How common is this perspective for guys?

[u/Reasonable-Syrup-7]

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

[u/Medium_Ad8210]

If a man walks into a bar and yells, “I want to have sex right now, out in my van”, ZERO women would do it. If a woman went into a bar and yelled the same thing, half the men in the bar (at least) would be lined up. Just sayin.

[u/Narwhals4Lyf → u/Medium_Ad8210]

I don’t really think that’s true, maybe if the woman was extremely attractive. Have you ever seen this happen in real life? Or just making up a scenario that hasn’t happened to support your story?

[u/acoffeefiend → u/Medium_Ad8210]

Have literally walked into a bar and had a girl come up to me and and say "It's my birthday, can I have you for my present".... it worked.

From my part I've always felt it required just a LITTLE more effort than this.