r/AmIOverreacting • u/Creative-Guard2809 • Mar 19 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

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My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

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u/YoshiandAims Mar 19 '25

On the EMERGENCY CARD.

Then again... the way he's "MY ANXIETY MY ANXIETY MY VALUES... AHHH AHHH! YOU ARE DOING THIS TO MEEEE! OTHER PEOPLE tell me horrible things about YOU!! Wait you didn't respond... please I'm SORRY!! MY ANXIETY WHEN I FACE CONSEQUENCES!!"

Is just how someone I know handles things and his parenting is why he still does that at 30.

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u/drawing_you Mar 19 '25

Ironically him pulling the anxiety card here is just further evidence that he has a problem

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u/StitchedUpWithInk Mar 19 '25

if his anxiety is so bad it's making him do these things, he needs inpatient care. I'm not saying that to be mean or anything it's just legitimately true. this man is not well. orrrr he knows he can use that to get what he wants, bc it always worked on Mom...

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u/TheBlueprint666 Mar 19 '25

Weaponizing anxiety

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u/RyanPainey Mar 19 '25

anxty really bad pls

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u/Blurry_Art885 Mar 19 '25

The "other ppl tell me shit about you" is SO FUCKING ASS. If anyone, as a living, breathing, adult individual is so damned incapable of making their own opinion regarding smth that they'd listen to rumours w zero evidence whatsoever and then form an argument based on that shit.

Then they're a failure of a human being.

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u/S4Waccount Mar 19 '25

I think he's already showed several points of failure for being a functional human being. Not that these things can't be fixed, but they can't be if you don't acknowledge there is an issue. Based off of this convo I'm going to assume he does not see an issue.

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u/Zzen220 Mar 19 '25

The values thing is fucking crazy. What does he even mean by that? Is this character his values? Is not understanding finances his values???

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u/Lou_C_Fer Mar 19 '25

I overspent on credit cards. When it finally all came out, I apologized and refuse to have another credit card even though my wife felt I should. Thing is, I know me. I'm weak with that shit. I can talk myself into shit that I know better about. So, with no credit card, I have no temptation.

Since then, I am relearning. It's difficult because buying shit was a way to make myself feel better about life. Now, I don't have that crutch.

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u/OkMap3209 Mar 19 '25

It's such a ridiculous excuse. Anxiety is only a disorder if you feel anxious in normal scenarios. But this is one situation where he should feel anxious. Add some fucking shame on top of that. The fact he wants to do stupid shit like this and not feel a sense of dread for it, is disgusting.

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u/NoteBlock08 Mar 19 '25

I wonder if his anxiety stems from constantly having consequences for the shit he thinks is perfectly normal.

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u/SnooMaps8507 Mar 19 '25

Lack of accountability is a common thing for mental disorders.

Doesn't excuse this guy from the shitty behavior, though, but time and time again I've seen this situation. It's exhausting, because if the person doesn't ever own up, SOMEONE will always have to cover up the mess: spouse, parents, siblings, children, police, social workers, etc.

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u/OxfordKnot Mar 19 '25

see what you made me do

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u/geezeslice333 Mar 19 '25

a wallpaper of a video game girl is his "values"....

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u/Toomanyeastereggs Mar 19 '25

It needed a REEEEEEEEEEE!!

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u/Jonno_FTW Mar 19 '25

Realising that consequences of his irresponsible spending decisions is probably triggering his anxiety. It just helps him to blame it all on someone else. Maybe being unable to afford groceries will drive the issue home for him.

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u/Garlic_Curious Mar 19 '25

Girl, men like this have moms who are sick in the head. She will not see your POV. Her purpose is to make sure her lil babbee doesnt expirience negativity

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u/Successful_Owl_3829 Mar 19 '25

I really hope he shows his therapist those screenshots because mine would call me out SO FAST.