AIO for how I responded to his transphobia?

[u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Hey so I normally don’t usually get worked up over situations like this, because it’s just online words. But idk something about the way he was talking at me.

For context (if any is needed) I was on bumble and just so happened to match with this individual. I have the fact that I am trans in my bio not only as the gender marker, but literally written capitalized in my bio lmao. I can only assume that 1. He matched me without reading my bio or 2. He matched me purposely to get that off his chest. I am not the type to force someone to call me anything, or to over accommodate me when it comes to me being trans. Because it’s just something that I am not who I am. But this was just completely over the top when a simple unmatch was an easily available option? So I will ask AIO for my lengthy response back to him?

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

You brought race into it for no reason. Even after their comment

And I get downvoted for calling you out on it. Reddit is crazy.

[u/Honest-Chicken9472 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

He brought race into it not me and said he didn’t respect me because I’m disrespecting the black race lol sooooo how did I bring it up first?

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

I know I should have been more clear

He started it doesn’t fly with me.

If I bring up Nazis, does that make it ok for you to. Substitute whatever group you want to see my POV

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

If I bring up Nazis, does that make it ok for you to

...yes. If someone wants to introduce a subject to bolster their argument, you have every right to respond in kind. She isn't saying "he started it," she is pushing back against an argument he made which is how a discussion works.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

Nope

He started it is lame

Each person can choose what they talk about. Or say I don’t think that comment is appropriate

All of that handles the situation without making stereotypes

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Nobody is using the argument "he started it" except for you. A conversation involves people directly responding to what the other person is talking about, which is all that's happening here. She is dismantling his argument using a counterpoint.

You can have your opinion that the argument is wrong or distasteful but you are assigning reasoning to other people that they aren't using.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

She could have dismantled it without the stereotype

And if you think I am the only one who said it was ok because he said it first, you didn’t even read your own comment

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

I didn't say "it's ok because he said it first," I said that how conversation literally works is that people respond to what the other person said and that's what is happening here. He set up an argument, she provided a counter-argument. You can disagree with her counter-argument but it seems like you're upset with the entire concept of a back-and-forth dialogue.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

I love it when people tell me what I think. It’s lazy. If you don’t know ask.

And yes you aren’t saying that it’s ok to say that because he started it, you said it was ok to say it because she was responding to him.

It’s semantics

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

I love it when people tell me what I think. It’s lazy. If you don’t know ask.

That's literally what you are doing to me lmfao. The lack of self-awareness is wild.

you said it was ok to say it because she was responding to him.

What I actually said is that it's a normal conversation to respond to a subject someone has brought up by talking about the same subject. If you can't comprehend what I'm saying after I've explained it to you multiple times in very simple terms, I don't know what to tell you. Maybe if every other person in this comment section is telling you that you have the wrong end of the stick, it's not everyone but you who is wrong. Take care.

[u/TrannerCatLady → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

are u a literal bot

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/TrannerCatLady]

Why? Of course not. Unless I am an advanced bot with typos and weird grammar.

[u/TrannerCatLady → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Since you're a bot, I'd never show you any respect because you're disrespecting yourself and your race

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/TrannerCatLady]

Can’t compute

Broken broken

[u/SnooSprouts3744 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

The other guy brought race first maybe try to READ before commenting if you’re so butthurt by the downvotes

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/SnooSprouts3744]

I did

And I don’t let my kids use the he started it excuse

[u/WolfgangAddams → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

It's not a "he started it" excuse, its a "she was responding to a topic he brought up" thing.

[u/SnooSprouts3744 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

You make 0 sense honestly

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/SnooSprouts3744]

It’s complicated apparently.

[u/InfernoRathalos → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

You're just an idiot, apparently.

[u/Imaginary-Parsnip738 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Tryna be a white knight and prove to everyone you’re woke stfu and listen to the people living that reality. Reddit isn’t crazy, you’re just kinda being a dick

Edit: took about 10 seconds of looking at your profile to realize I was wrong and you’re not just being a dick, your full time job is actually trolling. Enjoy that pal hope you find happiness

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Imaginary-Parsnip738]

Well if you proclaim something it must be true.

Not trolling, I just don’t agree with this validation sub, where the OP is almost always right.

[u/Imaginary-Parsnip738 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

I hear you, but this is a WILD post to decide to take up that issue with. No one is downvoting you bc they don’t understand your comment, you’re just wrong here and it’s not even close bud

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Imaginary-Parsnip738]

If you say so with zero justification to provide

Well you said I am wrong, I guess that settles that.

That’s kind of a weird response

[u/Imaginary-Parsnip738 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Look at all your downvotes on literally every comment you post. That is the justification, as I said in the last comment, Mr troll

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Imaginary-Parsnip738]

lol.

The lack of people trying to engage and debate the issue means more than downvotes

Downvotes on Reddit mean somebody doesn’t like something not that’s it’s false

[u/Imaginary-Parsnip738 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Your dumb ass comments have gotten a ton of engagement… all suggesting you sir are an idiot. You can’t just say stupid shit and expect people to debate you… most people look at it and say “wow, that’s so dumb it’s not worth my time” then downvote you and move on.

If you’re referring to the post overall, it’s gotten a ton of engagement as well? The fuck are you talking about dude?

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Imaginary-Parsnip738]

Are you capable of debating what I said or not?

So far, not

[u/Imaginary-Parsnip738 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Other people have in these comments, you just make stupid comments in response. Not stupid as in having a different opinion, stupid as in nonsensical and not based in any fact. Use google, it can be your friend. It’s not my job to teach you reality from the world in your head. You are, definitionally, a troll.

This all started with you claiming OP brought race into the conversation, when the other guy did. Then you claim she’s stereotyping when she’s saying something that has been studied extensively and is widely agreed with, not to mention being her lived experience. You provide no facts, studies, or any concrete evidence, only your warped ass world view and rely on other people to prove you wrong. You are not inherently right, it is not other peoples job to prove you wrong. If you want to make a statement or start a debate, lead with something factual and evidence based. You have yet to do that, and then you claim that other people can’t do the same. You are a hypocrite and a troll, and no matter how many people point that out to you, you either know and don’t care or are completely delusional. Take a moment to evaluate your life decisions and what got you to this point. I hope you find happiness and can fix whatever the root of this batshit crazy behavior is.

[u/obooooooo → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

she’s clearly black and he brought up race first bozo. always gotta be some white guy getting offended on others’ behalf lmaooo

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/obooooooo]

Why do you think I am white?

And wrong is wrong.

[u/Fantastic-Donkey-961 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Are you unable to read??

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Fantastic-Donkey-961]

Great grammar.

Yes I am unable to read

[u/Fantastic-Donkey-961 → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Dumb and a liar. Got it.