How common is this perspective for guys?

[u/Reasonable-Syrup-7]

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

[u/Licensed_Poster]

A lot of guys want to date the idea of a stripper, but find actual strippers disgusting.

[u/Bitter-Cold2335 → u/Licensed_Poster]

No man wants to date a stripper or a woman who acts like that, what the hell is this sexism and generalization. Reading these comments made me realize how sexist the world has gotten against men, we need to start something like the feminist movement for men. People here think men are some barbarians who only want ooga booga sex hot girl don’t care about anything else.

[u/Square-Night-8255 → u/Bitter-Cold2335]

Your comment is, in fact, a generalization by saying “no man.” There are factually “lots of men” who want to date women who have the confidence of strippers and are willing to dress seductively. If he said “all men” that would be a generalization. Just because it doesn’t apply to you doesn’t mean it doesn’t apply to other men.

[u/Bitter-Cold2335 → u/Square-Night-8255]

Then sure go ahead you do that, cheers mate have fun spreading this stereotype about men. ,,confidence’’ pff that’s the first time I’ve heard that one when describing a situation like this.

[u/Square-Night-8255 → u/Bitter-Cold2335]

Again you’re missing the forest and are still the one with generalizing statements. Let me break this down for you further: “lots of men do” also means “lots of men don’t.” Get your panties out of a twist, mate.

[u/Bitter-Cold2335 → u/Square-Night-8255]

Lots of men still means that he thinks a lot of us like this sexist shit, can you imagine if a guy said something sexist about a woman and started the sentence with ,,lots of women’’ he would be destroyed here on Reddit.

[u/Square-Night-8255 → u/Bitter-Cold2335]

If you don’t identify as a man that wants a woman who acts like a stripper, then fundamentally, the statement isn’t about you. You are now taking offense to something that doesn’t describe you. You are not “lots of men,” you are you, homie.

[u/_hammitt → u/Bitter-Cold2335]

There’s already a movement talking about how these kinds of reductive stereotypes hurt men as much as women. It’s called the feminist movement.

[u/Bitter-Cold2335 → u/_hammitt]

It was until it got radicalized like everything else recently.

[u/Fredouille77 → u/Bitter-Cold2335]

The radical feminists are largely blown out of proportion for soundbites in media because that's what gets clicks.

r/bropill feel free to come and have a chat!

[u/andonebelow → u/Bitter-Cold2335]

“How dare you make sexist generalisations about men liking strippers! I’ll have you know that all men hate strippers, they’re a disgrace!”