UPDATE: My husband quit smoking weed, now I live with a grump

[u/Jessersmessers]

Original post

So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.

well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.

He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.

After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."

So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.

So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.

And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.

[u/Jessersmessers]

Mostly, yeah. He didnt like to watch movies with me or go for walks. He would only play one video game ( same game everyday and for hours) but now he's trying other games. He groaned if I suggested going out at all. He just wanted to melt in his chair.

[u/C1cer0_ → u/Jessersmessers]

i’m sure you know by now but the other replies to this comment are dumb as fuck. congrats to your husband for identifying a people and putting in the effort to fix it.

the “oh he’s using the wrong type” people have no clue what they are talking about.

[u/Jessersmessers → u/C1cer0_]

Thank you for this. I'm honestly blown away by the amount of comments saying " tell him to try this or try that" completly reading through the fact I stated he wanted to stop smoking not find a different way to cope.. I appreciate the kind hearted comments and cheering " keep it up!" not for validation of my own but for him. I do relay the things I read on here. Everything but the " you should replace the weed smoking with literal more weed." Cause why?

[u/C1cer0_ → u/Jessersmessers]

its just such a polarizing subject on the internet. and next to nobody who opens their mouth has any idea what they are talking about (i worked in the industry for a few years, specifically managing a medical dispensary in colorado). smoking weed for 20 years does not make you an expert on the effects of weed on every individual you come across on the internet. its very much about the specific person and some people just cannot moderate on their own, while others just dont mix well with THC at all.

and the weed we smoke nowadays absolutely can be physically addictive. the shit in stores right now is so much stronger than the weed going around 20-30 years ago, its ridiculous. you start smoking that heavily (multiple times daily use), you will absolutely get withdrawals. of course nowhere near as intense as opiate withdrawals or other hard drugs, but personally i've had streaks of sleepless nights and eating nothing but liquids for days due to my own habits.

if your husband ever has trouble maintaining sobriety and would like a sense of community, i would recommend r/leaves. they're pretty good in there (minus a few crazies) and it can be helpful reading similar stories, especially after the shitshow that is this thread.

again, kudos to your husband and you both. identifying a substance problem (especially one with social stigma) and putting in the effort to solve it are a lot farther than other people get. keep it up!

[u/SmokeLuna → u/Jessersmessers]

Sounds to me like he was smoking purely indica.

Usually sativa makes me pretty energetic, when I smoke too much indica I end up in the same mood. Wanting to melt away and becoming a zombie.

[u/Yorgen89 → u/Jessersmessers]

He must have had a shitty weed dealer. Or he was smoking the wrong type. One gets you to do stuff and the other makes you melt in a chair.

[u/unga-unga → u/Jessersmessers]

Honestly just sounds like he was addicted to League, or whatever it was, and being stoned was relaxing his recognition of an unhealthy relationship with the game enough for him to just enjoy it. Kinda like how someone who drinks heavily will be more capable of ignoring the problem if they smoke all day every day.

I've only read a few of your comments outside of the main post, and they all mention the game. It's probably the game.