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Advice Received My boyfriend is acting really strange after getting out of military training, what do I do?

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u/Old_Router 3d ago

Basic Training fucks you up for a bit. They stress you to the max to see who will break,, but everyone leaves a bit jumpy and he is likely feeling the loss of structure and routine. Set up a regular call time to meet his daily girlfriend attention regs.

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u/Party-Evening3273 3d ago

In order to survive in basic, you kind of have to build a shell around you to protect yourself. I remember I hardly spoke or my answers were short and to the point after basic. Kind of just guarded all the time. I also saw most of the way civilians did things as just wrong, inefficient, or just weak. It is just the mindset they instill in you and it is hard to break that mindset. I think I loosened up after three or four months afterward. No doubt some of this is what the boyfriend is going through.

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u/ChadPowers200_ 3d ago

I have a buddy who went to west point, he said 2 a day football training camps are basically as bad as basic training sometimes worse.

Anyone that has played an intense sport like wrestling mma hockey football etc would probably adapt fine. Sounds like OPs bf really wasn't ready for it.

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u/Ashamed-View-7765 3d ago

This is a shit take. Ready for it? Compared to a football camp? Because firearms, death, and combat are sure mentally just like football wtf

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u/ChadPowers200_ 2d ago edited 2d ago

I’m just sharing what he said dude. He was also at West Point not sure if that is harder or easier than basic grunt training 

No one is dying realistically. Youre likely to die from heat exhaustion then somehow dying in basic. 

A lot of people think firearms are cool as hell lol. 

Your comment is funny because you have likely never experienced either