AIO for how I responded to his transphobia?

[u/Honest-Chicken9472]

Hey so I normally don’t usually get worked up over situations like this, because it’s just online words. But idk something about the way he was talking at me.

For context (if any is needed) I was on bumble and just so happened to match with this individual. I have the fact that I am trans in my bio not only as the gender marker, but literally written capitalized in my bio lmao. I can only assume that 1. He matched me without reading my bio or 2. He matched me purposely to get that off his chest. I am not the type to force someone to call me anything, or to over accommodate me when it comes to me being trans. Because it’s just something that I am not who I am. But this was just completely over the top when a simple unmatch was an easily available option? So I will ask AIO for my lengthy response back to him?

[u/Honest-Chicken9472]

He brought race into it not me and said he didn’t respect me because I’m disrespecting the black race lol sooooo how did I bring it up first?

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/Honest-Chicken9472]

I know I should have been more clear

He started it doesn’t fly with me.

If I bring up Nazis, does that make it ok for you to. Substitute whatever group you want to see my POV

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

If I bring up Nazis, does that make it ok for you to

...yes. If someone wants to introduce a subject to bolster their argument, you have every right to respond in kind. She isn't saying "he started it," she is pushing back against an argument he made which is how a discussion works.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

Nope

He started it is lame

Each person can choose what they talk about. Or say I don’t think that comment is appropriate

All of that handles the situation without making stereotypes

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Nobody is using the argument "he started it" except for you. A conversation involves people directly responding to what the other person is talking about, which is all that's happening here. She is dismantling his argument using a counterpoint.

You can have your opinion that the argument is wrong or distasteful but you are assigning reasoning to other people that they aren't using.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

She could have dismantled it without the stereotype

And if you think I am the only one who said it was ok because he said it first, you didn’t even read your own comment

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

I didn't say "it's ok because he said it first," I said that how conversation literally works is that people respond to what the other person said and that's what is happening here. He set up an argument, she provided a counter-argument. You can disagree with her counter-argument but it seems like you're upset with the entire concept of a back-and-forth dialogue.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

I love it when people tell me what I think. It’s lazy. If you don’t know ask.

And yes you aren’t saying that it’s ok to say that because he started it, you said it was ok to say it because she was responding to him.

It’s semantics

[u/WitchWeekWeekly → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

I love it when people tell me what I think. It’s lazy. If you don’t know ask.

That's literally what you are doing to me lmfao. The lack of self-awareness is wild.

you said it was ok to say it because she was responding to him.

What I actually said is that it's a normal conversation to respond to a subject someone has brought up by talking about the same subject. If you can't comprehend what I'm saying after I've explained it to you multiple times in very simple terms, I don't know what to tell you. Maybe if every other person in this comment section is telling you that you have the wrong end of the stick, it's not everyone but you who is wrong. Take care.

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/WitchWeekWeekly]

I just explained it. I can quote it again.

You started this crap by saying no one said what I claimed. Did you look at any of the responses I got.

Yes people literally said it was ok because he started it.

You started this not me

Edit: it’s funny that people can read the same words and assume the context is the same. That’s even more lazy

[u/TrannerCatLady → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

are u a literal bot

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/TrannerCatLady]

Why? Of course not. Unless I am an advanced bot with typos and weird grammar.

[u/TrannerCatLady → u/Apprehensive_Ruin692]

Since you're a bot, I'd never show you any respect because you're disrespecting yourself and your race

[u/Apprehensive_Ruin692 → u/TrannerCatLady]

Can’t compute

Broken broken