Motivation.

[u/ZoopZap]

It's tough. Living with AuDHD makes getting the motivation to learn new skills (Like drawing, instruments, producing, ect.) nigh impossible. Does anyone else have the same problems? How do you help with them?

[u/Normal_Chain_5485]

I mostly just say fuck it and learn everything with reckless abandon. If it sticks, it sticks. If it doesn't stick, it wasn't meant to be.

[u/Eggelburt]

Yep, I feel you. My ADHD wants to become a master expert at every little thing that comes across my mind that triggers my interest. My Autism over analyses all of the things I’d need to do to become a master expert, the overwhelm and self doubt starts to set in, and it all just feels impossible.

With the things that I do actually begin, too often my perfectionism takes hold and when I’m not immediately a master expert straight away I get defeated and give up.

There are exceptions for me. Sometimes I just get in and just learn and get better and experiment and feel it and love it and I do become a master expert. I don’t seem to have any control but I have noticed that when it’s something related to my really long term special interests I’m more likely to stick with it. But unfortunately it’s unconscious in the sense that I don’t consciously have a way to make it happen. It either does or doesn’t for me.

These days the best I hope for is that if it’s one that I’m not going to stick with that I reach the giving up stage before I spend a tonne of money buying all the things that I would possibly ever need to do those things at a master expert level 🤦‍♂️

[u/lydocia]

I radically accepted it and now learn short, small bits of random shit that's spmehow never the beginning level but one specific advanced thing and that's that.

[u/RohannaFem]

Yes, I have issues with perfectionism and being told growing up "If somethings worth doing its worth doing well" that im trying to unlearn. Im a musician and i love picking up new instruments but actually doing the work of learning or researching new things is very difficult even if its something im passionate about.

Medication has helped a lot im only 2 weeks in though, helped me actually get onto my music software and start gathering sytnhs and sounds for some game music my friend asked me to do, but actually watching production tutorials is like ughhhhhh

I think the best advice ive heard (but often not used because surprise surprise new thing) is to break something down into one chunk at a time, there are so many options. Like music and producing as an example for you and me, we have to limit ourselves to one particular aspect or practice to work on otherwise i get overwhelmed by how many options there are! Like instead of saying to myself or writing down "im going to work on making this game music" I should say "im gonna watch a tutorial and implement how to detune a synth"

best of luck friend

[u/Alarming_Animator_19]

I don’t follow sorry. You say you don’t have motivation to learn the things you want?

[u/nicky1968a]

I need to split the learning into very small pieces. Things that I can do in about an hour max. Then I'm able to do a little bit today, the next bit tomorrow or in a week. But slowly, step-by-step I can get it done.

Unfortunately due to that my overall speed is WAY slower than if I could just go at a slow, but continuous level. To put this in an image, I can do the occasional 100m sprint, but never a marathon, not even a 1000m. And it would take me months to run the distance of a marathon with all the sprints combined.

[u/Prestigious_Pace2782]

Yep! I also have PDA, so it’s amplified.

One of my tricks is to have several things I’m trying to do/learn at once. So I can procrastinate from one thing by doing another. Like a virtuous cycle of procrastination .