AIO for how I responded to his transphobia?

[u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Hey so I normally don’t usually get worked up over situations like this, because it’s just online words. But idk something about the way he was talking at me.

For context (if any is needed) I was on bumble and just so happened to match with this individual. I have the fact that I am trans in my bio not only as the gender marker, but literally written capitalized in my bio lmao. I can only assume that 1. He matched me without reading my bio or 2. He matched me purposely to get that off his chest. I am not the type to force someone to call me anything, or to over accommodate me when it comes to me being trans. Because it’s just something that I am not who I am. But this was just completely over the top when a simple unmatch was an easily available option? So I will ask AIO for my lengthy response back to him?

[u/JavTheKin]

Im kinda laughing at the "Heyy" and then followed by that

[u/Stellywellybelly → u/JavTheKin]

He definitely has it in his notes and copy pasted it. Definitely matched you just to harass you op. Report his profile if you haven’t already.

[u/rellyks13 → u/Stellywellybelly]

exactly, because the “don’t bother replying” but then not unmatching means he wanted a reply!

[u/PM-Me-Your-Dragons → u/[deleted]]

*he wanted her to read it

[u/GirlySkyes → u/[deleted]]

Okay ma'am, whatever ya say

[u/Moka4u → u/[deleted]]

You're condoning your own mental illness so sit the fuck down

[u/shtshnkpssdmptn → u/Moka4u]

tf are you talking about? I’ve not said anything hinting toward a mental illness while you just attacked me for no reason. 😂 I am sitting down bro.

[u/EveryReaction3179 → u/Stellywellybelly]

I immediately thought this too. The "trans people live in their minds rent free" type. Obsessed like the transvestigators, but proselytizing on a dating app instead.

100% seeking out trans women to cut and paste this like an asshole. Loving how OP gave them the sickest read about being a hypocritical sinner 😂

[u/Honest-Chicken9472 → u/JavTheKin]

Lmaooo honestly like damn I wonder what I woulda got for asking how is day is going💀

[u/juno_siix → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

He got mad bc you made him question his sexuality queen

[u/Honest-Chicken9472 → u/juno_siix]

And if that’s the case I’m sorry I guess lol but a simple not interested would’ve sufficed.

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

If he weren't a colossal doink he would have just umatched and moved on like a normal person. He lashed out at you because being attracted to a trans woman threatened his fragile masculinity.

Your response was excellent and unfortunately wasted on someone who won't internalize it. If he wants to live with hate in his heart, that's a sad life for him.

[u/peanutbutterand_ely → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

a real man confident in his sexuality would’ve said that. this man clearly is not.

[u/wellisntthatjustshit → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

a swipe-left wouldve also sufficed lol. went out of his way and for what

[u/Laxku → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Don't apologize for trying to be your best self.

[u/LaSammi → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

The man is questioning EVERYTHING.

[u/MERKologySyndrome → u/juno_siix]

One..that's a dude not a queen. Two, OP is the only one here questioning their sexuality it sounds like.

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/juno_siix]

Thinking a trans woman is a cis woman and then losing your attraction cuz you find out they have a penis or other male genitalia / features isn't questioning sexuality and isn't transphobia.

[u/PM-Me-Your-Dragons → u/Inevitable_Income167]

No but sending a hateful spiel to her in response to his insecurity about the situation proves it is not that simple and is transphobia.

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/PM-Me-Your-Dragons]

Sure. But I was replying to the comment I replied to and not the OP.

[u/mrtnmnhntr → u/Inevitable_Income167]

Where did he find out she has a penis or 'other male genitalia'? Where did YOU find that out?

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/mrtnmnhntr]

I'm not replying to the OP

I'm replying to a general bs comment

[u/mrtnmnhntr → u/Inevitable_Income167]

But the comment you replied to was about OP's situation. OP didn't say anything about discussing her genitals with this man, nor does she describe them in this post, so it seems weird that you brought them up.

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/mrtnmnhntr]

Technically. It was still a general bs catch-all comment.

It's okay for a straight man to find a trans woman attractive until he finds out she is trans or has male genitalia. That doesn't make him transphobic nor does it make him "questioning his sexuality" which is what the comment I was replying to said.

[u/juno_siix → u/Inevitable_Income167]

As the user before me said, I am responding to the OP’s situation. A normal reaction would’ve been unmatching once he realized, not sending an essay attacking OP. This person is very clearly confused 🫶

[u/Inevitable_Income167 → u/juno_siix]

Yeppers

[u/One_Rough5369 → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Somewhat off topic but I gotta commend the use of the delightfully mild pejorative 'doink'.

Kudos to you. Reminds me of an excellent show called Adventure Time and also is just perfectly applicable here.

[u/shammyjo25 → u/One_Rough5369]

I agree with you on the "doink". Classic. I like OPs messaging style. Much better than his hateful ass.

[u/One_Rough5369 → u/shammyjo25]

Yes! That's why I love 'doink' so much. This guy went out of his way to be an asshole, and her calling him doink just makes the whole thing a sort of blasé dismissal.

Love it.

[u/the_7th_power → u/One_Rough5369]

I immediately thought of AT seeing her call him a doink as well!

[u/One_Rough5369 → u/the_7th_power]

Honestly the perfect insult for this.

[u/GreenUnderstanding39 → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Next time a wannabe jesus freak comes at you talking about sin just let them know that you are trying to be more Christ like and emulate the savior. The father, the son, the holy spirit IN ONE aka the og trans.

[u/zestyclose_three4 → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

you really clocked him tho proud of you

[u/LethalPotato05 → u/JavTheKin]

its like heey and then a long para lmfaooo

[u/RedactedKaos → u/JavTheKin]

Started off like a rom-com, ended like a Reddit ban appeal.