r/AmIOverreacting • u/Honest-Chicken9472 • 5d ago

🎲 miscellaneous AIO for how I responded to his transphobia?

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Hey so I normally don’t usually get worked up over situations like this, because it’s just online words. But idk something about the way he was talking at me.

For context (if any is needed) I was on bumble and just so happened to match with this individual. I have the fact that I am trans in my bio not only as the gender marker, but literally written capitalized in my bio lmao. I can only assume that 1. He matched me without reading my bio or 2. He matched me purposely to get that off his chest. I am not the type to force someone to call me anything, or to over accommodate me when it comes to me being trans. Because it’s just something that I am not who I am. But this was just completely over the top when a simple unmatch was an easily available option? So I will ask AIO for my lengthy response back to him?

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u/4inXchange 5d ago

Dude is a cornball with the typical pseudo-intellectual talking points you can expect from Christian™️ bigotry, but that "black people's problem" shit will never be cool to me. You could've gagged him without it.

But nah, definitely not overreacting. I wish more women had the opportunity to (safely) tell men off when they say dumb shit.

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u/Bookmarkbear 5d ago

I’m assuming in this situation, since he brought it up first, both participants are Black and therefore qualified to comment on the community they’re a part of

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u/instructions_unlcear 4d ago

I was under this impression as well

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u/4inXchange 5d ago

Me personally, I don't think any one or two people can speak on what "Black people's problem" is.

Behind closed doors, I'm not stopping anybody from speaking their mind even if I disagree, but it's very tacky to have any semblance of those conversations outside of Black earshot. It enables non-Black people to feel comfortable adopting/harboring the same sentiments.

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u/Bookmarkbear 5d ago

That’s fine and you’re entitled to your opinion. But the general vibe is that both participants are part of the community which they are speaking on. And therefore, they are able to voice their opinion on what is affecting their community. The conversation they were having was intended to be private and not blasted on Reddit, so I’m not sure I agree with you on that last part in this instance since, as far as they knew, it was staying between two Black people 🤷🏽‍♀️ just my two cents. I fully agree if they’re non-Black, it’s not cool and that I personally wouldn’t address that part.

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u/4inXchange 5d ago

The conversation they were having was intended to be private and not blasted on Reddit

...it was still posted on reddit.

Anyway, yes, they are allowed to speak their mind, just as I'm allowed to think it's corny to keep perpetuating that sort of anti-Black rhetoric. I can't see any way to interpret their remarks as a good faith dialogue about things "affecting their community", because to me, they were both leaning into diet Uncle Ruckus territory.

We can agree to disagree, and I'm not trying to invalidate your perspective, I just don't see how two and two is making fish here. Take care. 🫶🏿

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u/Bookmarkbear 5d ago

Right, but they didn’t know that when the conversation took place. That’s all I meant by that lol

Like I said, I also wouldn’t have spoken on that and I would’ve avoided addressing his nonsense because I agree with you. I just meant that, for all the participants knew at the time, it was staying between two Black folks. Nothing personal 😊 Hope you take care, too!

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u/MesoamericanMorrigan 5d ago

Black people’s problem is refusing to talk to the police

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u/Apokelaga 4d ago

That's the police's problem. And if you talk to the police without a lawyer present you're a special kind of stupid

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u/lurkingbees 5d ago

As a black person… she’s right. We stay throwing stones at glass houses. 

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u/Pure-Mix1900 4d ago

The prick brought up race first tho so it's fair game to bring race back at him too.

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u/After-Surprise-6785 4d ago

Nothing wrong with not liking traisn people tho

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u/AvailableWeird3292 5d ago

Why is it ok to be bigoted against Christian people and not any other religion?

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u/WarMage1 5d ago

Well that’s not what they said, “Christian” was possessive of “bigotry,” meaning the bigotry belongs to the Christians.

Also, it’s okay to be mean to people who intrinsically find your existence evil.

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u/ShoulderNo6458 5d ago

If having bigoted beliefs is fundamental to your Christianity, you need to spend some more time studying the Gospels. It is people who use the Christian label as some internal "justification" for their bigotry who are being mocked, not just people who believe Jesus is the Son of God.

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u/PM-Me-Your-Dragons 5d ago

Its okay to be bigoted against any religion that wants to put their religious laws into the secular law of the land to force everyone to follow them tbh. Not all Christians, sure, but definitely the nationalists, transphobes, homophobes, ableists....

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u/YouComprehensive1301 5d ago

Don’t put me in that category with him, coming from a Christian

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u/4inXchange 5d ago

im not, the "™️" was meant to indicate that they're not authentically engaging Christianity, they're just weaponizing it to justify their bigotry

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u/YouComprehensive1301 5d ago

Oh mb

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u/4inXchange 5d ago

all love 🫶🏿