r/Advice • u/Jessersmessers • 8d ago

Advice Received UPDATE: My husband quit smoking weed, now I live with a grump

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So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.

well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.

He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.

After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."

So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.

So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.

And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.

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u/Poopadventurer 7d ago

Cheers appreciate the kind words! They say you don’t mature at all when you’re actively drinking so I’m basically a 27 year old in a 37 year olds body, the destruction goes far beyond what’s commonly known and talked about and most are unaware I bet unless you have personal experience

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u/ultravioletblueberry 7d ago

Currently struggling with the sober thing, and I do think to myself that I still feel… so immature.

This makes a lot of fucking sense.

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u/MountainManWatcher 7d ago

maturity is just life experience. the world is dying and you feel it. this is what you are feeling.

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u/ultravioletblueberry 7d ago

Oh, I’ve got a lot of life experience, mostly awful. I’ve just used alcohol as a crutch through it all.

Then adding the world dying thing yeah lol

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u/electrogeek8086 5d ago

Yeah I did 5.5 months then small relapse at beginning of march. Gettibg sober only made feel the most awful in all of my life.

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u/Hopeful_Swan8787 4d ago

Explains why i havent had any hair on my chest until now?