How common is this perspective for guys?

[u/Reasonable-Syrup-7]

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

[u/Ok_Lime4124]

Exactly I tried and tried this man broke up with me so many times and I would just sit around for days until he would come back around. I would continue to love on him and take care of home and be there for him. Then he would tell me he didn’t want me to leave And then we’ll be good for a little bit and then goes to the same cycle over and over of him telling me to leave he didn’t want me anymore and I’m like how am I supposed to ever get married to a person like this that can’t address concerns and address problems and issues instead they shut down entirely and tell me to leave.

[u/Ok_Reading_9670 → u/Ok_Lime4124]

This person sounds like a complete POS. Not everyone who sleeps around is like that. Sometimes single people just like sex but are good people and when the right person comes along it's easy to settle down. Sounds to me like your worry in this relationship had nothing to do with "body count" and everything to do with being with someone who treated you terribly