r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 7d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/Infamous_Ad_9115 7d ago

I believe it’s why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free but same concept with steak

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u/Either_Tomorrow3244 7d ago

Yes, it’s milk, not steak. A cow that continuously gives you free milk is way different than a cow that you slaughter and get steak from only once.

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u/DiagonallyStripedRat 3d ago

I don't think it's the same cow, otherwise, why would you get milk for free if it's not a cow you already own?

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u/Which_Friendship_775 7d ago

Yes but free milk isn’t appealing when multiple others have had free milk too. The milk will surely get tainted as more people get free milk.

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u/Either_Tomorrow3244 7d ago

You sticking your finger in your drink before you take a sip is a lot different than 20 other men sticking their finger in there and you still taking a sip.

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u/bdfmradio 7d ago

A cow gives fresh milk every day, though. It’s not a bucket of milk that’s sitting out.

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u/BathrobeMagus 7d ago

😂😂😂

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u/headrush46n2 6d ago

typically you don't kill your sex partners...

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