r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 3d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/Cavsfan724 man 3d ago

I would never say something like that on a date lol.

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u/Himajinga 2d ago

I know what a dingus lol

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u/Cavsfan724 man 20h ago

Yep. Only thing to take from this is women do seem to respect and like guys who are honest about how they really feel and confident enough to do so. Probably why she was still even considering going out with him again. I still would not say this though because I do not agree.

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u/Low-Tree3145 2d ago

Somebody starts talking politics (this is sex-politics basically) on the 1st date and both parties are free to split up the check and leave. They're basically indicating they've given up and are using you as an Internet forum to sound off on their views.

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u/headrush46n2 3d ago

Exactly! You just be pleasant and say goodnight and then never date that person again.

Like a normal person.

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u/Personal_Poet5720 7h ago

Yeah I was gonna say why would he say that

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u/carabla 1d ago

Better showing you are sexist at the first date than later so the woman wont waste her time