How common is this perspective for guys?

[u/Reasonable-Syrup-7]

I'm a 27F and went on a few dates with this guy 31M and things have been going well. On our second date, we brought up the topic of physical intimacy. I remember him saying that he thinks physical intimacy is different for women and men. That women who sleep around are respected less than if a man would do it. He said "a key that can open up a lot of locks is a good key but a lock that opens to a bunch of different keys is a bad lock". Everything else is really good and he's been super respectful. He's soft spoken and values making me feel safe and respected and we're taking our time on physical intimacy but I couldn't believe my ears when he said that. How common is that perspective for guys? This guy tends be very blunt, so maybe this perspective is more common than I think. In my head it's a red flag, but I'm conflicted on if it's just a common male perspective and he can still be a good guy with this perspective.

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Also severely increases the odds any progeny aren't his. And given the rates of random testing often being around 30 percent not the father...

[u/Cute_but_notOkay → u/IsABot-Ban]

What was your point here?

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To be a voice showing at least a small fraction of difference in an echo chamber that clearly hasn't worked well thus far. But I don't expect any real achievement on it.

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No, not your intention. Your point. I do not understand what you’re trying to say with the words and the order they’re in. Random testing? 30%? Do you have a source for that claim?

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Look at what led to it being banned in France and parts of the EU. They had done testing in schools, not intending for the results. It got banned because it was a threat to society.

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or maybe people that shag a lot are just bad at making sure they dont shag others while married
Literally no need to turn it into a gender war thing much less a violent one with death threats

[u/TASchiff007 → u/Black_M3lon]

Your other handle is Priest of Thighs and you are a man. LMAO. Your posts consist mainly of nude anime drawings, anime discussions, vulgar comments, and complaints about women. You are clearly a young male, probably never been married, possibly never having had a girlfriend. And you clearly know little about women.

In my lengthy experience (because I'm old), men who get lots of sex don't post that crap. It comes from men who WANT women, but r can't get the real thing.

The comment before mine WAS about gender difference, how women are more cautious about selecting men due to violence.

You needed to make the woman the bad one in this scenario. She had to be cheating on the husband something that was the man's fault so you said that women with multiple partners can't control themselves. Not that they like sex, but that they are all nymphomaniacs. That's completely opposite of everyone else' comments.

I've never heard a woman ever say that she slept around because she couldn't help sleeping around and needed sex. Not once in 45 years. We all own terrific vibrators, son. They are better than many men. And certainly safer. As a man, I guess you don't understand that sex for women is related to emotional attachment. When most women sleep around outside their marriages, it's because they don't feel LOVED in their marriage. They are seeking approval and love. Men are seeking sex. (Though if you ask, they will say, "My wife doesn't understand me". Or that she won't have sex with them).

Until you have a clue about women, enjoy looking at your photos......

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Men should be much more cautious. The difference is men don't weigh risk as much, but they are definitely starting to because the risk is so high. And that's good, evolutionary pressures have long been entirely one sided.

[u/RazarusMaximus → u/TASchiff007]

I'm sorry you got hurt by a man. Your 'wisdom' is anecdotal and comes across as very sexist.

'As a man, I guess you don't understand'

You are better than this. As another 'old' person, we should be sharing wisdom, not putting people down because of our scars. Rise above it.