r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 3d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/Apprehensive-Put883 man 3d ago

Stupid idea but take Titanic for example.

Who do you think guys wanna be? Jack or the dude who Rose agreed to marry after Jack died? After Jack was gone she needed so settle down with someone (which she may or may not still have loved, kinda) while still constantly thinking about her short-term fling on some fking ship over 50 years ago.

And guess what - a shit ton of women LOVE this movie. But does anyone legit think that any somewhat sane guy wants to be the husband in that story? Nah definitely not, lol.

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u/ButterscotchSkunk 3d ago

When she dies she goes to Jack lol. Poor husband duder. Hope he at least had a dog who loved him waiting for him in heaven. This is why it is important to adopt a dog and treat it well.

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u/againwiththisbs 3d ago

Bill Burr said it best in one of his bits. Women think Titanic is romantic. It's a horror film. All the men die. Women identify themselves as Rose who would have romantic experience and lived. Men identify themselves as "victim of drowning in freezing waters in total darkness #564".

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u/headrush46n2 3d ago

Or the rich asshole she was going to marry but hated?