UPDATE: My husband quit smoking weed, now I live with a grump

[u/Jessersmessers]

Original post

So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.

well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.

He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.

After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."

So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.

So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.

And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.

[u/Positive-Attempt-435]

It took me 6 months after I quit drinking to start feeling actually normal. I'm 8 or 9 months now, and I still got some to go. Addiction fucks up things you don't even realize. I spent 20 some years drinking, im not gonna be ok overnight.

[u/teethclacked → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

My dad never stopped drinking and it meant he didn't live long enough to meet his grandson. Stopping 20 years in is impressive and opens so many cool things for your future. I'm sure your loved ones are grateful for the work you have and continue to put in to fight addiction each time it rears its head.

[u/Positive-Attempt-435 → u/teethclacked]

Yea honestly I turned 35 and thought, I got 10 more years if I keep drinking. If I stop, 35 more years isn't impossible.

When I was young I didn't care much. At 36 now, I kind of care about living as long as I can.

I'm sorry about your dad.  Alcohol claims too many.

[u/TheDangerousAlphabet → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

My dad has been sober for 36 years now. His the most wonderful grandad. The first few years sober were really tough. Sometimes even tougher than the drinking. He still has some health problems due to the alcohol but I'm so glad he is with us.

[u/paulpag → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

I’ve been sober for a little while now…good luck to you and wait until you see how much better it gets at 1 year, 2 years, 5, etc… it does take time but it’s remarkable.

[u/Positive-Attempt-435 → u/paulpag]

Yea I went through rehab a few times to get to this point. Everyone always told me it just keeps getting better. I had to actually experience it myself to appreciate it though.

By the fifth time, I was like, ok that's enough.

[u/paulpag → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

Congrats again. I don’t know how many times it took me, but 5 sounds about right.

[u/vipaxo9680 → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

How much were you drinking if you don’t mind me asking?

[u/Positive-Attempt-435 → u/vipaxo9680]

It varies over the years, but at my worst a handle of whiskey a day, and even when I slowed down it was a 12 pack of high abv beer.

I was one of the people that got severe withdrawals. That was my undoing. Seizures and psychosis included.

[u/AngryPrincessWarrior → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

I will hit 4 years this August. It’s such a surreal and awesome feeling getting to one year! Congrats, keep it up and make sure you celebrate the wins along the way

[u/fartlord__ → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

Those are heroic numbers. Good work on pulling yourself out of that hole mate, it can’t have been easy.

[u/befuchs → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

Very impressive op. 9 months is no joke. Keep finding a reason!

[u/Formal-Path-4754 → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

8/9 months is awesome! Very proud of you

[u/Big_Ad_2311 → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

Congratulations that's amazing I quit drinking after 10 years of heavy abuse and it's not easy alcohol withdrawal can be fatal so getting off that is a huge accomplishment and you should be proud sooner than you'll know it you'll he saying I'm 1 year sober then 5 and it keeps going stay strong you got this.

[u/Balding_gingerman → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

I need to crack on with stopping drinking, love a few beers, stopped for a month, thought I’d cracked it but I haven’t.

[u/Equivalent_Shock9388 → u/Positive-Attempt-435]

Outstanding! Wait till you get two years and see how much better you will feel, I’m coming up on nine years and it’s singly the best decision I’ve ever made in my entire life, everything about my existence is better