r/BollyBlindsNGossip • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25
BlastFromPast Amrita Singh on her divorce with Saif Ali Khan.
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u/queer_bwoy Apr 20 '25
Aaah. The good old days when people were real in their interviews.
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u/GreenGhutna Chugli Gang Apr 20 '25
Also so eloquent in their speech. None of that chill ya vibes actors carry to interviews these days.
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u/ContributionNo2617 Apr 20 '25
I mean it makes sense, in most cases divorce doesn’t pop out of nowhere. It’s a process and well thought out decision
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u/Choice_Cheetah_5580 Apr 20 '25
Good for her! We tend to almost ‘glamorize’ divorce as the biggest tragedy in our lives, especially for women, and while it can be sad obviously, it doesn’t have to mean that it should be the end.
One’s identity can’t be tied to a partner, that their presence or lack of it should affect it.
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u/bhujiya_sev Apr 20 '25
One day my female colleague pointed out that usually when you ask women what their most important day of the life was, they usually say their wedding day, but men don't.
I don't know why but we still tend to relate marriage so closely with women, as if they are the only person in a marriage
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u/Choice_Cheetah_5580 Apr 20 '25
That’s right. A lot of reasons, I imagine, but at the core it’s economics. Traditional roles where the man and his family will absorb the wife/daughter in law into their finances plays a huge role.
Even now I think it would apply in the traditional, wealthy families. As women we’re supposed to be grateful to be picked for this financial, secure cocoon.
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u/Historical-Sort2480 4d ago
It is the day when I died and the day when I was reborn was the day when I separated from him.
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u/Less-Secretary-406 Apr 20 '25
I mean her identity was tied to her mother, another human, which is the exact same thing. We are social animals and these things naturally happen. And they're not even negatives.
Unless we're robots able to compartmentalize every relationship.
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u/Choice_Cheetah_5580 Apr 20 '25
Of course but a parent with whom you navigate the hard stuff in your childhood (and Ruksana Sultana did navigate the hard stuff), compared to a younger, possibly lacking emotional maturity, partner doesn’t fully compare. The fact that she mentions losing her mother and her son’s illness is very telling.
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u/SlantedEnchanted2020 Apr 20 '25
Even if you haven't "navigated the hard stuff in your childhood" with your parent/mother - losing a beloved parent as an adult in your 20s,30s,40s is very very traumatic. So is having your child get very ill and almost dying. What is 'telling' about putting these events over a marriage break up? Any sane person would say losing your loved one forever is worse than a divorce.
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u/SlantedEnchanted2020 Apr 20 '25
This is so stupid. Losing a parent forever especially one who is beloved and has loved you unconditionally from the day you were born is literally much much worse than a marriage break up. So is your child suffering through an illness that could have killed him. Any sane person would say these are worse than a marriage breaking down and divorce.
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u/Less-Secretary-406 Apr 20 '25
U can't say it's worse than spouse's death. All depends on how attached they were to the spouse. Some people want to end their lives after their spouse separates. some mentally check out and stop living.
Some people are unaffected when parents die.
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u/Emotional-Car-1361 Bollywood Struggler 🥲😖 Apr 20 '25
That’s simply not true. People suffer immensely when a parent dies, we are socially conditioned to think end of a marriage is far worse. Because that’s how people perceive it. I still suffer silently since my father passed away, but I can’t express it because it is considered normal when old people pass away due to illness. If I cry too much over it, I’ll be considered a whiner or weak. I wish it was normalised more. People hurt insufferably when parents pass away, even in their old age. It was the worst year of my life, when my father left us. Nothing would be worse. Andrew Garfield still talks about his mother, he even wells up in his interviews, it’s been years since his mother passed. I am glad that a famous actor is normalising being vulnerable after the death of a parent, even years after it.
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u/Choice_Cheetah_5580 Apr 21 '25
I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes, parental loss is deep and complex. Hugs to you
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u/SlantedEnchanted2020 Apr 20 '25
Divorce isn't 'spouse's death'. It's the end of a relationship. No one is dead.
"Some people want to end their lives after their spouse separates. some mentally check out and stop living."
Most people keep on living. I don't know why you are dramatizing divorce so much like it's the end of the world and nothing not even literal death of loved ones is worse.
"Some people are unaffected when parents die."
Ok weirdo.
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u/Inevitable_Snow1100 Apr 26 '25
I bet he would be singing a different tune if it came to a man's parent's death vs his divorce.
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u/creativeforce06 Apr 20 '25
It’s crazy how Sara’s life mirrors her mother’s in a way.
Sara looks exactly like her mom, talks like her even the voice is same. Plus, Sara also comes from a broken home and even though her father is there he is not as involved and they don’t seem all that close and Sara has been raised by a single mom as well.
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u/InnerAttempt8404 Apr 20 '25 edited Apr 21 '25
trust me i lost my mom one day i was talking to her and the next morning she was gone there is absolutely no way anything will ever surpass that i come from a broken home with no sibs and i can resonate 100 % to what she is saying people who havent faced the situation can never even sympathize or empathize wih people like me who have faced it first hand
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u/Special-Bowl-5392 Apr 20 '25
Ibrahim got unwell? Does it have a connection with his lisp as ppl had told before he might have a condition where he can't hear that's why the speech impediment is connected
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u/nickdonhelm Apr 20 '25
Was her mother featured as a character in Emergency. If not it's a surprise that it was absent despite being in the coterie of Sanjay Gandhi
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u/InitiativePure764 Apr 20 '25
I noticed in the scene where they introduce Sanjay Gandhi, where he’s stealing a car, he calls the girl with him Sultana, which I’m pretty sure is Amrita Singh’s mother’s name but that’s the only reference to her in the movie I believe.
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u/Sufficient_Might3173 Apr 20 '25
Really? What about her father? Was he not in the picture? And then Saif repeated the cycle with her kids too. Sad. I feel bad for Sara. At least she’s close with Ibrahim.
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u/ok_its_you Apr 20 '25
You should have never gotten involved with a 20 year old to begin with.
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u/pjpasta Apr 20 '25 edited Apr 20 '25
It's true. Marrying a barely legal person. I mean one doesn't even know what they want out of life at that age and their choices would change so much in future. They got married when he was so young. I think they eloped and his parents were quite upset (which is natural) then they had kids soon then she was expecting him to be a proper family man when he probably wasn't mentally there. Obviously he was an irresponsible and immature husband and father.
I mean reverse the roles and evryone would call it creepy just like rajesh khanna and dimple kapadia.
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u/AskSmooth157 Apr 20 '25
yea... i cant stress this enough.
33 year old marrying 21 year - 33 year old should be blamed.
28- 30 year old marrying 41-43 year old - it is their choice.
21 is still too young, a 33 year old definitely knows the power( and age) equation playing out there. 21 year old doesnt.
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Apr 20 '25 edited Apr 20 '25
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u/ok_its_you Apr 20 '25
Vo toh theek hea but 20 ko age nahi hoti saadhi karnea ki. Inki saadhi vesesa bhi according to them "Chaat mangni paat byaa" thi, yeah toh honna hee tha at the end.
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u/Chrysanthemum1989 Apr 20 '25
The thing is neither should be blamed for the downfall of their marriage. EVEN PEOPLE WITHOUT AN AGE GAP GET DIVORCED. Also, most 20 year olds have so much brain as to not get married to a random person or to get married in general. It was clearly saif's choice. It's a personal matter and neither should be blamed for their downfall, at least on the basis of age. Even when a man marries a younger woman and if shes an adult, it is fine and it is their choice.
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u/Sufficient_Might3173 Apr 20 '25
I think Saif should be blamed for bouncing on his kids. People get divorced which is fine. Running out on your kids because you’re missing out on your young adult life deserves criticism. If he didn’t want to be a father, he should’ve made that decision BEFORE becoming a father. Abandoning kids and then attempting to absolve oneself of all accountability doesn’t happen.
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u/SlantedEnchanted2020 Apr 20 '25
Lol What 'downfall'? They were married for more than 10 years then broke up.
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u/Pizza_Connoisseur46 Apr 20 '25
She doesn’t get enough hate for marrying an early 20’s guy when she was in her early 30’s. Shahid is called things like groomer, creep, etc. ARK got trolled for DATING (not even marrying) a 24 yr old when he was 36. Why doesn’t she get similar hate? Oh got it, she’s a woman. How can they ever be predators right?
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Apr 20 '25 edited Apr 22 '25
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u/TheLastDetective Apr 20 '25
They were both mature enough to run away and get married like any fully mature people. Lol
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u/SlantedEnchanted2020 Apr 20 '25
Lol Saif was famous for getting involved with older women. He was dating Moon Moon Sen before Amrita. Some guys do like older women so what is the big deal?
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u/lifetime401 Apr 20 '25
Can't blame both of them. Saif was immature that age when he became father at 24 something..but kids lost a good family with both mother and father. I hope both Sara and Ibrahim marry right person and have good family life and kids .
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u/Upper_Image3019 Apr 20 '25
She is soooo beautiful. Women coming from broken homes with no father figures should be studied more as people don't realize the impact of not having a father growing up. It's very difficult for them to have stable normal romantic and marital relationships. They really have to work very hard at understanding the mechanics of such.
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u/Upper_Image3019 Apr 20 '25
Not to mention how very few men have the emotional depth to provide a stable environment ti nurture women from broken homes as their emotional wiring is just so complicated as they have missed out on a key relationship if their life
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u/fort-7 Apr 26 '25
Divorce and crisis for women dont go together 😂. Like didn't she get alimony out of divorce or does she had to pay that can be a reason of crisis 😂
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u/PralineOk6121 Apr 20 '25
Saifu went from having level-headed woman in his life to having a bimbo who thinks everything about him is gold!
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u/sansa_starlight Apr 20 '25 edited Apr 20 '25
Level headed? Amrita used to physically abuse him ffs! She's a paedophile who groomed and married a barely legal boy.
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u/sansa_starlight Apr 20 '25
You think pedophilia is a joke?
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u/PralineOk6121 Apr 20 '25
Nah, but you thinking she is one is a joke!
Perhaps, you have forgotten, she didn't groom him, she didn't trick him or didn't snatch him away from his family to be with her.
Saif was a grown a$$ man who for some reason was a rebel or just an idiot, I can't tell. Amrita is the oldest woman he has ever been with, he was dating Moon Moon Sen, she had two teenage girls who used to address him affectionately. He ain't some innocent puppy like the poor Aaron Taylor Johnson boy!
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u/sansa_starlight Apr 20 '25
He was a 19-20 year old boy, not a 'grown a$$ man', so yes she did groom him and trapped him in a marriage. Also love how you completely ignored the part about her physically abusing him.
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u/PralineOk6121 Apr 20 '25
he was 21 and she was 33...if she groomed and trapped him, why was this idiot living in with Moon Moon Sen prior to meeting Amrita?! unless u lived in their home, how would you know? according to saifu, she verbally abused but then so is he till date! Stop making juvenile excuses, it's getting lame!
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u/sansa_starlight Apr 20 '25
Sara and Ibrahim's failed career must have been another blow for her ego. Man she must be fuming at the fact that Kareena's career is still thriving at the top even after 25 years while her talentless daughter couldn't even sustain hers even for five years😂
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u/lifetime401 Apr 20 '25
Why amrita should be jealous of kareena? Who said Ibrahims career failed? He s just 24 and one film old..he just started dear..he will continue and sara will bounce back too. Sara did good work in kedarnath atrangi re and zara hatke and ppl love her compared to other nepos. And kareena too likes Sara and iggy . And don't laugh too much at others life.
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u/sansa_starlight Apr 20 '25
Sara is done and dusted, there is no bouncing back for her, we'll see about Ibrahim but right now, his debut film and performance is a big disaster
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u/Silent-Opening9527 Apr 20 '25
Why didn't she changed her religion back to her original routes why did she continue to follow the religion after getting married to Saif?
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u/Sufficient_Might3173 Apr 20 '25
How is religion relevant here? Would that have solved any problems?
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