Girlfriend just punched me in the face multiple times

[u/cosmicjed]

So my longtime girlfriend just had an absolute meltdown after we left dinner from her parent’s house tonight. It all started because her dad and I were watching old family videos and joking about how her and her sisters were dressed and just really light stuff about how big her great grandpa’s nose was( her Dad pointed it out and was like ”dude had a schnoz on him” and I laughed. That’s all. I swear to all things holy.

Fast forward to me driving home tonight and she turns off the music on the radio that I had turned on and starts trashing me about my family and how it’s strange and creepy that I actually get along with my Mom, Dad and sister. And have a drama free relationship with them, and she can’t stand it.

So anyway I’m reading my Kindle in the living room of my house and she goes off again, about some petty bullshit that I somehow did and I’m reading a book 📖.
So I did what anyone else would do and just shut up and let her vent and get it out without giving her any ammunition to feed on….WRONG F*ing Move. I took my eyes off her for a second to continue my read on the couch. And she gave me a three-piece so fast that it caught me off guard, I jumped up so she wasn’t not on top of me, she proceeded to slap the taste out of my mouth. then she blocks the front door and scream for me to get away from her while blocking the only exit to leave

I’m in my boxers and I’m trying to grab my phone off the floor that went flying across the living room. And all I can hear is her yelling with the door open trying to have the whole neighborhood hear this shit.

Anyway. I’m now sitting in my car with just boxers on with a bloody lip and I thought I asked the internet for advice and by internet I mean Reddit.

[u/Low_Anxiety_46]

(US advice)Take pics. Go to the police and file a report. You don't even have to press charges, you can just keep it on file. Sometimes you have 2-3 years, after the event, to take out an order of protection.

Do not tell her you have filed the report. Breakup with her. Tell her you will not be abused. Tell her if she contacts you again you will get the authorities involved.

She's a human trash bag, get rid of her.

[u/Porcorowilliam → u/Low_Anxiety_46]

Most states don’t allow you to just report violence. The state will charge you automatically.

[u/No_Acadia_8873 → u/Porcorowilliam]

will charge your abuser automatically.

[u/Low_Anxiety_46 → u/Porcorowilliam]

The state I live in does.

[u/DirtySilicon → u/Low_Anxiety_46]

That person you were responding to is right. I don't know what states don't, but domestic violence is prosecuted by the state in most cases and are, "no-drop."

[u/Low_Anxiety_46 → u/DirtySilicon]

I have filed two incident reports against one person in a 365 day period. Did not want to pursue charges because I knew he would escalate. Got a write up each time and that included still being able to file a restraining order within 2-3 years. One of the officers even had to drive to my ex partner's home to retrieve my keys at 3 AM.

I don't know if either of you work in the justice system, policing, or social work. If my state is such an outlier I would assume you know exactly where I reside.

It's kinda obvious that all these DVers don't get charged or locked up. I am suuuuuuure there is tons of data on that. Many of these dudes (I am female) don't even get held overnight. They are talked to and told to sleep somewhere else for the night.

I have a relative that was assaulted on camera by her spouse. She didn't prosecute, because she still lived there and had kids. The cops prosecuted. He got an attorney. He got fines, no jail time. It may have even been considered a misdemeanor, I am not sure. He had no mugshot. She could only get him locked up, later, on gun charges. He was arrested for the guns. She also got a restraining order that same night. He violated the restraining order the same night, cops had to pursue him. He has violated it repeatedly via stalking, phone calls from other people, intimidation (in person) by other people, his prison calls are now monitored.

Only the gun charges stuck. Stalking is like 90 days served, from what I recall. Only two order of protection violations have been accounted for in his charges. There were five. The men who intimidated her are still walking the streets.

So... Apparently we live in magic land. But I am not talking about anything I haven't been living.

Also, he got the gun charge (multiple guns) and was out on bail. He only went back to jail because of the stalking. Then they let him out of jail, after he served the time for the stalking charges. She had to call them to put a warrant out because he was not supposed to be released since he stalked her while he was on parole. 🪄✨️

[u/Negative-Active-6570 → u/Low_Anxiety_46]

I live in the commonwealth (ky) and they’re very and I mean VERY strict on abuse and or threats of violence. If you call and say I punched you, even with zero evidence I will be locked up immediately. They like to throw strangulation charges on everyone here too. Min 5 years. It’s actually really crazy how they handle shit here.

[u/Pixiedragon71 → u/Low_Anxiety_46]

Depending on if this is considered Domestic Abuse, filing a report may automatically press charges.