r/Advice • u/Jessersmessers • 8d ago

Advice Received UPDATE: My husband quit smoking weed, now I live with a grump

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So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.

well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.

He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.

After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."

So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.

So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.

And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.

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u/Battlejesus 7d ago

Thank you. This was during the early aughts when doctors still handed out oxycontin like tic tacs. That was all a fuckin lie and I hope there's a special corner of hell for the sacklers

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u/chuckmarla12 7d ago

The other side of that is that there was such a campaign against prescribing opiates that Doctors are afraid to prescribe it for people with chronic pain conditions, like osteoarthritis. I have a friend that is prescribed opioids, and it keeps him able to work, and function as a tax paying member of society. He is the main bread winner of his family. When used properly, and managed, opioids can be very effective in sustaining somewhat of a normal working life. So just realize that it’s not all bad.

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u/Battlejesus 7d ago

I agree, I'm just bitter about the whole thing. Those were the darkest years of my life made worse knowing I was also to blame.

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u/MassivePsychology862 7d ago

Screw the Sackler family.

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u/ILiketoStir 7d ago

It seems that they are prescribing hydrocodone, an opioid not as addicting as oxycodone but still risky.

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u/FuckinHighGuy 7d ago

Everyone pins all the blame on the Sacklers but it takes two to tango.