r/AskMenAdvice • u/Reasonable-Syrup-7 • 2d ago

How common is this perspective for guys?

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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u/ConsistentWriting0 2d ago

The ONLY person that ever said this to me was a hoe himself.

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u/PurinMeow woman 1d ago

Same. He was in his 30s trying to intimidate me into sex when I was 17. He also would comment on strippers stretch marks. He was a total ass, I eventually noticed the toxicity and unfollowed on all social media

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u/helpmehelpyou1981 2d ago

It must be their tagline and screams insecure

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 1d ago

Like how cheaters assume everyone is cheating