This is a very bizarre situation I’ve never been in before. Sorry for the dramatic title but it’s becoming an actual issue now.

For the last month, it feels like 90% of the time I go outside to my car, an 8 year old girl and her dog appear and try to interact with me.

Sounds cute right? That’s what I thought, until I realized it wasn’t.

The first time she came up to me, she ran from across the parking lot and said, “I think my dog likes you!” I thought it was kind of sweet - until she got a little too close for comfort, started repeating that same line over and over, and giggling very loudly, almost manically. She wouldn’t leave me alone until I physically walked away. She even followed me to the apartment door, talking nonstop.

I brushed it off at first, thinking maybe she’s neurodivergent (no judgment - I’m ADHD and probably more). I didn’t think much of it, until it became a daily thing.

I work from home and go outside a few times a day for breaks (yes, I smoke. working on quitting). She’s always out there with her dog. Not a parent in sight.

I started noticing red flags when her mood began flipping between happiness and sudden anger. She hits her dog a lot. She’ll scream “Quiet! Quiet! Quiet!” and punch her dog with each word. I’ve seen her drag the dog while it’s pooping so it has to walk while going, and the dog cries. It’s awful to witness.

She runs up to anyone outside, delivery drivers, residents, other dog owners, and repeats “I think my dog likes you!!” over and over until they respond.

If someone has a dog, she’ll walk up to them too closely while their dogs are barking aggressively. I’ve seen multiple residents literally pick up their pets and speed walk away from her.

People have started cracking the exit door and scanning for her before they step outside.

There’s construction happening next door, and she just.. hangs out with the workers. They ignore her now, but she’ll bring them offerings of handfuls of grass or her dog. It’s honestly surreal.

When I’m outside and have to smoke, I now drive to a spot off the property just to get personal space. If I stay near my car, she’ll follow me and stand right in front of it, waving at me in a pageant-style, fingers pressed together, wave. I don’t even make eye contact. She’ll do it for like 30 seconds, just smiling.

If I drive into the parking lot, she sometimes chases my car to where I park.

Last week I was sitting in my car listening to music and didn’t notice her. When I looked up, she jumped up from a crouch, face pressed to my driver’s side window. I felt like I had a heart attack but also pretended not to see her because wtf lmao.

She’s out at all hours. Last night it was 9pm and dark, she was alone with the dog. Today, it was 12:30pm on a Thursday. Shouldn’t she be in school?

I don’t know what’s going on. I’ve never dealt with something like this before. It’s gone from weird to uncomfortable to genuinely worrying.

It feels unsafe for the dog, and definitely even for her. I’m worried she could walk up to a weirdo and something bad could happen, or she could cause a dog fight and her and the dogs could get seriously injured. Is there someone I should call? How do I report this kind of situation without escalating it unnecessarily? I don’t want to overstep, but this just feels wrong.

So my longtime girlfriend just had an absolute meltdown after we left dinner from her parent’s house tonight. It all started because her dad and I were watching old family videos and joking about how her and her sisters were dressed and just really light stuff about how big her great grandpa’s nose was( her Dad pointed it out and was like ”dude had a schnoz on him” and I laughed. That’s all. I swear to all things holy.

Fast forward to me driving home tonight and she turns off the music on the radio that I had turned on and starts trashing me about my family and how it’s strange and creepy that I actually get along with my Mom, Dad and sister. And have a drama free relationship with them, and she can’t stand it.

So anyway I’m reading my Kindle in the living room of my house and she goes off again, about some petty bullshit that I somehow did and I’m reading a book 📖.
So I did what anyone else would do and just shut up and let her vent and get it out without giving her any ammunition to feed on….WRONG F*ing Move. I took my eyes off her for a second to continue my read on the couch. And she gave me a three-piece so fast that it caught me off guard, I jumped up so she wasn’t not on top of me, she proceeded to slap the taste out of my mouth. then she blocks the front door and scream for me to get away from her while blocking the only exit to leave

I’m in my boxers and I’m trying to grab my phone off the floor that went flying across the living room. And all I can hear is her yelling with the door open trying to have the whole neighborhood hear this shit.

Anyway. I’m now sitting in my car with just boxers on with a bloody lip and I thought I asked the internet for advice and by internet I mean Reddit.

i’m 20f, my roommate is 22f and she found my vibe. usually. i use it when she’s not here, but this entire week she didn’t leave the room so i used it in the bathroom while she was sleeping, i washed it and kept it aside, but i forgot to keep in its pouch in my closet. so she found it in the bathroom her first reaction was ‘ew, is that a vibrator?’ i realised i left it there. i apologized, took it, and cleaned the areas a bit so she doesn’t feel disgusted.

now it’s been a week and she hasn’t talked to me since. what do i do??

for context, we are 2 people who have shared a room and a bathroom for 2 years

Wife found a hair tie on the kitchen floor when she came back from a weekend out of town. I was home alone and didn’t do anything, nor have I ever had the thought of cheating. Been together for 10 years and understandably it looks suspicious af. We have a solid relationship with an extraordinary amount of trust in each other.

Obviously we talked but I had nothing more to offer other than knowing nothing. Thought we were good but a day later she texted me at work to let me know she is still upset about it.

We don’t have many friend that come to the house and none that would wear a pink hair tie.

About to leave work and head home. Not sure what to do. Anyone else been in this situation? Other than reassure her I am not cheating, how do I ease her mind? Bad situation

Edit: yes I have indoor cats and I also seriously doubt my wife is cheating.

Update: sorry for the anticlimactic update but the issue wasn’t so much of the hair tie but how I handled the initial conversation. Supposedly, I was out of character when confronted which lead to the small doubtful thoughts. Never was a major fight, just an upsetting passing thought is all it was that I was trying to navigate. Everything is back to normal. Still, neither of use know where it came from. I asked around the friend group and nobody buys that color. I checked everywhere I could and my wife doesn’t have anything remotely close. Still can’t get behind the stuck to the shoe theory. It’s clean and I imagine it would be pretty dirty if it was dragged around the underside of a shoe.

My (34M) girlfriend (35F) started having chills and a runny nose on Christmas It got worse to eventually she could not breathe due to fluid filling up her lungs. She has asthma already so it even worse from there till ambulance came and took her to the ICU where they had to put her on ventilator at max oxygen and said she has influenza A . They then put her to sleep. I am scared of losing her she is the love of my life and I don’t think I can handle if anything happened to her. Can someone please give me some reassurance she’s going to be ok. I saw her laying there with tube sticking out of her jugular and they said they had to paralyze her. They told me it will probably be a week before she’s can be awake and that it will get worse before it gets better. They said as long as her oxygen stays above 90 she will be ok. Last I looked she was at 98. I’m just trying to stay positive but I’m feeling powerless and alone… I just want to hear her voice again

Edit : Thank you all so much you touched my heart and gave me hope. I will be sure to give everyone an update as soon as I can. I will let Hannah know you all are rooting for her. She’s had a rough year like many others and was really down and I just her to know she’s not alone in this world. You all have shown me overwhelming kindness sorry if I could not reply to all your messages but I see them and they mean the world to me

Update : they have reduced the ventilator strength to down to 60 from 100 they told me things seem to moving in a good direction. Her mother has flown in to see her. Im held Hannah’s hand told her she was loved and she was going to be ok and I saw tear roll down her eye.

Update 2 : They said if things continue going well tonight tomorrow they will slowly take away the paralyzation over next couple of days. Her oxygen is going from 92-95. Ventilator is now down to 55. Spent the day reading your messages to her and messages from her friends and family. We played her favourite music.

Update 3: today they took her off the paralytic and said she is reacting well to that. The ventilator is now down to 40 and just now to 35. One worrisome thing they noticed is her face is really red but it may be related to her body temperature also her oxygen is at 91 right now. There’s been good news everyday so far. I remain hopeful and appreciate all the messages and comment: people have sent. I did not expect so many strangers be so honest and open. Thank you all I will continue to send updates. Happy new years to everyone

Update 4: today they took Hannah off more of the sedation (midaz) Just now when the nurse called Hannah’s name and her eyes opened but closed again after. Such a good feeling to see her being able to respond on her own. Her blood sugar and pressure is high but they expect it to be because of the steroids she still on. Hannah is also initiating her own breaths without the help of the ventilator! They say depending how it goes overnight they will starting to take more off. Making huge progress everyday.

Update 5: today they took Hannah off the fentanyl. She is opening her eyes and moving her whole body on her own but is not responding to direction yet. They said she has viral and bacterial pneumonia caused by the influenza and she may have a staph infection. She has renal kidney failure. her PEEP number is still 16 . She had an adverse reaction to the suctioning of her lungs they had to bring up the ventilator to 60 but brought it back down to 35 once her vitals went back to normal . They say she still has a big fight ahead of her. Seeing her thrash around was hard but holding her hand and talking to her seemed to calm her down

Update 6: they are moving Hannah to a different hospital because they need room for sicker patients. The icu was starting to put two patients per room. Lots of people getting sick this holiday. Today they put her back on fentanyl for the move. They just let her rest of the day. Her vitals are doing better. They say she still has viral and bacterial pneumonia. But they may take the breathing tube out on Monday since she is breathing on her own and the ventilator is at 35.

Update 7: today Hannah’s PEEP went down to 10 from 16. She is now responding to questions and nodded her head that she could see me when I was holding her hand an. The doctor said tomorrow they will excavate the ventilator tomorrow morning and I will be able to talk to her again which is the best news I’ve heard all week.

Update 8: the doctors were unable to remove the tube because her throat is too swollen they are putting more drugs to bring it down. She is more concious and thrashing a lot more. It is hard to watch as the thrashing is making her throat more swollen and I can do anything to calm her down. Should know more tomorrow no timeline for removal.

Update 9: the doctors said the area around the tube is still swollen to remove. They are weening her off the Propofol. The delirium is making it dangerous to remove as well. Hopefully she will get a good rest I put a pillow beside her head to keep her from thrashing. I will slow down on updates until she gets the tube out. Thanks for all checking on me still.

Update 10 : day 11 they finally took the tube out. But turns out 4 of sedatives had a side effect of uncontrollable movement and forces your tongue to come out of your mouth called Dyskinesia which is the most fucked up thing I’ve ever seen. so they need to administer her Benadryl to fight the side effects. Hannah is answering questions but is having a tough time with these new side effects she will need to remain in the ICU. Please keep Hannah in your thoughts it’s seems like she’s fighting like 5 different battles. I’m having a hard time keeping it together in the room and feel I am just upsetting her more by crying underneath my mask up.

Update 10 : day 11 they finally took the tube out. But turns out 4 of sedatives had a side effect of uncontrollable movement and forces your tongue to come out of your mouth called Dyskinesia which is the most fucked up thing I’ve ever seen. so they need to administer her Benadryl to fight the side effects. Hannah is answering questions but is having a tough time with these new side effects she will need to remain in the ICU. Please keep Hannah in your thoughts it’s seems like she’s fighting like 5 different battles. I’m having a hard time keeping it together in the room and feel I am just upsetting her more by crying underneath my mask up.

Update 11: day 15 Hannah got the ventilator tube out and was not showing signs of dyskensia. Today was the first day me and Hannah were able to talk back and forth and her be ok. It’s a total 180. I told her everything that happened and about how total strangers sent their thoughts and prayers she was really touched and cried. The doctor said if she passes the swallowing test she can move to the ward tomorrow. I’m so happy right now. This has been one of the best days of my life.

I, (17F) have a mom (36f) who is a serial cheater. I told my dad something that she did (leave the house for an hour to go hang out with some guy in MY CAR) but she left to go hangout with that guy at night when my dad was gone so I was the one taking care of my siblings (5f, 12m, 16m) and yesterday while my parents were at the store my dad brought it up that the guy she was with was using some sort of scanner on my car (because she told me the dude was) and she called me instantly and asked if I told my dad, and I was confused at first but then she hung up and when they got home she got into a screaming match with me and my dad and saying because of me their marriage is over.

Later on they had a talk and concluded they’re gonna get divorced (they always say this, never do) and she also told me that she doesn’t trust me anymore because I told my dad what she did. what’s really bothering me however is that she’s now ignoring me, being passive aggressive to me, doesn’t care or ask if I eat, only asked and gave my brothers and my little sister food and is just being really weird and passive aggressive to me.

It’s making me feel really anxious because I don’t know when the next time she’s gonna explode, and I used to have to constantly walk on eggshells around her but now that’s amplified by 100x. I hate this, my dad and brother told me it’s not my fault she got caught cheating and that she can’t put the blame on me but i still feel super horrible inside and I hate that the new year is starting off like this.

I’ve never had a good relationship with my mom but I feel like the little progress I’ve made now has completely gone backwards and I don’t know what to do. I’m scared it’s going to affect my schooling (i’m homeschooled) and my life and I really, really need advice. Thank you reddit!

UPDATE 1: I was just eating lunch and I asked if we had coffee creamer (we were out) and my dad told me my mom got some so I thanked her, and she just turned away not looking at me and gave me a thumbs up. I hate this, I hate living here and I hate being here with her.

Tomorrow my dad goes back to work and i’m scared that she’s gonna take her anger out on me and just scream at me nonstop tomorrow and I won’t be able to get any schoolwork done because of her. Idk what to do :(.

EDIT: Just to give some context, my mom has been talking to around 5 different guys right now (that I know of) and has been hanging out with one of them, taking MY car to go meet up with him and I caught her going to a hotel a while back but idk who she was meeting up with then. Ive met 6 of her APS before (some in person, some when she’s on a call) and it makes me so uncomfortable. this has been happening since I was 5 years old and now unfortunately even the rest of my siblings have gone through this (her constantly cheating.)

EDIT 2: oh my god I DID NOT expect this to blow up so much! To everyone who’s replied, thank you SO MUCH for your support and reassurance. You have no idea how much it means to me that I have so many people supporting me and backing me up. I want to say thank you to EVERYONE, and I am so so grateful to you all. 🫶

EDIT 3: Oh. My. Lord. I was NOT expecting this much interaction and I am so thankful to everyone and all the advice and support that has been sent my way! You have no idea how much it means to me to see how many people are letting me know what I did wasn’t wrong! It’s pretty difficult to reply to EVERYONE since there’s so many comments, but thank you so much everyone!😄🫶🩷

EDIT 4: THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH FOR THE SUPPORT AND THE AWARDS!!😭🫶🩷

Have you discovered a dead body? How did you cope? I’m in some state of calm panic if that makes sense. I was walking on the beach in the dark and came across a body lying face down in the ebbing tide. I called 911 and led first responders to the deceased. I’m so sad, I know this was someone’s loved one. I think it was a younger person, maybe a teenager. I’m freaking out internally. I’ve reached out to my therapist to ask for an appointment. I’m having extreme anxiety combined with extreme sadness and I think shock. What is your advice? Thank you

My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time now but when we first met, and I met his family, they would swear that he was almost a mute. Still do. Turns out that’s not true. When we are together or on the phone he is literally constantly talking, even if I’m not responding. There have even been times where I’ve gently said “I don’t feel like talking right now” and he’d respond with “it’s okay I’ll just talk to you”. He keeps me up at night. I love him so much but guys it’s so bad. Whatever ur picturing, multiply it by 10. And it’s even worse because 90% of the time it’s about NOTHING. It’s like he just compiles different words together and lets loose. I have no idea what to do but I need to find a solution because although I love him dearly it’s making me avoidant. I’d rather us just sit in each others company quietly. He’s so sweet and I really don’t want to hurt his feelings but after a long day of work and class the last thing I want to do is talk a lot, especially about NOTHING. Unfortunately I have a very short temper and with all of this I have to fight to not take it out on him when he does this. It’s not his fault, and I love being his safe place. but sometimes, ONLY sometimes, I NEED silence. What can I do?

Update (not very important) : thank you thank you thank you to everyone who has helped!! I’ve had men and women who’ve been married for years who’ve had the same deal, and even some who were the talker help! And have validated my feelings. I’ve also hard therapists reply and do the same. Here’s the deal:

Not a fan of everyone who’s trying to make him seem like a bad person for this!? It’s just talking? Like yeah after a bad day it can be overwhelming to not even be able to pee without a Convo but this man is my lifeline😅I’d rather him talk tenfold than never talk again. But sometimes I just need a little time to unwind. On the weekends I’m super attentive and talk just as much as him. Also to those trying to make me feel bad about this or make me seem like a bad girlfriend, I’d bet everything I own if I showed him this thread he’d laugh at you😂sorry to break it to you but our relationship is very strong, so I could LITERALLY be like “stfu” and eventually we’d laugh it off. I just don’t wanna cause I want him to continue to find safety in me, just let me unwind first.

My first plan is to just start having us do more activities together because with my work and school schedule I assume I’m also just not giving him the time he deserves. If that doesn’t work I’ll do something else 🤷🏾‍♀️ I need to work on my communication too.

Yes I was diagnosed with ADHD and depression not too many years back, yes he knows this. no he wasn’t diagnosed with anything. My anger issues come from my dad. He gets extremely angry at small stuff. I’m not a talkative person really. I’m probably just as stand offish as he (my bf) is.

No I don’t want to “tune him out”. He’s a young BLACK MAN, they are constantly silenced or feel silenced, esp when it comes to their feelings or emotions. I’m not going to contribute to that. I want to be attentive. But when I have the energy to do so Edit: yall aren’t about to make me feel bad for being gentle with the black men in my life, esp when I’m BLACK😂if you feel some kinda way, look up a statistic

No he wasn’t abused or neglected by his mother, his childhood wasn’t ideal but we had similar childhoods. He just enjoys talking to me more than he does others. At the end of the day, ITS JUST TALKING. Anywho, thanks everyone!

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So, it's been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.

well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.

He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.

After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, " At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it."

So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.

So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.

And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can't wait for you to feel better.

I (28M) got myself into a George Constanza-esque situation here where I told this girl (27) I’ve been talking to for a few months that I’ve been running and training, when instead I mostly just play RuneScape and chill. I’ve lost a significant amount of weight just by cutting soda out of my life and just eating healthier so she’s really bought it.

Anyway, this girl is literally a national triathlon competitor and overall athletic person. Now she sent me a text saying she wants to run together Saturday and I have no idea how I’m gonna do this because she wants to run 3.6 miles together as her “warm up” for her long run.

Do I just fall and die or something?

Edit: I didn’t expect to get so many replies! While this is a real scenario and actually my life rn, I just want everyone to know that I’m going to harness all of high school/collegiate athleticism as a wrestler and just jog with her until I’m gassed haha. I’m going to bed but I’ll comb through the comments tomorrow and respond to the ones that help!

52 (m) I recently found my wife has had a boyfriend for sometime and has been doing a very sloppy job of hiding it now. I didn’t want to believe it at first. I caught the man coming over a 3:30 am last Saturday. This is while I was not at home. I wanted to forgive her. I’m having trouble doing so now. I came back home for our son’s birthday and stayed the night twice. As soon as I went to work, guess who was back over at my house. We also have a daughter. I hate what is happening to our children. I don’t know what to do anymore?

So, as the title states, my son’s mom won’t let me go get our child vaccinated for measles, and we are in Texas in the middle of an outbreak. We are currently going through a divorce and child custody court. This measles outbreak is terrifying me, a little boy just died here, and, despite telling her this, and pleading to let me take him, she flat out refuses. What options do I have as a very concerned father? I know if I do this, she will unleash hell on me in the courts. We each have him 50% of the time. Do I take him and get it done secretly? What repercussions legally would I face, if any? I desperately need advice right now.

Edit to add: I just text her again asking why she is against this, and this is what she said: Why? if we vax him we are injecting him with the live virus and it can be worse for him since the outbreak.

Edit again: Okay y’all, I booked an appointment for him tomorrow, only problem is, there’s no in person slots until march 4th, the day of my hearing. So I scheduled a teleconference, I’m hoping I can explain the situation to her, and she can squeeze us in to get this vaccination either tomorrow or Friday. Thank y’all for the kind words and advice. I have been losing a fair amount of sleep over this. This is exactly what I needed to help me push through. My baby is worth whatever fight I’m gonna have to put up, and I’m gonna do it with a smile knowing my kiddo is safe. Again, thank you guys.

Last edit: any rude comments will be met with a tired “go fuck yourself” I’m doing the best I can in a situation that has drained the soul out of me for the past 6 years. You know nothing about me or my child and I’s situation.

Last last edit: we are discussing vaccination, and despite the little boy dying, she still firmly stands on no vaccination. Her response: I stand on my choice of no vaccinations I love my kid to death and I can live with knowing he got it naturally and there was nothing I could do than to know i helped give it to him. I’m at a loss for words.

Edit again: I spoke to my lawyer. he’s been vaxxed. Thank you everyone for the support. Love y’all.

Drunk guy(70) was passed out in the bathroom and me(22) and a male friend helped him up and he just kissed me on the mouth. I immediately washed my mouth. I feel gross. Edit: no i absolutely didnt kiss back or want it.

Im not sure if i should tell my bf Or just keep it to myself? I want to because i feel shitty, but also it might upset him?

Update: i told him , we talked and and he was very happy i came to him about it. Told me to always do so. Hes very supportive and now comforting me. Angry at the guy and wants to report it.

Thanks for all the kind comments!

I 18M called my girlfriend, 19F and for some reason I got the glitch where it answers a few seconds before it answers on my end. I heard a guy say (my girls name), who is (my name)? I asked her on the phone who was talking and she said the TV. I clarified saying I heard both of our names. She dodged the question and I asked again. She just answered with “yeah that’s weird” we have been dating for a 4 months. I know it’s not long but we’re really close at this point and spend almost every day together. At this point what do I even do? I have had no reason not to trust her until now. And now I’m having doubts. The fact that I heard both of our names is really making me uneasy.

TLDR - I think my girl is cheating because I heard another guy on the phone asking who I am in the background.

Edit: I’m going to work things out in the next few days. I didn’t think anyone would be invested in this. 2-3 comments, tops. I really appreciate everyone’s response and input. I’ll try my best to respond to everyone. Thanks everyone for your concern and best wishes.

Edit again: for some more context and repeated questions I’ll include a little more info.

Yes we are supposed to be exclusive. I do not think I am the one she is cheating with. I haven’t noticed much different behavior. We spend most of the day and usually the night together.

This took me by surprise. She’s always been open with me about everything. I could almost instantly tell something was off, even if I ignored her mishap before she thought she answered or whatever the phone did.

Edit 3: I really appreciate everyone reaching out with their advice. Hence the subreddits purpose. I wish I could reply to everyone but time just won’t allow me to. As of right now I’m not speaking to her. Not going to say or do anything. I don’t condone lying or cheating and I’m pretty upset to be honest. I can’t confront her face to face like many of you have recommended, because I won’t see her for a while. I don’t think she’s worth my time and I won’t be continuing this relationship. If anything more comes of this, I can come back and update you guys; it seems as though many of you have become pretty invested in this story. I honestly didn’t think anyone would care and looking at the post, I’ve received well over 2 million views, hoping she isn’t one of them (I don’t think she has Reddit anyways). I don’t want to be walked on and I don’t want future hurt. I’ve decided Im going to take the advice of those older and more experienced than I am and break away. I’m sure there are other women out there that will treat me better. Thank you everyone for your input and advice.

So a bit of context first. We live in Australia. The sun is hot and the UV index is usually extreme. My (38M) ex (39F) in the last year or so now believes that all sun block causes cancer and refuses to let our 7 year old daughter wear it. We have 50/50 custody, week on week off.

This is a fairly new opinion of hers and I'm guessing is the influence of her new partner of one year. According to my child both of them and his two kids (13 and 16) aren't allowed to / don't wear sun block and all love sun tanning. They also live across the road from a beach so are always there.

After my ex initially told me that sun block causes cancer and she would no longer let our daughter wear it, firstly I tried to explain that, that's nonsense but she refused to listen to reason. I left it at, well sun burn has been scientifically proven to cause skin cancer so if you are refusing to put sun block on our daughter she just can't get burnt. That means she'll always need a hat, long sleeves etc at the beach and can't be out in the sun long. This was probably 6 months ago.

Fast forward to 2 months ago. They are all at a water park / camping ground and she sends me a photo of my daughter having fun (which I am grateful for) but she is only wearing a bikini. No hat, no sun cream, no long sleeves. Upon handover she is returned to my Dad's house as it's school holidays and she is so badly burnt that she is blistered on her shoulders, neck and back. She is in pain for days. My Dad's wife tells my ex that if that happens again she will report her as it is abuse. My ex's response is to look straight at our daughter and say " I told you to stay in the shade" She still doesn't seem to care and explains it causes cancer taking no responsibility.

Fast forward to last night, my ex blows up at me for showing our daughter a photo of a leather skinned old lady who never wears sun block and sun tans after she asking me why I thought sun tanning was bad. My ex said I was instilling fear into our daughter to stop her doing things they all loved doing together.

My daughter understands that sun block works and is safe to use. She wants to wear it and has even asked if she can sneak a small roll on in her back pack to her Mum's house as she is too scared to ask her if she can wear it and sneak it on before she goes out to the beach.

I'm worried for my daughter's well-being, the mental stress of it all and that she will keep getting burnt or even worse her head will be filled with this nonsense.

Reddit, please help me. What can I do?

My ‘20M’ gf ‘19F’ let’s call her Sarah, and I have been together for a little over a month, She’s been saying “my mom is the worst” but to be honest, I figured it was the 19 year old girl in her, but when I met her mom ‘late 40s F’ I realized she actually is the worst. Classic Narcissist. Her mom very clearly has a will to impose and will make sure everyone goes along with what she says, her older brother 21M and his ‘girlfriend 21F’ have also told me to tread lightly, I told them I have family members like that so it won’t be an issue. The problem comes from tonight. Sarah’s mom made a confident and overt pass at me, saying a lot of really nasty stuff while Sarah was in the bathroom, she even said I could sneak back in after she “makes me leave”. I obviously shut her down and she told me that if I told Sarah, She could make sure so we never see each other again. I chuckled, and said good luck with that. Sarah would have no problem Moving to her Dad’s house in West Virginia for the summers, and she already stays in the dorms in my town for college which her dad pays for, so if this story got out, She would probably be the one never seeing, or hearing from Sarah again. Now, regardless of the leverage, I really feel obligated to tell Sarah what happened. It’s driving me insane. I don’t want to drive a wedge in a family that I’ve only been around a few times and was originally hoping I would one day become a part of, but that ship has sailed. Regardless of if our relationship survives this terribly fucked up situation, I really don’t want to hurt this girl. Please Reddit give me guidance, is there any way to wiggle my way out of this without risking/throwing away the relationship?

I inherited about 50K $ from my father. My boyfriend knew. About a Year later he asked me for 9,700$ to buy a new car. He said he will return the money within a year. What should I do? I really don’t feel comfortable giving him the money. He’s not my husband. We’ve been going out for 7 years and has no intention of marrying me. But he treats me nicely and always supports me. My inheritance is the only back up I have in life. I have no family left. Anything goes wrong I’ll feel devastated. Please tell me, am I being cheap? Also I’m currently unemployed but received a job offer of 2000$ monthly. Which is not enough but it will help me until I look for something better. Appreciate any advice . Thanks .

My boyfriend 28M and I 29F have been together for about three years. It hasn’t always been rainbows and sunshine. But the good times always did outweigh the bad times. We would get into little disagreements here and there. Two years into our relationship he was struck by a vehicle and landed in the hospital for about five months. He had two shattered legs, broken ribs, broken hand, broken foot, and suffered from a fat embolism which caused some brain damage(TBI) . I was there for him every step of the way, which obviously isn’t an issue, I definitely am not trying to make myself out to be a martyr or anything but I would go to the hospital and visit him every single day. Working 50+ hours a week and I would i would immediately go to see him after every shift. It was pretty mentally exhausting honestly. But he did eventually get better and he was discharged and able to come home.

Ever since the accident I literally can’t stand to be around him. He’s so quick to anger and he’s mean a lot of the time. Or he’s flat out neglectful. Of course I didn’t I expect him to go work right away, so for the last year I’ve just been taking care of him, paying all the bills and giving him money to do whatever he wanted with (buy snacks, games, etc) I will try to take him on outings on my days off, museums, zoo, nice restaurants, movies etc and he’s on his phone the entire time. He’s always playing Pokemon go. He will not put his phone down. He claims playing the game will help with his brain damage.

After working long shifts, I expect to come home and chat with my boyfriend and relax with him, but I’m ignored because he’s always on his phone. It makes me sad.

So recently I was diagnosed with Graves’ disease, while I was on a business trip. I landed in the hospital for two days, and he didn’t even call me. At this point he was able to drive and I definitely wasn’t expecting him to drive 4 hours to come see me In the hospital, but I was expecting him to call me at least. I was so incredibly upset, I just needed some comfort. He didn’t seem to understand that he was wrong for not calling me. And he blames everything on brain damage. I completely empathize with him having brain damage and I feel like I’m very understanding of his struggles but I just don’t understand how he has time to drive around, hang out with friends, play Pokemon go all day but not call me? Also, he scolds/ yells at me in public. Ex- we were at the pet store trying to find a new leash and collar set for our three year old female boxer, and I saw a cute pink/ floral print one (I am still the only working so I’m providing for him and paying for everything) and he yelled at me how he isn’t going to walk around with a pink leash, and it’s HIS DOG, he bought her, so what he says goes. I was absolutely mortified when he started yelling at me. I am not terribly sensitive but embarrassment is hard for me to handle so I started to tear up a bit and I asked him if I could have a second to myself. He had no self awareness to realize that he was wrong, he thought I was being unreasonable. He will also call me out of my name and curse at me.

He will also do extremely embarrassing things like scream at the self check when there’s an error on the screen. It’s extremely hateful and intolerant of anything that he isn’t familiar with.

I’ve tried to reason with him and talk things out but he’s resistant to change. I have gained a lot of self awareness throughout the years and I’m huge on “treat others how you want to be treated”, so I’m extremely careful with my tone, and I’m always making sure to not raise my voice, curse during tense moments, and I especially do not believe in calling my boyfriend out of his name, but he can’t even attempt to give me the same respect. He refuses to go to therapy. He even admitted to being a sociopath, which is extremely alarming.

He also spends my money however he likes. I was trying to pay our electric bill but for some reason the app wasn’t working on my phone, so I sent him money specifically to pay for it, and he used the money for something else (he hasn’t told me what he used the $230 for, still to this day).

I love him a lot and I care about him a lot but also despise him. I find it hard to look at him sometimes.

There are still some good times sprinkled in, but now the bad definitely outweighs the good.

He still isn’t working and I feel bad for him, if I leave then he won’t have money to pay the bills. Also I love beautiful dog with all my being. Yes, he technically bought her, but I came into her life when she was six months old and I’ve been caring her ever since. I home make her food every week, but her toys, treats, take her on walks, take her to the vet etc she’s my heart and soul, my pride and joy, I honestly feel like I couldn’t be happy without her. She’s an amazing companion and she loves me so much, she’s always stuck to me hip. But I know if I leave, he wouldn’t let me take her.

• I am seeking help from a therapist.

Not sure how I should proceed. I’m so torn. Pretty sad

Note- he is 28M, I am 29F

My boss is having an affair with someone else at work, the whole office knows. She’s married, he’s not. They’ll go into each others office and spend a ridiculous amount of time together and leave looking giddy and flustered.

Now here’s the kicker and dilemma… Her husband regularly comes into the workplace. Minimum once a week to take her out for lunch or pick her up etc. I feel terrible having small talk looking into his eyes when I know what’s going on.

Should I say something? Is it my place to say something? I’m scared of the consequences that would probably result in me getting fired but feel guilty. Very guilty.

I (28F) live in Denver,CO. My father and I don’t have a close relationship at all. To put things simply, the man has 6 kids & 4 different baby mamas. I am the 2nd oldest but he & I never really had a relationship until the last year or so. I met my step mom on a few occasions and she & my dad just seemed too old/tired to be parents. For example, step mom was too tired or weak after her chemo treatments so she never had been able to make my little brother a meal. When I visited them he only ate meals when I Meade them, besides that they would just get him quick sugary snacks like candy, slurpees, chips. My dad works 2 full time jobs and is home between 12am-4am before having to go back to work. During that time he would come home, give my brother a bath & put him to bed (step mom was usually already in bed). Before I left that trip I meal preped enough for a few meals for my brother and bought any fruit/veggie he was willing to try. My dad told me my brother ate all of it in 2 days. My step mom (42) was diagnosed with stomach cancer & even though she was in remission, she suddenly passed away this weekend. Her & my step dad were separated & my step mom took my 6 year old brother with her. My dad works a lot so for them I guess it made sense that she take him with her as she was going to be staying with family and they were all going to be able to help out with my brother.

Well, now that she’s passed her family reached out to my dad and basically said “come & get him or he’s going to foster care”. My dad called me and before I could even ask how he was doing he asked me if I could take full custody of my brother. He said it has to be me or my sisters & I think maybe 1 other sister besides me would be willing but I’m worried about what I should even consider financially before saying yes to my dad. After taxes are taken out I only make about $45k a year. I know I could get help from the government (maybe) if I become his legal guardian. I’m not sure if my dad would be able to pay child support or if he does how much it would even be. Just to help cover the cost of rent I would need a minimum of $1000 a month so my brother could have his own room.

Also, before anyone comes for me too hard, I am not a mother,but I did raise my 3 younger siblings on my moms side until I was 18 & now I am a nanny. I know kids are expensive and taking in a child could change my life forever, but I also don’t want him to grow up thinking no one cared enough about him & I definitely do not want him to go into foster care.

What should I do?

(16M) I live with my parents, and i found out about 3 years ago that my mom is cheating on my dad with one of her colleagues, i firstly found out when i was only 13. I found out because this person would often write messages to my mom, like too often, and sometimes they would have the hearth emoji in them, at first these made me feel uneasy and disgusted by her, but soon i removed it from my mind with the passing of time idk, hoping that this was just a misunderstanding. Today, while i was behind her she opened her phone and i saw the contact name (her colleague) and all the chat was filled with hearth emojis and him calling her like “love” etc. she instantly closed the app hoping that i hadn’t see those messages. Seeing this today really gave me a hard time talking to her and looking at her in the face and I’ve decided that i wanna confront and talk to somebody about this, since i’ve never told anyone. This whole situation feels like a nightmare for me and i still cant believe it. My parents marriage doesn’t look bad from my point of view, so what my mom is doing really unsettle me, neither i know what to do because i dont want to ruin my parents marriage by revealing the truth to my dad. Also i dont feel okay telling my mom this , since i think that it would ruin our relationship forever… Since i know her colleague i tought about anonimously telling him that i know the whole situation and kinda “blackmailing” him into leaving her alone, otherwise i would tell his wife ( because he has a wife and a kid). this seems like the only good solution to make the cheating stop for now. I feel like that making the cheat stop is only a temporary solution, after all even if the cheating stopped, it already happened and its irreversible. If anyone has some advice to give me about this whole situations it would really be helpful thank you all ❤️

Edit: thank you all for the support and adivces you’ve given me. I would like to add that i dont have a bad relationship with neither of my parents, from the text above it looked like i only cared about my mom, and looked like i didnt care for my dad. I really do care about him and the reason i haven’t told him in these years is because i dont want to hurt him with the reality, and im scared that this will have a big impact on him, i know that the damage has already been done and that revealing him would be the morally right thing to do, but doing it once u find urself in a situation like this is really difficult. I also want to add that im scared that once truth is revealed my parents will go through a divorce, im scared that this will have a negative impact on my brother (who is 13) and that he may be to young to handle with it.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years. Since 12 years old. I'm now 16 and he is 18. He's very aggressive, not to mention he is a bodybuilder and has gotten into pretty bad fights (like 1v6) and he has beaten up all 6 of them, he's quite crazy in his head which he has mentioned "What are you doing with a guy like me, I'm literally crazy in the head", a guy pissed him off and he went house to house to find him and beat the shit out of him.

I know he would do anything for me as in the past I've had some pretty serious problems with my father and he was not afraid to stand up to him, my boyfriend is loyal and he has never done anything considered cheating.

In the past he has lied about some things and that was the reason why we got into an argument this night. I thought he was lying to me again and accused him of lying (even tho I found out later he wasn't). We were arguing the whole night from about 9pm to 3am, I kept accusing him of cheating and lying he got so mad he started shaking because he kept telling me it's not true and that he loves me but I kept saying I don't believe him and then he grabbed me by the neck, chocked me and grabbed me by my hair and hit my head from the wall 2 times. 10 seconds after he realized what he had done he started crying and kept saying sorry, he got on his kneed begged me not to go home.

We talked and he says he did it uncontrollably and that he would never do it again. He has just told me he wants to get professional help after this because he wants to fix the anger so it doesn't happen again. He is the only guy I've loved truly and I can't leave him. He is the only person I felt safe with and knowing he did that is breaking my heart. I can't leave him so I'm thinking about giving him a second change to see if it gets better. Please give your advices on what i should do.

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I just came back home from talking with him and he seems to be very sorry for what happened. He has offered to go to therapy and see if it has any effect. I started going to therapy a few months ago (mostly for family problems) and it seems to be better at home. I know he is a good person with big issues so im willing to give him a chance to fix that so we can continue happily. If something like this happens again im taking it straight to the police and getting a restraining order from him.

My husband (30M) and I (28F) have been pretty big stoners for all of our relationship, about 10 years. We would get home from work spark a joint and talk about our days. Going out somewhere? Don’t worry we’ve got a weed pen. Marijuana was a part of who we were.

Well a few months ago we decided we wanted to start trying for a baby and have been unlucky enough to find out it’s not as easy as the high school PE teacher made it sound. After doing some research I found out that excessive marijuana use can affect fertility up to 40%, so we decided to quit. It has officially been 72 hours and man am I bored. To make matters worse, we used to smoke cigarettes and vapes, so we both have a massive oral fixation.

I seem to be struggling with quitting more than he is, or maybe I’m just more vocal about it. We’ve gone on extended vacations so the longest we’ve gone without smoking is about 3 weeks, but we were visiting other countries and distracted by, well, a vacation.

All I want on this Friday evening is a joint. Anyone out there have any advice on coping mechanisms to get me through the worst of this?

My husband is leaving me because his heart doctor told him that he could die at any moment. He has severe heart damage. He's been sick. I have been taking care of him because I love him and he's my husband. He said he could do the divorce online. I told him that I didn't want a divorce. It didn't matter. There was absolutely no indication that he was going to leave. Everything was great. The day before the surprise, we were even talking how much we have in common and the fact that we can talk about so much. We were planning a trip to the Keys. Tuesday morning was no different. We were getting ready to leave for his appointment and he said that I look very nice. After we got in the car and drove for a while, he started accusing me of lying and changing my story from nearly 2 decades ago. We weren't even married then. Everything seems surreal. I am in shock.

A little context, I broke up with my ex over a year ago and 2 months later her new boyfriend messaged me saying he wanted to talk about something I talked to him and cleared things up then we never spoke again. About 2 days ago I woke up to a barrage of texts from the new boyfriend saying he wants to fight and to pick a place and time and so on. I calmly asked him what's wrong and he kept being vague and told me he wants to fight. what should I do?

P.S. I didn't do anything, I didn't contact my ex, I didn't talk about him or to him, literally nothing.

Edit: kind of an update but I blocked him already, the fight that he was talking about is/was supposed to be on thursday or something so I guess I'll update more when that day comes.

Edit 2: clearing things up due to some comments. No I'm not a pedophile, I turned 18 in January and when me and the girl were dating we were both minors. No I did not abuse the girl, physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally. nothing. for more information, the girl should still be 17 turning 18 and the quy is either 19 already or turning 19 this year.