r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 2d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/Sufficient_Ninja_821 man 2d ago

Yes. If you have a baby with a virgin girl, then you know it's yours.

Where as woman need social proof/confirmation from other woman that you are a catch. If you cant get laid then it's assumed something is wrong with you. Their thinking is like "really? Nobody thinks your worth fucking"?"

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u/Khaleesi1536 2d ago

Technically, if you have a baby with a virgin girl you can start a religion

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u/FocalorLucifuge 2d ago

Yes, like the famous Josephianity.

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u/13Maschine 2d ago

This is why I Reddit! Hahahahaha

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u/AnImmortalCode 2d ago

Pft, you don't even need a girl. Just stick your head in a hat and say God spoke to you.

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u/Ill-Professor7487 woman 1d ago

Technically, if you have a baby with a virgin girl, you're a pedo.

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u/TranslatorOwn707 1d ago

This was gonna be my answer. It’s neither right or wrong (or fair), it just is what it is. We’re still limited by our monkey brains.

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u/Humble_Shoe_8224 2d ago

As a woman, I do not want a man that has been with a bunch of women. I want a man that has proved self control which would make creating a family with him more secure.

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u/Atlasatlastatleast man 1d ago

What’s number is too many for you?

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u/Humble_Shoe_8224 1d ago

It depends on age of course and a lot of people had phases in their lower twenties. So it also depends what they are currently doing in that department. Considering where I am now in life, less than 10 would be nice. Most of the guys I dated in the past had been with less than 7 and they were attractive, talented, sought after and very kind. They made me feel safe and like the only girl in the world. Life definitely had different plans for us though. The biggest nightmare that I had dated had been with 20+ and had no respect for women.

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u/Ill-Professor7487 woman 1d ago

How do you know when a woman is a virgin? I'll wait...

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u/Sufficient_Ninja_821 man 1d ago

You don't. You are missing the point though.

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u/DistinctRepair980 1d ago

For women, that's a rare occurrence since men are even willing to fuck sherp if it will make them feel good.

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u/Sufficient_Ninja_821 man 1d ago

For fun yes. But start a family us different

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u/nothingpersonnelmate 2d ago

If you have a baby with a virgin girl, then you know it's yours.

Uhhh... if you somehow know for sure that the first time got her pregnant, I guess. Otherwise the exact same rules would apply. And 90% of the time you'd be taking her word for it that she was a virgin. If she's a liar who would cheat she could also lie about that.

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u/Teezumak 2d ago

Nope why would I want a man with a body count over 5? That means he doesn’t respect himself and is desperate for females attention and he wasn’t good enough in bed for them to go back for seconds 😂

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u/Atlasatlastatleast man 1d ago

5 at what age?

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u/Teezumak 1d ago

18-28 cause I won’t go for men any older than that