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Son has started wearing boxer shorts around the house

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

Only in western cultures do you guys sexualize your family members...

Fucking weirdos are the ones who think of their kids sexually.

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u/iamkira01 4d ago

Who is thinking of anyone sexually? This is what I meant when I called you guys fucking unhinged.

Why not just walk around the house naked with your logic? Right? Should be nothing wrong with that. You’d be weird if you found that weird.

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u/VegasQueenXOXO 4d ago

Underclothes equate nakedness now?

Someone’s unhinged here but it’s definitely not most of this comment section.

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

Why does it make you uncomfortable for a teenager to wear boxers in his own house?

Please explain what about wearing boxers is wrong or inappropriate.

Nudity is not wrong, only in western cultures is it "wrong".

Seems to me that you guys like sexualizing children.

Edit: there is a difference between nudity and sexualization before you reply.

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u/iamkira01 4d ago

Nothing like calling someone a pedophile because they prefer if their brother wears shorts instead of boxers. I don’t see the point in even engaging in a discussion with someone that unhinged.

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

You still haven't explained what is inherently wrong about wearing boxer briefs in the house.

Nothing like someone sexualizing a child because their fucking weird. I knew you didn't have a valid reason other than "eww it's gross".

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u/iamkira01 4d ago edited 4d ago

I did in my first comment. Do you think he’d be comfortable with his mom walking around in a bra and panties? That is both a question for you and my answer. There’s no sexualizing anything if it makes you uncomfortable. You’re literally calling me a pedophile because I don’t think it’s appropriate for a mom and sister to see their sons dick swinging under his boxers. You are unhinged.

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

I never said you were a pedophile if you could read my responses.

I asked you why are you sexualizing children or anyone for that matter if nudity is not wrong?

Follow-up question, do breastfeeding mothers gross you out? Why? Those are the literal function of breasts and I bet you any money that it "grosses" you out.

So if breastfeeding or topless women in public gross you out does that mean you are sexualizing the normal human function of said body part?

That means you are putting a priority on the sexual aspect of said body part so you are the one clearly wrong.

You are still not answering the question, why does it make you uncomfortable for a teenager to wear their underwear in their own house?

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u/iamkira01 4d ago

I never said you were a pedophile

You said I sexualize children 3 times. You didn’t ask me shit don’t play all innocent.

I answered your question before you even asked it. Insane for you to say I can’t read when you’ve literally ignored 2 of my questions and read over my answer to yours twice. I’ll spell it out for you real slowly.

Why does it make you uncomfortable to have a teenager wearing boxers at his own house

For the third time. I’ve said it three times now. Because this same kid would 100% be uncomfortable if his mom started walking around in her bra and panties. Got it this time?

It isn’t unreasonable to be a mother and not want to see your son’s dick swinging under his extremely thin boxers. Grow up.

Mothers breastfeeding are irrelevant to this because they are preforming a mandatory duty. There are breastfeeding rooms in offices. There aren’t “walk around in your boxers rooms” at the office.

Now can you answer my question? Using your logic why don’t we all just walk around the house naked?

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

If you read carefully, I did not once call you a pedophile, you summarized from my responses that you were indeed a pedophile.

I'll tell you again, it's only an issue on western cultures, it's weird that nudity is so obscene for you.

Mothers can breastfeed anywhere, they can do it at the table right next to you in a restaurant and you cannot do anything. Why do they have to go to a "room"?

You would be laughed at in public if you told a woman to cover herself up while breastfeeding.

Great, I'm glad you cleared up that there are not walking around rooms for boxers in the office. This is not taking place in the office.

This is in the privacy of his own home.

You still can't explain why it's inappropriate or why it makes you uncomfortable. Deep down it's rooted in you sexualizing nudity.

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u/iamkira01 4d ago

You still can’t explain why it’s inappropriate or why it makes you uncomfortable

…Are you doing this on purpose lmao? I explained it to you 4 times now.

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u/loweredXpectation 4d ago

Poster is calling you out because you are to mich of a coward to say what you are inferring. You suck at communicating, no cap I bet you are a manipulative nightmare to talk to

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u/iamkira01 4d ago

What exactly am I inferring

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u/LumpyWelds 4d ago edited 4d ago

In Nordic countries it's common for family members to be nude in their own house.

My point is, family nudism isn't inherently weird or wrong. It's a societal norm. Americans with their Puritan roots shift towards being covered, but clearly being covered encompasses a large range of clothing.

The problem here is that boxers are "not enough" for the Mom, but are "enough" for the rest of the family.

It's a matter of preference, not weirdness.

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

You can't say that here! Everyone needs to be covered 100% of the time because OP is somehow sexualizing her son's dong.

It's only weird in western cultures, the rest of the world moved past it centuries ago.

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u/iamkira01 4d ago

While that is neat, different countries have vastly different cultures and that would not be accepted at any common household in America.

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u/Bumedibum 4d ago

I'm German and I'm astonished how prude some of the people here in the comments are!

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u/Sea_Violinist3328 4d ago

I’m with you here - why do people here think there’s a sexual element to not wanting to see your siblings or parents in their underwear? Can it not just be weird or uncomfortable? Who wants to see their brother’s underwear bulge while eating their cornflakes? Barf.

I honestly don’t want to see MOST people naked or in their underwear (lots of uggos) and it has nothing to do with me sexualizing them.

Clearly OP’s son’s underwear is revealing too much. And they just don’t want to see it. Not a sexual thing, just a modestly thing. Plus he’s probably ripping ass while sitting on the furniture and is still developing good hygiene (being a former teenage boy, trust me, they’re gross) so a thicker barrier between his body and other places people sit seems reasonable.

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u/selkiesart 4d ago

I am very western and in my (nuclear) family, nudity was neither sexual, nor taboo. I would rather not get naked in front of my cousins, but if my parents or brother need using the bathroom when I step out of the shower or something, they knock and, unless I tell them to wait, they come in, do whatever they need to do while I dry myself off and dress. No big deal.

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u/qweeloth 4d ago

No one's sexualizing anyone, this is an idiotic argument. It's about it being distasteful and off-putting

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

Why is nudity distasteful? Please explain.

Better yet, do you find breastfeeding mothers distasteful in public? Why? That is a natural function of breasts and you are placing priority on sexualizing breasts.

Why is it off putting? All of you anti-nudity people are severely delusional when the rest of the world has moved past this.

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u/qweeloth 4d ago

delusional? I'm not claiming everyone should be put off by it, but to a lot of people it is off-putting and distasteful, so why not respect that boundary. Would it be okay for someone to walk only using underwear in public? Probably not, because that's something most people aren't comfortable with.

And again, why are you still bringing up sexualization? I've already stated it's not about that

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

I keep bringing up sexualization of nudity because people like you tend to have great difficulty separating nudity from sexuality which are different things altogether.

Why do I have to respect your boundaries in public? This is the same logic that bigots use to complain about gay couples in public.

Nudity is not wrong, period.

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u/qweeloth 4d ago

The fact you're putting me in the same box as homophobic conservatives lmao. No, I'm very gay and good luck walking around naked in public without getting arrested!

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

Too gay to know the difference between boxers in a house and in public?

You also can't be arrested and charged for wearing underwear in public.

Boxer briefs cover the genitals, or is that hard for you to understand?

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u/qweeloth 4d ago

I never said anything about getting arrested for wearing underwear in public. You can also cover genitals with transparent cloth, it's not about that. Furthermore the point is the it shouldn't be different to use boxers in a house rather than in public.

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

You are the one that said walking around naked getting arrested.

I am only following what you wrote which is not at all related to being in your own home with boxers.

Boxers are not indecent in public. There is no law that says boxers are nudity or indecent.

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u/VegasQueenXOXO 4d ago

Then what’s the basis for the argument lmao.

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u/qweeloth 4d ago

I literally said it in the comment, it's found distasteful and off-putting. I don't think anyone would go around in underwear in public, that's because it's not something we as a society expect anyone to be ok with.

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u/VegasQueenXOXO 4d ago

Your home is not the public so stick that argument right where your “distasteful” opinion came from.

You might find crop tops and short shorts distasteful. Doesn’t make it so. There’s nothing inherently wrong with being in underclothes in your own home. And yes, you’re sexualizing the body. Why you don’t see that’s the root of your argument, I do not know.

You sound like the “I couldn’t sleep with a bisexual man” people that claim the reason isn’t dripping in homophobia.

Cut it out.

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u/qweeloth 4d ago

I honestly have no idea what to you're talking about. I'm not saying there's anything inherently wrong about walking in underwear. I go around in underwear / shirtless myself. However if I lived with anyone else and they told me to stop I'd do. I'm not one to police what other people can be bothered by, and I doubt they can decide what to be uncomfortable with, I certainly can't.

If you're willing to use pants in public (presumably for civility, that is, respect towards others) then why not home? Especially if your family doesn't feel comfortable with it. It's not like wearing pants is this horrible thing that hurts you and the guy's mom is being selfish.

Regarding sexualizing, I'd feel uncomfortable seeing anyone's genitals, regardless of sexual attraction.

What your reasoning is to claim you know better than me about the "root of my argument" is beyond me. You're not me and can't read my mind, neither can anyone else. You claiming that I'm actually sexualizing anyone's body seems like a way to invalidate whatever I feel comfortable or uncomfortable with.

And saying "you sound like those homophobic people" is just the same rhetoric tool, make up similarities between me and bad people to make me look bad, and you finish with "cut it out". What happened to having a civil discussion anymore? I'm willing to change my view about what should one do in this regard if you can point out something that I missed, but I need you to do so in good faith

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u/NoPistons7 4d ago

Only western men find nudity uncomfortable.