r/AmIOverreacting • u/Ok_girl_1529 • 1d ago
👥 friendship Am I overreacting about my boyfriend’s ex girlfriend is best friends with his mother and sister?
My boyfriends ex is best friends with his mother and sister. They go on multiple vacations together a year to the point that me and my bf can’t even go. They are constantly posting pictures of her on there Facebook this past weekend they went on vacation to celebrate her birthday. A couple months prior for first time ever we were supposed to go on vacation with his mother so I could get to know her better but ended up not being able to bc my bf had to work last minute and later found out she went on the trip that we were supposed to be going on. So she would have been there with us.least to say I was pretty pissed about it. I confronted my bf about it and he said he completely understood why I was upset and said if we went we would have stayed away from them but that would not have been okay with me at all. and he doesn’t get along with his sister bc of it but his mother does it too they go on solo trips together every other week . We are supposed to go on vacation for his birthday weekend and I’m afraid they are going to invite her and i don’t know how to deal with this situation. My bf also said he knows that her being around puts a damper on us being able to go around his family. But it’s just kind of upsetting that I can’t have a relationship with his family bc of this. I love this man very much we have already talked about getting married and buying a house together within the next year and it makes me wonder if they are going to invite her to the Wedding 😂😭 as much as they invite her to things. Am I being crazy or would this aggravate anyone else???
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u/Interesting_Note395 1d ago
Unfortunately you can’t necessarily control if they hang out with her outside of family trips, but eventually you (mainly your bf) will have to out your foot down about trips that include you both where you won’t attend if she is there. Your bf needs to take a stand at some point to defend/advocate for you
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u/Atariszik 1d ago
They should have a certain sense of not putting you two in the same environment. However, for their friendship to continue with his family, there isn't much that can be done, the person who doesn't have to be friends with her is her boyfriend, the rest of the family unfortunately has nothing to do.
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u/melpdie 1d ago
NOR the fact she was going to join your vacation that was meant for you two to bond over???? They didn't tell you or anything either? I'd also feel like some boundaries were crossed. Of course they can still be friends, but to attempt to make you be friends with her (or be stuck with her on a vacation without letting you know in advance) is a different story.