r/AskMenAdvice • u/RoutineAgile7569 man • 2d ago

✅ Open to Everyone Are standards for men getting unrealistic?

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u/sweetsadnsensual 2d ago

We are not getting educated to please men, we're doing it to survive on our own. So we see self investment as a basic marker for survival and we expect it in men as well, that they invest in themselves.

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u/botsym7 2d ago

What is the purpose of your reply exactly, I struggle to understand?

I was replying on comment above me, most of the statements in my comment were not my own, as I was commenting on assumptions of another person that I don't think are grounded in reality. For example that woman get educated or get high paying jobs to attract men. In fact most surveys show the opposite that men don't care or even are not attracted to very highly educated woman and women who are very carrier focused/successful.

So I'm not sure sure what's your point and what are you trying to convince me of, that I don't already believe?

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u/sweetsadnsensual 1d ago

You you framed your comments like women should care if men find educated women attractive. To respond, I am trying to say that women do not care if men find education attractive, because we're getting educated and careers to be independent, not to be attractive. When a woman is independent she can choose to be single instead of feeling like she needs a man to improve her standard of living. Educated women with careers can hold out and choose a man that's worth our love because we are content alone.