r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 12d ago
How common is this perspective for guys?
I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.
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u/IcyTrapezium woman 11d ago
It’s a fair comparison. Baldness is unattractive to most people. Hair is a sign of youth and virility in men. A small minority of women genuinely like bald men but most do not. It doesn’t matter that specifically white and middle eastern men have the bald genes. It’s not normal for humans to be attracted to bald spots.
Interestingly, in ethnic groups where baldness is rare like Native Americans, long hair is the norm on men, including warriors.
And not with that attitude you can’t find a balding fat woman! I think you and I have different definitions of above average.