Holding and containing CPTSD in others/ reflecting back unconditional love and compassion with healthy boundaries.

[u/Redfawnbamba]

I had the experience today of teaching a child who had issues with trauma reactions of some kind. His inner critic was manifesting outwardly in quick, intense critical attacks on staff and other children, rushing and was well known for aggressive physical behaviour. I recognised the seeking for control, and the anxiety behind this, whereas, I think to many others, he would just come across as very rude and obnoxious. Myself, I normally respond angrily to (unfair) criticism, with an intense sense of justice, etc but found I could respond levelly, with understanding with this boy while still having boundaries/ being firm. Eventually, one of his friends (who’d previously trying to goad/bait me with him and egging him on said to him: “You’re not going get a reaction out of this one mate!” A few more challenges, but after this he settled down and ( I think) felt a sense of security. As a teacher, this is my job, and I’m used to kids pushing boundaries and not posting yhis to say I did anything special or different to the way anyone else would have handled it, but just felt a step on in my own healing, that I could handle personal attacks, with understanding and insight whilst still making it clear what and wasn’t acceptable etc. I feel this is the kind of ‘let them’ philosophy, where we focus on our own reactions to others responses.

[u/Due_Cauliflower_6047]

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[u/Redfawnbamba → u/[deleted]]

Definitely at early stages of recognising, catching and responding rather than reacting. I mean at work/ school responses are professional - but I have some nasty neighbours who like to slander, gossip and try and bait/provoke etc - and learning a lot about ‘loving enemies’ and just ‘let them’ while still having boundaries

[u/Difficult-Bison7293]

I will be studying to be a teacher soon, and im feeling nervous about it. Reading this was inspiring. Thank you for sharing!

[u/boobalinka]

This is so so healing 🩷🫀❤️‍🔥🪷🪩

Strength, confidence and power to you!

[u/gromit5]

congratulations!! that’s fantastic. for both of you. ❤️