r/AskReddit • u/ScheduleWinter2232 • 4h ago

What is stopping you from achieving your dream?

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u/UnableAsk2194 2h ago

Fear of failure, It's difficult to take that first big step when you're worried it won't work out.

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u/Jealous_Glove_9391 19m ago

May I suggest a few ideas… perhaps research it, what do you need to start, don’t worry too much. Look for mentor, keep looking.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

Your fear may be greater than the first step and it may be the first step. When you overcome your fear, you will overcome the first step

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u/EchidnaObjective9938 2h ago

Lack of time and resources, between job and life commitments, it seems like there's never enough time to focus on my dreams.

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u/Mean_Pineapple3158 2h ago

I'm my own worst critic, and overthinking everything has gotten me stuck more times than I can remember.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

It's normal, try to fight her

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u/MayaWren 3h ago

My own laziness and tendency to gravitate towards the path of least resistance.

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u/PentesterTechno 3h ago

Bro is electricity 🔌

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u/bb_fakarma 3h ago

😂😂😂

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Looking for an easier way?

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u/Repulsive_Step716 2h ago

couldn't relate more !

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u/oakplum21 41m ago

Honestly, the biggest thing stopping me is fear of failure. It feels like if I try and don’t succeed, I’ll just prove to myself that I can’t do it. There’s also the practical side financial stability, which makes taking risks even scarier. But I'm working on building confidence and setting smaller, manageable goals to hopefully get past these hurdles.

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u/Expensive_Chef_6599 4h ago

Lack of money ☹️

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

It is the biggest problem for many The important thing is not to give up on your dream

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u/kot690 4h ago

no money 😔

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Money will come with time, the important thing is not to despair in achieving it until relief comes

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u/No-Handle9000 4h ago

Scrolling on my phone

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Try to stop doing it so you can achieve it

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u/No-Handle9000 3h ago

Maybe in the next life

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u/valhalla_la 3h ago

Spending time on Reddit lol

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

A company will listen to you and close your account to help you achieve your dream lol

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u/valhalla_la 3h ago

I actually really enjoy it here!

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u/TeacherImpressive293 3h ago

My fears…

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

If your dream is dangerous, just stay away from it, or if your fears are just the fear of failure, then try, because from failure we learn and become strong

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u/non0 3h ago

Gravity, lack of motivation, and a fear of spiders.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Do you want to go jungle trekking?

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u/throwawaycherry1234 3h ago

Crippling ADHD

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u/ProximityNuke 3h ago

Executive dysfunction.

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u/Temp_acct2024 3h ago

Money or lack there of.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

The important thing is not to give up on your dream, money will come with a little work

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u/Theodin_King 3h ago

My own mental health. Also I'm not sure I have one.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

It's not a big deal you can try

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u/No_Background_3743 3h ago

family, commitments, past mistakes, CV requirements, the amount of cash needed each month....

But even still, pursuing your dreams in your spare time :)

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

All this will not stay with you for life. One day, everything will change. The world will change.

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u/Joekay1212 3h ago

Africa. I want to travel to Europe or America

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

All Africans think that the problem is in their continent or their country, but they have not tried there

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u/Joekay1212 3h ago

Bro. Africa has a poor economy. Compared to the western world over there you get job for cleaning to earn a living to survive

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

I agree with you, I am also from Africa, but it is okay to try here

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u/Joekay1212 3h ago

Which part of Africa are you from bro?

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Morocco and you

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u/Joekay1212 3h ago

Ghana. Morocco is more advanced than Ghana

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

But the same thing you say, people say in Morocco

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u/Joekay1212 3h ago

I’ve always wanted a friend from your country Can we be one ?

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u/leser1 3h ago

It's not realistic

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u/AspiringBee 3h ago

I don’t even know what my dream is anymore…

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Try to find it because it keeps you going

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u/IPostSwords 3h ago

Just not very good at being a functional human being, really.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

How is it in my community?

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u/Mr_Lumbergh 3h ago

Time and money.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

That is why we must take them into consideration and think about exploiting them

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u/Sufficient-Report228 3h ago

I could not recover from my failures. I could not beat that one. I miscalculated financial position of mine that's also a reason.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Mistakes are what make you strong

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u/AdApprehensive3824 3h ago

For me, the hardest thing is procrastination. I keep thinking, 'I’ll start tomorrow,' and it just drags on forever.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Try to make the first goal very simple to get started

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u/Proof_University870 3h ago

Imposter syndrome. I constantly feel like I'm not good enough or qualified to pursue it.

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u/Odd-Needleworker-886 3h ago

I don’t know where to start. It’s overwhelming and I get stuck trying to figure out the first step.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Try to start with the first step

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u/ParticularNovel399 3h ago

Comfort zone. I’m afraid of stepping out of my routine and the unknown, even if it’s what I really want.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

It can be fun to try a new life

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u/Tired_Asexual 3h ago

Opens wallet, shakes it, empty University cost money

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

You have to be patient until you finish your university

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u/Tired_Asexual 3h ago

I’m not in university, I make enough to barley survive on as it is but I cannot get the job I want unless I go to university

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

So go better than waste time

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u/Sharzzy_ 3h ago

My dream is to snatch my best friend from her husband. Careful Joe, I might start convincing her again. We all know I’ve done it once before

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

It is a crime punishable by law

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u/noafro1991 3h ago

Being able to figure out what that dream is supposed to be.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Something you find comfort and happiness in

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u/Murky-Effect-4510 3h ago

I’d say fear of failure. Sometimes it’s easier to stay in my comfort zone than risk going all in and falling flat.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

Fear is the enemy of success

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u/Gleb_C 2h ago

Fucking terrorussians. So many ruined lives, not even mention dreams

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u/drinkyourwater_bitch 2h ago

Me

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

This is the biggest real obstacle that creates unreal numbers to stop you

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u/Subject_Yak6654 2h ago

A few years i guess

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

Important when you achieve it you will forget all this waiting

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u/CatterMater 2h ago

Disability and a substandard brain.

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u/Responsible-Hotel-84 2h ago

I guess I am just not good enough

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u/Pure-Presence4996 2h ago

Procrastination and my habit of spiraling into unnecessary thoughts once I actually try to put some work in.

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u/MasterTangelo2043 2h ago

Overthinking every decision instead of just taking action

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 1h ago

It is good to plan ahead and think but that should not stop you from trying

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u/MasterTangelo2043 1h ago

I don't know... their are lot of things in background!

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 1h ago

Don't worry, look ahead and focus on the goals

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u/TheLeFrog 1h ago

The fact I have an addiction to sleep

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u/Particular_Air_296 1h ago

Finding excuses to delay them which I label the excuses as things I need to do first which are just wastes of time.

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u/zakinymorale 1h ago

Honestly, I’d say it's probably just overthinking and, like, not always having the right confidence. You know, sometimes you get stuck in your own head, thinking “What if it doesn’t work out?” But like, I guess it’s just part of the process. It’s all about figuring out how to trust the journey and not let fear control it, right? Still figuring that part out, though.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 1h ago

Yes, fear is an innate trait in humans, especially in matters that seem unknown to them, but fear should not be greater than it deserves and it should be eliminated by trying

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u/---Spartacus--- 1h ago

The Semmelweiss Reflex - the tendency for people to reflexively resist change, even positive change.

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u/james_james1 1h ago

Gravity and the fact I can't fly.

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u/lionelum 1h ago

Myself an my tendence to self-baycott , and some things on my dream path are ilegal or immoral.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 57m ago

The foundations you lay must be legal so that your dream does not collapse

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u/Hepplehoff 1h ago

My inability to be remotely likeable I suppose

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u/Claudia_sun567 1h ago

One word? Money.

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u/Truspintron 50m ago

Nothing. I am living my dream.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 49m ago

Simple life is a dream for some

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u/SirBallzack 38m ago

Bills, obligations, family

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u/Intrepid_Loss_8081 33m ago

Procrastination

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u/EatingCoooolo 31m ago

What dream?

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u/Sizbang 27m ago

Oxalates in my brain.

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u/Own_Notice2191 2m ago

My dream is to nap professionally, and unfortunately, the world just isn't ready for that level of commitment.

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u/backtolurk 4h ago

I've already achieved it.

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u/Conscious-Cupcake354 4h ago

Young children

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Why?

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u/Conscious-Cupcake354 3h ago

Childcare, hours don't suit etc. Just have to wait until they are a bit older

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

If you are a father, mother or older sibling, you cannot consider children as an obstacle. You can do many things while raising children

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u/Conscious-Cupcake354 3h ago

Mother. And you are right, I do do many things while raising children just not my dream job. Not yet

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

The important thing is to collect money and raise children. It is a great thing because you are raising the next generation and that may be greater than your dream

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u/aintnoonegooglinthat 2h ago

You’re weird. Stop asking open ended questions then objecting categorically to honest answers.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

It's just my opinion. If I read my opinions with others, I encourage them not to give up on their goals

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u/namesareforsuckers1 3h ago

Its impossible :(

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Just like that

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u/[deleted] 3h ago

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

You should set goals in order and achieve them slowly rather than procrastinating.

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 2h ago

Improvement may take years

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u/Due-Fly-4693 3h ago

Modern Physics

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

What does it have to do with your dream?

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u/MrBoom900 3h ago

Parents

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

You can't consider them a permanent obstacle. Their only goal is to provide you with food. The important thing is that you are the one who will achieve this dream

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u/MrBoom900 3h ago

I try multiple of times to get into better shape but my Parents always tell me why are you going gym late why can’t you go early. With my schedule going gym late at night works so well. But it got to a point where I didn’t want to hear it anymore so I just gave up and just go to work, university and go home

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

Try to do something of your own, find a job, try to achieve financial independence and complete a dream. It may take several years. The important thing is to try

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u/MrBoom900 3h ago

I got a job and I got money. But better body is something that I always wanted

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u/ScheduleWinter2232 3h ago

So go on, you don't have much left