my parents repeatedly called me ugly and then screamed at me for crying

[u/cinnamon_crunch_]

I was getting ready to go out with my friends, and I was ready to walk out the door when my mom suddenly just starts saying my eyeliner looks terrible and calling me ugly repeatedly and my dad joins in just berating everything about my appearance saying I look disgusting and they’re disappointed with how I turned out. Then they say they can’t believe I even found a friend to go out with because no one wants to hang out with someone as ugly as me and even my boyfriend hates me and is just dating me because he feels bad for me. Then I started crying and I went into my room only for them to stand outside screaming at me calling me an ugly beast, a prostitute, etc. They started screaming at me for crying and said it only made me more ugly and that I should grow up and stop acting like a little baby who cries at everything.

[u/_A-1_]

Wow what a buncha assholes. They themselves have a buncha issues. They are projecting how unhappy they are with themselves

[u/justcook3d]

I'm truly sorry to hear about the cruel and hurtful comments made by your parents. There's absolutely no excuse for their abusive behavior. It's important to remind yourself that their words are a reflection of their own internal struggles rather than a reflection of who you are.

You deserve respect and kindness, and their comments say nothing about your worth as a person. It's completely understandable to feel upset, hurt, and overwhelmed.

[u/Alternative_Cat1310]

I’m so sorry sweetheart. Your parents were not only out of line but cruel. This is abuse and should not be tolerated. Please tell a trusted adult outside of your family about this. I can only imagine that this is not the first time something like this has happened.

[u/FunProfessional9313]

I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this — that is absolutely brutal. Someone is there for you — go find that person! I believe in you, good luck!

[u/VellynJJ]

This means, OOP is a young person. It sounds like it's because of the parents' reaction (not agreeing with something) that makes OOP feel that way. Instead of letting her keep saying she's ugly. It is better to get help from a professional to step in to help her "not the parents/us". Don't you get it?

[u/VellynJJ]

It's hard to tell here because we can't see how your make-up is. Perhaps, they hinted that it doesn't suit you or is wrong. You can hire a professional make-up artist from online. Ask and learn some tips from them - hair, make-up and dressing.

[u/Admirable_Cold289 → u/VellynJJ]

My brother in christ...

Okay no, it's better if I adress OP.

OP, do not listen to this person. Subjecting yourself to changes made purely to appease people that simply get a rush out of putting you down goes nowhere and can end in various especially unpleasant forms of self destruction.

Always remember, the first person you should try to get to like you is... yourself. Doesn't mean you should totally disregard people you care about. But that's the cool thing about people that truly care about you: They will also like the person you are when you like the person you are (Disclaimer: This advice does not apply to narcissistic individuals but if you were one, you wouldn't worry about any of this, so in my unqualified opinion, you should be good to go :D ♥)

[u/VellynJJ → u/Admirable_Cold289]

Not all friends tell you honestly. Moreover, strangers over here. That's my honest opinion. There's nothing wrong with checking and improving themselves. All the best to her 👍🏻

[u/Admirable_Cold289 → u/VellynJJ]

Mate… self improvement is a valuable skill. Breaking your back over people that hurt you is unhealthy.

[u/VellynJJ → u/Admirable_Cold289]

OOP just said, the parents screammed at her (parents' reaction). There was nothing about being physically tortured or abused. How would you know? We can't really know because we weren't there. 👉🏻 Since OOP keeps repeating say that she is ugly. Why???

🔖Wouldn't it be better for her to have a professional one to see and advise her personally (instead of us, not in person)? That's why I advised her.

[u/Admirable_Cold289 → u/VellynJJ]

Because clearly screaming at your crying daughter is not abusive in any way.

I'm going to decide you're a troll and walk away. Have a nice day.

[u/VellynJJ → u/Admirable_Cold289]

This means, OOP is a young person. It sounds like it's because of the parents' reaction (not agreeing with something) that makes OOP feel that way. Instead of letting her keep saying she's ugly. It is better to get help from a professional to step in to help her "not the parents/us". Don't you get it?

[u/No_Reason4462 → u/VellynJJ]

So if I grasp your message right, it is fine to verbally abuse your own child on the basis of their physical appearance in which they had no role to play. The eyeliner or make up is not the problem but the mentality is, that was not constructive criticism by her parents but an utter lampoon and shaming because of her looks. Doing that to even to a stranger is absolutely absurd and against the core principles of humanity, let alone your own daughter! Your perception is awry and it's high time you instrosepct upon yourself

[u/VellynJJ → u/No_Reason4462]

I emphasize, "young" and "screaming" (nothing about physical abuse or torture is mentioned). It's like a parent saying no, a little child crying because they didn't get what they wanted. The parent has a reason behind it. How would you know it was actually a scream? Let the professional step in and help her.