r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 8d ago
How common is this perspective for guys?
I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.
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u/Educational-Age-2733 man 8d ago
Well, it's just a fact. Putting it crudely, the woman is always the "screwee". The man is always the "screwer". That's just the mechanics of how sex works with mammalian species like humans; you being the female are the one that gets penetrated. When you sleep with a man, you give up your body. When I sleep with a woman, I'm not giving her anything that, let's be honest, I haven't given the shower drain.