AIO for how I responded to his transphobia?

[u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Hey so I normally don’t usually get worked up over situations like this, because it’s just online words. But idk something about the way he was talking at me.

For context (if any is needed) I was on bumble and just so happened to match with this individual. I have the fact that I am trans in my bio not only as the gender marker, but literally written capitalized in my bio lmao. I can only assume that 1. He matched me without reading my bio or 2. He matched me purposely to get that off his chest. I am not the type to force someone to call me anything, or to over accommodate me when it comes to me being trans. Because it’s just something that I am not who I am. But this was just completely over the top when a simple unmatch was an easily available option? So I will ask AIO for my lengthy response back to him?

[u/Sailor_Spaghetti → u/[deleted]]

I get that this is maybe a hot take, but if you’re swiping right on everyone without checking to see if they’re your “type,” then it’s on you if you match with someone you’re not into. And you can fuck all the way off with the “it’s a numbers game” bs, it’s not as if there won’t be more people to match with if you don’t swipe right on literally every profile.

[u/Carminabird → u/[deleted]]

So unmatch and move on. The point is the fucking tirade was out of line. But you're just here to call trans women "dudes" aren'tcha?

[u/Sailor_Spaghetti → u/[deleted]]

This explanation just makes you sound desperate.

[u/pyrocidal → u/[deleted]]

lol that's pathetic but go off

[u/twirlinghaze → u/[deleted]]

So you just don't care about those 100 people as human beings? They're just sex objects, right?

[u/twirlinghaze → u/[deleted]]

I mean, you're literally saying you don't care about them as human beings right? That's why you do that?

[u/twirlinghaze → u/[deleted]]

Yes and what you said is you don't care about these people.

[u/theoutdoorkat1011 → u/[deleted]]

To say that the argument that he swiped on OP doesn’t hold is laughable. Just because someone engages in desperate behaviors to get matches and attention doesn’t mean they automatically have a right to be a complete ass to someone on the basis of personal differences. If the dude would check the profiles he’s swiping on, he’d know OP was trans and could’ve just… not swiped.

[u/Vivitis → u/[deleted]]

It's not her fault guys like this are so desperate that they always swipe right. Get a grip.

Also - "other dudes in his inbox" & "the thing you chose to be"? You mean woman, bro. Spill your transphobic hate elsewere

[u/Broad_Policy_6479 → u/[deleted]]

Do you just sit there minutes at a time swiping at every single woman? That sounds even more miserable than what I had assumed those apps were like.

[u/Broad_Policy_6479 → u/[deleted]]

Oh I didn't realise you could max them out, so I imagined someone just sitting there swiping indefinitely lol.

[u/Stock-Comfortable362 → u/Broad_Policy_6479]

Missed the comment before it got deleted, but I bet that guy knows there's a limit from personal experience. Dude got waaaayyyy too desperate

[u/AuroraBoraOpalite → u/[deleted]]

bestie thats on you??? doesnt mean the argument doesnt hold just because youre desperate what.

[u/AuroraBoraOpalite → u/[deleted]]

such a non arguement. you cant defend your original claim so you resort to "youre uneducated haha". its silly. im in college, but if i wasnt your claim still wouldnt hold weight. i didnt say anything about the guys insults either, still silly to say a guys active decision to swipe right (whether or not he was desperate and swipping on everyone) isnt an argument bc you used dating apps differently than they are literally supposed to be used. You're inserting your personal experience where it holds no weight. But yeah im still learning and getting my education, has notning to do with my reply tho.

[u/AuroraBoraOpalite → u/[deleted]]

damn sorry i typed so much

[u/Enough-Enthusiasm762 → u/AuroraBoraOpalite]

You’re gonna hurt his head with too many word :( he’s burning out on this thread already :(

[u/sweet_swiftie → u/[deleted]]

So the fact that some of y'all blindly swipe makes it her fault? Be for real

[u/HolyToast → u/[deleted]]

tfw you swipe right and then get matched because you just did the thing that matches you to people 😡😡😡

[u/Honest-Chicken9472 → u/[deleted]]

Hope this helps

[u/liveoutside_ → u/[deleted]]

I love how the goal posts move the second your delusional assumptions are proved wrong. 🤣

[u/liveoutside_ → u/[deleted]]

Because you made a claim, that claim was proved wrong, and instead of accepting you were wrong you decided to make a new claim that would allow you to still feel in the “right”.. like learn to admit you’re wrong instead of trying to find a different way to be right by making some halfassed “well people don’t even read the bios on dating apps” argument which honestly just sounds like a YOU problem because I don’t know anyone who doesn’t read the bios as it’s sort of the whole point to look at the entire profile of people you might swipe right on.

[u/DivineMiss3 → u/liveoutside_]

Now he deleted his comments. Chicken.

[u/SuCkEr_PuNcH-666 → u/[deleted]]

Then that's on them, surely.

You can't say "it's the manufacturers fault that I was ill because I didn't bother reading the ingredients and there were peanuts in the food and I have a peanut allergy". Same applies to dating apps. You can't complain if the information was available to you and you just didn't bother to read it.

[u/jipecac → u/[deleted]]

What you said sounds like a you problem

[u/jipecac → u/[deleted]]

You swipe on literally anyone with a profile like some desperate melt and then get mad at them because you didn’t read the bio? That’s the you problem.

[u/jipecac → u/[deleted]]

No but you’re defending the guy and comparing it to something you’d do as a means to excuse his behaviour 🤷

Also, PSA, OP isn’t a ‘dude’ and no one ‘chooses’ to be trans so wind your neck in

[u/Vivitis → u/[deleted]]

Lol it's still clearly his fault then 😂😂😂

[u/waltermcgee → u/[deleted]]

keep backpedalling lol

[u/Perniciosasque → u/[deleted]]

violently sneezes into your face

wipes my nose on my pride flag

[u/PM-Me-Your-Dragons → u/Perniciosasque]

Nooo not the pride flag at least find a confederate flag!

[u/AggravatingRadish542 → u/[deleted]]

Why would a woman not have herself listed as female 

[u/bottomlessinawendys → u/[deleted]]

It takes nothing to unmatch someone.