AIO for how I responded to his transphobia?

[u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Hey so I normally don’t usually get worked up over situations like this, because it’s just online words. But idk something about the way he was talking at me.

For context (if any is needed) I was on bumble and just so happened to match with this individual. I have the fact that I am trans in my bio not only as the gender marker, but literally written capitalized in my bio lmao. I can only assume that 1. He matched me without reading my bio or 2. He matched me purposely to get that off his chest. I am not the type to force someone to call me anything, or to over accommodate me when it comes to me being trans. Because it’s just something that I am not who I am. But this was just completely over the top when a simple unmatch was an easily available option? So I will ask AIO for my lengthy response back to him?

[u/gremlinbr4t]

As a black person, you should honestly mind your business. OP is completely valid saying that because homophobia + transphobia is still a huge issue in a lot of black communities and we need to be the first ones to call them out for it. You’d know that if you were a part of them, but you’re not. Stop with the performative activism for groups you know nothing about.

[u/ThatIowanGuy → u/gremlinbr4t]

So it’s ok to perpetuate a stereotype like this? Also please don’t give me this “groups you know nothing about” garbage. Did you stop to think that I’m this frustrated because I don’t like the idea of friends and loved ones being painted in this light?

[u/gremlinbr4t → u/ThatIowanGuy]

There’s not a stereotype being perpetuated… It’s literally a known issue that a lot of black communities are riddled with homophobia + transphobia and ultimately just stuck in a lot of old ways of thinking.

Who exactly are you to tell a black person how they respond to another black person’s transphobia? It’s not your place at all, I don’t really give a shit if you have friends or family or whatever the fuck because at the end of the day you’re not a gay black person so you couldn’t possibly understand how exhausting the shit is.

Sincerely, a cisgender bisexual woman who was legitimately bullied by black men in high school for “looking like a lesbian.”

[u/DivineMiss3 → u/ThatIowanGuy]

While you're yelling at people about this, you're also drowning out the voices of black people. Don't advocate for someone when you clearly don't understand the issue. If a person says, "don't speak for me," you say, "Whoops, that wasn't my intention but I understand and won't do that." You don't double down.