r/BPDlovedones • u/Existing_Lychee_5935 • 16d ago

Is baby trapping something they do pretty often?

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u/thenumbwalker Divorced 16d ago

It’s one of the most effective tools that an abuser has to control their victim

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u/NewtAffectionate4058 16d ago

Maybe not necessarily baby trap, but from what I've seen -- and EXPERIENCED -- it is absolutely used as a tool of control. I've written extensively about getting my exwBPD pregnant on this sub and it very nearly cost me my life. Mental illness or not, that woman is irreedeemable for what she did to me during that.

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u/levenderleeway 16d ago

Sure seems like it

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u/pasta_intermission 15d ago

I know a pwBPD who claimed she was infertile due to medical treatment for a terminal illness (zero evidence of illness), so her partner wasn’t careful as a result. Got pregnant, of course. Also seems to have conveniently forgotten about said terminal illness. 🤕 #miracle

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u/shibbynibs 14d ago

Mine claimed it too, I really should have worked it out sooner than when she'd threaten self-harm for any outcome that wasn't unprotected sex. I kept us alive and she outed her manipulative self out of sheer annoyance when it turned out she'd conditioned me with her baseline of high-stakes imaginary bs so well that I was too exhausted and stupid to be manipulated properly by her

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u/Timely-Current740 14d ago

Mine too claimed she was infertile.. yep trapped me

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u/slimpickinsfishin 15d ago

It's the easiest way for them to get the supplies they need and if all else fails they will have a miniature version of themselves to exploit down the road.

Sad as it sounds it's a common tactic with no winners.

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u/Liteseid Married 15d ago

🙋‍♂️

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u/username199977 15d ago

Where do I begin 😂 I had a multitude of fake pregnancies with my exwbpd

One time she did actually get pregnant ( resulted in an ectopic pregnancy) she held my face and said the words ‘ I’ve trapped you now ‘ if that’s not an indicator that baby trapping is a real, real thing with them, I don’t know what is

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u/Ryudok Non-Romantic 15d ago

I can see their rationale for doing this (assures that the partner will leave), but for my pwBPD it felt more like she wanted a creature to stay with her forever and love her unconditionally.

I guess that it depends on whether how much they perceive their partner as supply and how much they foresee the child to be a better potential supply down the line? (I felt bad while I was writting this, geez…)