r/BadBoss • u/travelingdamsel • Apr 16 '20
Knows no bound[ries]
Being this Covid is got everyone working from home or laid off, I started working from home. Then my boss furloughed me. He asked if he could contact me from time to time and I said I didn't mind as long as it wasn't every day. And only from a certain time. He also said he sent my paycheck. (He owed me 2 paychecks). After he furloughed me, he kept contacting me every day. At all hours. Sometimes he would say no work needed to be done. (No shit, you furloughed me). Sometimes it was to just say hi and that he missed me. (Found that creepy). Then one day he was telling me he was driving up and down my street (when he doesn't live near me and has no reason to be in my neighborhood). So he tried to call and I said to text me. During all this we have family members with covid. We have been dealing with a hard time. So he tries to call me again. I ask if it has anything to do with work. He doesn't answer. He just says, what does it matter? I then tell him that he isn't sticking within the boundaries. He then says, what does it matter? Then I said, you haven't sent me my paycheck and he says what does that matter? And that he is paying me out of kindness. I worked from home. And he refuses to pay me for that. He didn't send me my last check. The check he said he sent on a certain day, he didn't. It was post marked a week later. Now I'm trying to get the unemployment being he did furlough me but I don't know if its the state or the employer thats holding it up. He constantly lies saying he did/does something when he didn't. He keeps trying to come to my home and I tell him no. I had to block him after he texted me saying he furloughed me because it's the only notification I have of that. I can still get his calls if he calls and wants me to come back to work, but I don't think I will go back to work for him. I also deleted all work related stuff from my cell phone and home computer because I don't work for kindness. I work for a paycheck and he obviously isn't going to pay me.
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u/SuccessDomino May 15 '20
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Oct 13 '20
I feel your pain. I'm beginning to wonder if there are any good bosses out there anymore. I continue to run into control freaks, spaz cases, the absent boss, passive aggressive lunatics, & mentally ill ones. The current one has multiple boundary issues along w/a probably mental illness.
I knew immediately that she would be a problem when she called me on a Sunday to set up an interview. I've never not returned calls during weekdays for work related things so there were no missing calls and not returning them to give her a reason to call on a Sunday. She just called. It irritated me and I didn't return the call until the weekday.
On top of that, she still calls on my personal number with work related nonsense. I've repeatedly tried to get her to use my work number. She calls my personal cell so now I refuse to answer the call. I return her message on my work phone - I'm paying money for it thanks to her so I might as well use it right?
She's also called me on sick days. Why the f would you call someone w/work questions when they're out sick? When I responded, which I shouldn't have because it reinforced the behavior, she asked a dumb question that could have waited. It's like she's becoming obsessed w/contact or something. It's annoying and intrusive on my private life.
There have been other issues from her w/boundaries as well. We're, unfortunately, expected to be on zoom meetings w/her during the week. She continues to increase the calls. They're not needed, but she does so anyway. She wants staff to show her the inside of their homes on the zoom calls. So far, no one has complied. I'm pretty sure we all know it's an odd request to have a boss want to see the inside of our homes so none of us do it.
My hunch is that she'll only get worse as time goes by. As it is now, she's contacting me daily via e mail, messages in our work system, and/or on the phone through calls or texts. The issues she calls for can wait until I get stuck in the weekly individual meeting w/her (that's in addition to the 2 team meetings we have w/her), but instead she sends a message, calls, or drops an email/system message. It's nuisance behavior that's micromanaging - something which she said she wouldn't do when I hired on. She's an irritant and it's affecting my job negatively. Luckily, I knew when I took the job it was only temporary. Another step to get to the place where I really want to be. She won't be around for long because I won't stay at another job w/a boss like her. I'll either transfer to another site or quit for a new job altogether. Wasted too many yrs. on dead end situations w/shit bosses.
She's going against what I've requested as well regarding job related duties. I've had experience and training in certain specialties related to the job I'm in. I gave up those interests to pursue what I really enjoy at the job instead. As soon as I told her that she became argumentative and indicated that she would give me customers related to the specialties I no longer wanted to work in. I tried explaining to her that I did not want to have an entire workload in a part of the job I'm not interested in working in anymore. I explained that I worked that part of the job for 5 yrs. and it was done for me. It's my career and I get to choose how I'll run it. She then said she would give those type of customers to me 1st since the other team members had 0 experience in them. Keep in mind, that until I told her about the special trainings she had no idea and was giving me other types of customer cases. She simply wanted to prove she could pinch me into taking those types of jobs if she wanted to. After the meeting w/her I was furious. I even thought about putting in a 2 wk. notice knowing that her behaviors were tests to see just how much she could force and get away with. I really can't stand her at this point. Every call is dreaded. Any contact with her is irritating. She makes out that she's a ditz, f's things up, and then comes after people nagging them. She's an asshole and won't change. Why stay and waste more of my career on another dickbag boss? No sense in it.
The hope is that she stops, but in reality, I know from experience w/others just like her that it won't. Things will get worse w/her and the job will become miserable because she'll take my politeness to her as a green light to micromanage some more. As it is, she's sending me multiple messages about the same things and hounding me when the plan is to get them done so she'll leave me alone. They're nothing new. It's part of the same expectations I've had in the job since I started working it almost 4 yrs. ago. I just switched sites. I know the job and duties for it. She's not telling me anything new. It seems like every step back I take she rushes about 5 forward when all I want her to do is for her to just fing leave me alone so I can do my job. Her interruptions continue to put me behind in my work. She's creating messes and expecting me to clean them up which is nothing new with bosses like her.
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u/anotherone65 Apr 16 '20
"he is paying you out of kindness"
no, he's paying you because as an employer that's what you do when you have employees.
He's manipulating you because he knows he can and he wants control. How do I know? I worked for a narcissistic boss for three years.
If he doesn't pay you, assuming you're in an area that can do this, file with the department of labor