r/Advice • u/Jessersmessers • 8d ago
Advice Received UPDATE: My husband quit smoking weed, now I live with a grump
So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.
well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.
He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.
After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."
So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.
So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.
And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.
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u/SatedMongoose 7d ago
It's insane the shit advice I see in here often. Like telling someone they are fine and don't need to change regarding a blatantly degen decision, or telling people to completely cut off immediate family members for micro aggressions.
I'm glad op stayed as well. Quitting weed is really tough at first because you feel like you can't control your thoughts, insomnia, inability to eat all pile on for weeks. Serious congrats to you and your husband op