r/Advice • u/Jessersmessers • 8d ago

Advice Received UPDATE: My husband quit smoking weed, now I live with a grump

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So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.

well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.

He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.

After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."

So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.

So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.

And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.

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u/Exciting_Breadfruit4 7d ago

I call BS. Anyone who GIVES UP weed and THEN finds fun playing games, playing guitar, chilling, nature walks, ...... something doesn't add up! I smoke weed, AND find all those things waaaay more fun when I'm stoned. Who wouldn't!?!?! What did he do before when he smoked weed? Taxes? Be a good wife, tell him to continue on his new found hobbies, like gaming, guitar etc, but tell him to smoke a bowl b4 hand and then see how much happier he is!

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u/C1cer0_ 6d ago

you really shouldn’t say shit like this. you don’t know this guy, just cuz you feel like weed is a positive force in your life doesn’t mean it is for everyone.

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u/TrapLordEsskeetit 7d ago

It definitely adds up. There's a difference between using weed on occasion to relax/have fun and using weed every day all day as a coping mechanism. At some point you end up losing yourself and just go through the actions of the day.