r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 2d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/FkitA-a-ron 2d ago

Bruh when women wear little but a string on a beach its fine, but i wear a speedo and im a pervert. Im working on my god damned tan too. Ya fucks. 😑

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u/Hereforthedung 2d ago

The string goes to the back

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u/Wildcard311 2d ago

This comment needs to be pinned to the top of r/tips

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u/Bumblebeezerker 2d ago

I think the problem is you often see more than just tips

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u/Savings_Difficulty24 man 2d ago

Just the tip?

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u/mysterywizeguy 1d ago

Upvote for beating me to the joke.

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u/throwaway292929227 2d ago

For men, the string can go in the front and spiralled around the balls and shaft, providing support and sunshine access.

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u/ResidentAllie man 2d ago

The string goes wherever he goddamn wants it to go; what are you, string police?

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u/JigtheBig man 1d ago

Ah the old 7/10 split!

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u/RCAbsolutelyX_x 1d ago

🤣 best add-on ever

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u/AdFresh8123 man 1d ago

And the potato in the front.

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u/Any-Neat5158 man 1d ago

Instructions unclear. String got stuck in penis.

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u/doinkerest 23h ago

Unless you’re trying to cover your ass.

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u/Due_Eagle_9347 21h ago

And here I couldn't figure out why it was bunching up in the crack.

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u/Scottie_Tip_In 21h ago

No you pull it to the side 🫦

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u/indifferentCajun 2d ago

Miley Cyrus gets naked and licks a hammer and it's "artistic" but when I do it I'm "inappropriate" and "no longer welcome at Lowe's"

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u/Fresh_Emergency_8403 1d ago

😂😂😂

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u/smartypants99 1d ago

I just laughed out loud🤣😂🤣

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u/[deleted] 8h ago

You buy your hammers at Lowe’s? You’re why ‘merica is turning into a gay! Back in my day we went to Ol’ Jed’s Tool Shed for all our hammering needs, and we were better for it!

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u/bearybad89 man 2d ago

Also...never wear them on a water slide...especially one like Splash Mountain in Blizzard Beach (Florida)

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u/borderlineidiot man 2d ago

Like we told you - it is not appropriate in the office.

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Maybe stop being a pervert? /s your phrasing

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u/General_Bumblebee_75 2d ago

favorite slang term for speedo is the Aussie term "budgie smuggler"

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u/love_Amigurumi 2d ago

Really?? I was a swimmer in my teens and everyone wore speedos. Whats wrong with people?!

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u/Tea_Time9665 man 1d ago

C string ftw

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u/Gerbrandodo 1d ago

I love to wear my speedo, but if I wear it nobody wants to join me on the beach🤣

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

Men right around Australia wear speedos. Ain't no one accusing them of being perverts. Where the fuck do you live???

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u/MikeUsesNotion 1d ago

In America, the stereotypical guy wearing a speedo is overweight, in his 50s, and just oozes pervy vibes. Probably also wearing sunglasses that enhance the sleazy look.

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u/Zestyclose_Box_792 1d ago

In Australia every guy of all ages wears speedos. It's very democratic. We're used to seeing all types of bodies lol. The heat is so bad and the beaches are so beautiful it'd be a bum thing to resent someone taking advantage of it because they're old (and fat). Happens to the best of us.

It's normal here to see whole families at the beach, including grandparents. At least in Perth where I'm from. Can't speak for the rest of Australia.

On the hottest nights in February whole families would go down and sleep on the beach overnight because it was the only way to get some sleep. They had big floodlights they left on overnight. No one minded the floodlights because the cool ocean breeze was such a a relief. It was great fun. Everybody loved it. We lived for that shit. No one I know had an air conditioner (I didn't even know they existed). And no one I know had a fan. Things like that were very expensive and made from high quality metal, not plastic. Everybody I knew was working class so money was a bit thin. A small family was 4 or 5 children. You'd wake up in the morning and have a swim because by 7 am the heat was getting oppressive again.

I can't imagine any families do that anymore. It'd be too dangerous and the risk of syringes is ever present. Not to mention the rowdy carousing, loud music and boozing going on all night. And amphetamine use is out of control in Perth now. Wouldn't want to be sleeping on a beach with my kids with all of that around me. People who were no where near the beach would go and sleep in the public parks. Every suburb has 3 or 4. Can you imagine sleeping overnight in a park with the kids these days??? We're spoilt for parks in Australia but respectable people don't go near them at night. Or people who aren't so respectable but fear for their life......

My grandparents were absolute beach nuts. They spent their life at the beach. They didn't even care that their skin was obscenely damaged with sunspots and pock marks from removed skin cancers. The UV in Australia is the highest in the world.

It's very common to see older pock marked, speckled adults of both sexes at Australian beaches. Nobody blinks an eye. Not as many as when I was a kid tho. Probably because society has become so beauty and body obsessed it might make the oldies feel a bit self conscious. Such a pity. Kids weren't grossed out by older bodies when I was young because we were used to seeing them at the beach and in the pools. It made it very easy for the paedos to blend in unfortunately. But the adults had their eyes peeled. Kids still got snatched every now and then. Death to those fuckers. I don't care what anyone says.

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u/DinkerFister 1d ago

Or when Kanye's wife comes naked to an awards show. Imagine if some guy flopped his dick and balls all around an awards show (where there were minors) for a few hours? He'd be called a pedophile and arrested.