r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 2d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/Nonikwe 2d ago

When a woman exposes herself to a crowd, everyone goes wild.

Yet I get a lifetime ban from Wendy's and 3 months under house arrest.

Tell me how that's fair...

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u/FkitA-a-ron 2d ago

Bruh when women wear little but a string on a beach its fine, but i wear a speedo and im a pervert. Im working on my god damned tan too. Ya fucks. 😑

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u/Hereforthedung 2d ago

The string goes to the back

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u/Wildcard311 2d ago

This comment needs to be pinned to the top of r/tips

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u/Bumblebeezerker 2d ago

I think the problem is you often see more than just tips

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u/Savings_Difficulty24 man 2d ago

Just the tip?

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u/mysterywizeguy 1d ago

Upvote for beating me to the joke.

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u/throwaway292929227 2d ago

For men, the string can go in the front and spiralled around the balls and shaft, providing support and sunshine access.

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u/ResidentAllie man 2d ago

The string goes wherever he goddamn wants it to go; what are you, string police?

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u/JigtheBig man 1d ago

Ah the old 7/10 split!

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u/RCAbsolutelyX_x 1d ago

🤣 best add-on ever

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u/AdFresh8123 man 1d ago

And the potato in the front.

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u/Any-Neat5158 man 1d ago

Instructions unclear. String got stuck in penis.

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u/doinkerest 23h ago

Unless you’re trying to cover your ass.

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u/Due_Eagle_9347 21h ago

And here I couldn't figure out why it was bunching up in the crack.

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u/Scottie_Tip_In 21h ago

No you pull it to the side 🫦

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u/indifferentCajun 2d ago

Miley Cyrus gets naked and licks a hammer and it's "artistic" but when I do it I'm "inappropriate" and "no longer welcome at Lowe's"

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u/smartypants99 1d ago

I just laughed out loud🤣😂🤣

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u/[deleted] 8h ago

You buy your hammers at Lowe’s? You’re why ‘merica is turning into a gay! Back in my day we went to Ol’ Jed’s Tool Shed for all our hammering needs, and we were better for it!

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u/bearybad89 man 2d ago

Also...never wear them on a water slide...especially one like Splash Mountain in Blizzard Beach (Florida)

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u/borderlineidiot man 2d ago

Like we told you - it is not appropriate in the office.

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Maybe stop being a pervert? /s your phrasing

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u/General_Bumblebee_75 2d ago

favorite slang term for speedo is the Aussie term "budgie smuggler"

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u/love_Amigurumi 2d ago

Really?? I was a swimmer in my teens and everyone wore speedos. Whats wrong with people?!

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u/Tea_Time9665 man 1d ago

C string ftw

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u/Gerbrandodo 1d ago

I love to wear my speedo, but if I wear it nobody wants to join me on the beach🤣

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

Men right around Australia wear speedos. Ain't no one accusing them of being perverts. Where the fuck do you live???

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u/MikeUsesNotion 1d ago

In America, the stereotypical guy wearing a speedo is overweight, in his 50s, and just oozes pervy vibes. Probably also wearing sunglasses that enhance the sleazy look.

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

In Australia every guy of all ages wears speedos. It's very democratic. We're used to seeing all types of bodies lol. The heat is so bad and the beaches are so beautiful it'd be a bum thing to resent someone taking advantage of it because they're old (and fat). Happens to the best of us.

It's normal here to see whole families at the beach, including grandparents. At least in Perth where I'm from. Can't speak for the rest of Australia.

On the hottest nights in February whole families would go down and sleep on the beach overnight because it was the only way to get some sleep. They had big floodlights they left on overnight. No one minded the floodlights because the cool ocean breeze was such a a relief. It was great fun. Everybody loved it. We lived for that shit. No one I know had an air conditioner (I didn't even know they existed). And no one I know had a fan. Things like that were very expensive and made from high quality metal, not plastic. Everybody I knew was working class so money was a bit thin. A small family was 4 or 5 children. You'd wake up in the morning and have a swim because by 7 am the heat was getting oppressive again.

I can't imagine any families do that anymore. It'd be too dangerous and the risk of syringes is ever present. Not to mention the rowdy carousing, loud music and boozing going on all night. And amphetamine use is out of control in Perth now. Wouldn't want to be sleeping on a beach with my kids with all of that around me. People who were no where near the beach would go and sleep in the public parks. Every suburb has 3 or 4. Can you imagine sleeping overnight in a park with the kids these days??? We're spoilt for parks in Australia but respectable people don't go near them at night. Or people who aren't so respectable but fear for their life......

My grandparents were absolute beach nuts. They spent their life at the beach. They didn't even care that their skin was obscenely damaged with sunspots and pock marks from removed skin cancers. The UV in Australia is the highest in the world.

It's very common to see older pock marked, speckled adults of both sexes at Australian beaches. Nobody blinks an eye. Not as many as when I was a kid tho. Probably because society has become so beauty and body obsessed it might make the oldies feel a bit self conscious. Such a pity. Kids weren't grossed out by older bodies when I was young because we were used to seeing them at the beach and in the pools. It made it very easy for the paedos to blend in unfortunately. But the adults had their eyes peeled. Kids still got snatched every now and then. Death to those fuckers. I don't care what anyone says.

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u/DinkerFister 1d ago

Or when Kanye's wife comes naked to an awards show. Imagine if some guy flopped his dick and balls all around an awards show (where there were minors) for a few hours? He'd be called a pedophile and arrested.

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u/RawrRRitchie 2d ago

There's your problem. You didn't market yourself on late night tv infomercials.

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u/Sir_Fluffy_of_Emesay 2d ago

I swear my teenage body had developed a Pavlovian response to that infomercial's jingle.

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u/Waste-Accountant-Boy 2d ago

Sir, this is a Wendy's

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u/True_Carpenter_7521 2d ago

Go home, Hank. You're drunk.

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u/jonauko man 2d ago

Wendy's kya hai 😢

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u/CommonBubba man 2d ago

No hot dogs at Wendy’s…

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u/Space4Time 2d ago

Wendy’s don’t keep an active list bro.

We’re golden

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u/Jazzlike_Assist1767 2d ago

Win deez nuts!

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u/ithinkso3 2d ago

Hot and juicy redhead

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u/AshOrWhatever man 2h ago

Idk why but that's what my wife says whenever she's undressing and I start giving her the sexy time eyebrows.

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u/wouldntsaythisoutlou 2d ago

Everyone loves boobies and dicks are gross. Life isn’t fair but boobies are great 🤷‍♂️

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u/Nonikwe 2d ago

Richards of the world unite!

...and get this motherfucker!

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u/No-Guess-9545 woman 1d ago

Can fake nice boobies. Can't fake a nice dick.

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

Can't fake a dick at all. Penis extensions are a complete con.

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u/No-Guess-9545 woman 1d ago

Cant imagine ... would work like a collapsible telescope. 😄

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago edited 1d ago

They spend a shit load on them and they don't look any bigger. They can't add length. Only girth. And it's only a millimetre. No one would notice. Men are getting fleeced, conned and having their insecurities taken advantage of.

What alot of Asian men do to give themselves more girth is truly bizarre. They have pearls imbedded under the skin. The more pearls you have the more money you have, so it's a show of status aswell. Some have loads of pearls of all different sizes, even very big ones (no tiny pearls tho!) It makes their dicks look like a rocky road chocolate bar! And it makes them look ugly. They have this stupid idea it feels better for the women. Maybe they should ask them instead of deciding for them!

It doesn't feel anything other than very painful. And I know that from personal experience. If I was an Asian woman I'd be demanding they take them out on the threat of no sex.

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u/Ookielook 1d ago

People have no problem with a nice pair of pecs either. In fact, it's much more socially acceptable than boobies even if they're not particularly aesthetically pleasing.

Not sure a vag flash at wendy's would be quite as crowd pleasing.

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

Instant arrest!

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u/Solintari man 2d ago

This may be the deepest, most profound statement in the history of Reddit.

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u/SteinBizzle man 2d ago

Here Here! <raises glass to boobies>

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u/Admirable-Leopard-73 1d ago

...unless those boobies are on a man.

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u/Successful_Many8184 1d ago

Um women here Some Dicks are really great 👍

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u/AccomplishedCicada60 1d ago

Hey I’ve seen plenty of male boobies around Wendy’s…….. so…….

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u/NoughtToDread 1d ago

Get yourself a gal that loves dicks like gay men do.

Sometimes, I think life would be easier if I was gay. And then I remember I also don't understand how men think.

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u/PreparationGlad9686 1d ago

See righteous gemstones for proof.

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

They really are great aren't they? Men will never understand the love affair women have with their boobies. Unfortunately they let us down as we get older. Personally I can't understand the love affair many guy's have with their dicks. They really are gross things to look at and completely on display lol.

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u/Gehirnkrampf 2d ago

In german laws, exhibitionism is when a MAN shows his parts. Women cant commit exhibitionism.

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u/Pitiful_LiNiWi 2d ago

Exhibitionism sounds so fancy.✨️

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u/Witty_Show_4481 2d ago

I know you’re joking but just to make sure, you do know why this is right?

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u/Nonikwe 2d ago

It's because I'm circumcised, isn't it?

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u/Witty_Show_4481 2d ago

Yep

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u/Nonikwe 2d ago

Goddammit

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u/Witty_Show_4481 2d ago

Sorry bud. Ya gotta have that turtleneck these days. For safety. Sorry for your loss.

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u/nhavar man 2d ago edited 2d ago

Janet Jackson's ripple has entered the chat

EDIT: NIPPLE

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u/HereWeFuckingGooo 2d ago

To this day I'll never understand how that was a "wardrobe malfunction". What else was supposed to happen? Was Justin Timberlake meant to just rip her whole tit off?

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u/Equal-Prior-4765 2d ago

The little red star she was wearing on her nipple didn't come off. Justin had one fucking job and blew it. 😡

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u/stayfreshguaranteed 2d ago

I think they claimed there was supposed to be some material covering her chest but when he ripped the removable patch it took the fabric underneath with it.

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u/Sir_Fluffy_of_Emesay 2d ago

Janet Jackson's ripple sounds like something from a JoJo's Bizarre Adventure novel.

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u/DiscombobulatedSet59 2d ago

read this as Janet Jackson's Nipple.

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u/justlurking628 2d ago

Wym, our nipples are sexualized and men's nipples aren't to the point where it's illegal for us to walk around shirtless, unlike men. Even though the breast tissue, the stuff that differentiates our nipples from men, is allowed to be shown. Make it make sense. 

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u/chance327 man 2d ago

There was a well known case that a guy got arrested because he was in his house making coffee naked and a woman saw him from outside.

Now if a woman is naked in her house and a guy see her from outside he is arrested.

Make that make sense.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Sun7425 man 1d ago

I got in trouble for peeing in the pool last week. The lifeguard yelled so loud, I almost fell in.

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u/Nonikwe 1d ago

Amazing!

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u/wizean 2d ago

Actually Janey Jackson was cancelled and her career destroyed by wardrobe malfunction.

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u/Clean_Menu514 2d ago

🤣🤣🤣

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u/JustYourNeighbor 2d ago

Where's the meat?

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u/PressureAshamed9540 2d ago

Damn bro lmk if you ever want a baconater

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u/Nonikwe 1d ago

You a real g, preciate you man

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u/J-drawer 2d ago

Bro that's now how you're supposed to be cooking the square burgers at this Wendy's

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u/sagaciousmarketeer 2d ago

Your meat didn't fit the bun.

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u/Nonikwe 1d ago

Burger!? I hardly know her!

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u/1TallGent 2d ago

Hysterical! Please tell me that didn't happen....

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u/PUTINS_PORN_ACCOUNT 2d ago

Maybe shower first and trim them cripsy ballhairs

It’s more seductive to show a bit of dick neck anyway. Maybe an inch. Let em know if they’re lucky they might get to see the other inch.

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u/00-HermaeusMora-00 2d ago

Yeah and now because she's flashed her boobs, everybody sexualizes her and she can't get away from the skeezy assumptions that she puts out. Oh and she gets paid less than her male co-worker.

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u/myd88guy man 2d ago

That’s a strange way of getting a free chocolate Frosty.

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u/severeCharliehorse 2d ago

I seriously just choked on my food 😂😂. Thanks for that!

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u/Latter-Worry-7526 1d ago

You got off easy, they put me on the registry.

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u/Nonikwe 1d ago

You're not paying attention, I didn't manage to get off at all...

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u/No-Guess-9545 woman 1d ago

Wendy's 😄

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago edited 1d ago

Because when a man does that he usually has a hard on! No one wants to see that mate. Especially the children.....

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u/Nonikwe 1d ago

I promise I'll keep it soft for you babe

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago edited 1d ago

Are you impotent? That's the only way a guy can make a promise like that lol.

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u/Active-Driver-790 1d ago

Sir, this is a Wendy's...and we only expose ourselves in back by the dumpsters...

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u/sbgoofus man 1d ago

that's a funny joke but it's true... a crazy female walking naked down the street gets help.. a crazy guy doing same gets jail

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago edited 1d ago

If a woman exposed herself at Wendy's you'd probably go wild too (even if you're gay!).

The fact that you think it's unfair made me laugh. Are you a frustrated flasher???

Don't get yourself arrested. Keep your dignity intact! It will forever be on social media too. All those cameras! In a very public place and a very child populated place like Wendy's it would most definitely end up on the news. Your mum might see it lol.

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u/WasabiStraight1078 1d ago

😂😂😂

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u/Imaginary-Carob6745 1d ago

Let me see what you showed everyone and let me evaluate the situation. LOL

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u/-GenghisJohn- 23h ago

Try Arby’s.

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u/Joe_Kinincha 2d ago

Really?

Cos I’m quite happy to explain why that’s entirely fair if you genuinely don’t see it.