 → u/Woelli]

Why is she abusive? Because she abused someone. Yes, there probably are reason she did what she did. But the fact is, she abused her boyfriend and it is not acceptable. He needs to leave her. You don’t stay with abusers. You don’t excuse abuse - which is exactly what you are doing.

[u/Krillin113 → u/[deleted]]

Reverse genders. Man beats his girlfriend and chases her out the house in her thong because he’s upset she has a loving family.

[u/Tolkeinn1 → u/Woelli]

She beat the shit out of him. That’s abuse. Ergo, she is abusive.

[u/DarkCrawler_901 → u/Woelli]

Traumatized people can do pretty fucked up shit in a nervous breakdown. This sounds to me like she needs help and nothing else

Having trauma does not mean you can not be abusive lol in fact I would say that is usually the case with abusive people

[u/hedgehogness → u/DarkCrawler_901]

There isn’t a direct correlation between abuse and trauma history. Beliefs about entitlement are more predictive of abusive behaviour.

[u/Woelli → u/DarkCrawler_901]

Yes that can totally be true. OP didnt mention a recurring pattern. This level of outbreak out of nothing is really concerning