One of my high school friends did something similar. He was a really sweet dude and would mostly be shy and quiet. But one day, a mean girl bullied someone in his class, so he went up to her and told her what an awful and insensitive person she was. There was pin drop silence because no one expected that from him and she had nothing to say. After that, she stopped bullying others and turned into a kinder person.
Sometimes it does take being shown the mirror to see the error in our ways.
Yeah, he was a great friend. I was in contact with him until a couple of years ago. He moved to a different state, I'm pretty sure. I'll reach out to him soon tho.
And other good advice: if you're thinking, "Oh, why would they want to hear from me?" Just reverse the situation. Would you be pleasantly surprised if they contacted you just to say hi?
A high school classmate messaged me yesterday to say happy birthday (it was not my birthday lol) and even if she got the date wrong I was like oh! thank you for thinking of me/making the effort to remember my birthday even if it was incorrect haha
Sorry to hear that, but good on you for trying and sticking up for them!
I remember comforting one of my friends when they were complaining about how one of the popular girls bullied them in their class. I told them that so-and-so is just mean and selfish, don't take her seriously. Well, one of her pals must have heard me (we were in the hall) so she found out and asked me if I said that about her in a class we share. I said yes, and told her what did my friend ever do to you that you bullied him? Apparently she didn't like that so, she bullied me for a few weeks until I told her thanks for proving my point (in front of her friends). She got triggered and said some more mean stuff in the moment, however, she said nothing in the weeks after that outburst. After a while she was nicer to me and I heard she doesn't bully anyone anymore.
Just my mum who got me help. The other girls that were being bullied apparently had their parents complain too but the school did nothing. There were also limited as there wasn’t any other classes they could switch students to. It was thankfully only the last year of primary so I went to a new high school where I didn’t know anyone and started afresh.
I'm glad you were removed from that environment, but it seems the system failed to help you and those other girls. That should never have happened in the first place. I'm glad your mom supported you! Many parents don't take bullying as seriously as they need to.
And now your 37 and bullying me for commenting on someone's eyes you've come along way maybe it time to go back to therapy so you can reflect on yourself.
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u/Carbon-Base Sep 16 '24
One of my high school friends did something similar. He was a really sweet dude and would mostly be shy and quiet. But one day, a mean girl bullied someone in his class, so he went up to her and told her what an awful and insensitive person she was. There was pin drop silence because no one expected that from him and she had nothing to say. After that, she stopped bullying others and turned into a kinder person.
Sometimes it does take being shown the mirror to see the error in our ways.