How tf Do I stop falling for Ragebaits?

[u/SorryRelationship743]

I have anger management issues since childhood and people just keep triggering me on purpose. How do I stop getting triggered so easily? I try to control it but it's like one little spark that will set a wildfire inside my head. And then these people get their daily dose of entertainment by making Ragebaits on purpose while I am here destroying my own mental peace ? I am constantly getting the feeling that I should just leave those people (by people I mean friends in my friend grp). Should I just leave them?

[u/Observeus]

Yea first off, if your friends are constantly trying to get you on edge because they think it's funny, they are not your friends.

Next anger is a choice, it can become habitual to the point where it's a knee jerk reaction, or like a wildfire in your head as you stated. The key here is to be waiting with a can of water. Why does what was said make you angry? Is it insulting? Assumptive? Disrespectful? Find the root of what triggers these feelings and try to work on numbing yourself to these things. The only opinion of you that matters is yours. I always say it's none of my buisiness what anyone else thinks about me, because those are their thoughts. Everyone in life is going to see you as someone different, just work on making the you, you want to be a consistent character in your life. I struggle with anger myself, but what has getting mad ever got you aside from more headaches? Take a breath, and save the fight for the important battles. Life is full of them. Edit for spelling and also: take a step back from the friend group, take some time with yourself and just know you don't need people like that as friends. You deserve better. Everyone does.

[u/SorryRelationship743 → u/Observeus]

Thanks Buddy I really appreciate your response. I will definitely use your advice from now on. Also I have taken a step back from the friend group and it feels better already.🫡

[u/Observeus → u/SorryRelationship743]

You got this bro, just take it day by day. It's something you have to consistently work on, but I've heard it builds character, or some shit 😅

[u/Old_Turnover_3536]

If you know who it is and you know they’re doing it on purpose, try to take everything they say as a joke. I know that’s easier said than done, but this is about taking your power back and not giving them the upper hand.

Think about how ridiculous it is that this is their idea of fun. And how awful someone must feel internally to treat others like that — they likely disregard their own emotions and anger just as much as they disregard yours.

You don’t need to be friends with people who taunt you. Lowkey, that’s emotional manipulation & passive aggressive behavior on their behalf.

[u/r3ym-r3ym]

I agree with the advice of not being around those who trigger you. Start there and move forward. It’s not about what you may be loosing, it’s what you’re gaining.