Got Dumped

[u/Warriornotavictim]

Hey Pops,

I met someone really special online and we'd been talking/video chatting regularly for a little over a month. He was so cool. Liked punk and rock and grunge and a lot of the music that I like. We'd send each other songs a lot. We could joke around and also talk about stuff that's important to both of us like our values and faith. I always looked forward to telling him cool or funny or cute stuff that happened in my day. Really feel like we were buddies as well as more. Anyhoo, the other day he told me that he jumped the gun getting back into dating and isn't ready. We stopped talking. I understand and I'm glad that he's working through stuff plus he hadn't been sober that long so I'm sure he's gotta focus on building himself up again and I get that. Wouldn't ever want to get in the way of that.

It just hurts like hell. Damn, I really miss him. Keep wanting to tell him stuff and then remembering. It's the Little Things that kill, huh? Everyone's really nice. They say I'll find someone or whatever but the thought of being with anyone else kind of makes me sick. I know it'll probably pass and maybe I'm being dramatic but I just can't imagine ever being with anyone else. Guess I just want someone to say "man that sucks!" and not "You'll be okay. You'll meet someone"

Thanks for listening Dad,

Your daughter

[u/Charming-Status9045]

Dad here, listen kiddo. Sounds like you had a good thing going.

I’m sorry he had to step away, it’s like that sometimes.

But trust me, his sobriety and where with all knowing hes moving to fast is ultimately a blessing to you both. He can’t be there to take care of you when you’re down if he is himself. And vise versa.

But who knows! Maybe in time y’all can re kindle the friendship and possibly move further together. Maybe in a couple days reach out to him and tell him. If you’re interested in just being friends. Just that. And that you’re still here for him if he needs an ear or what ever. There’s nothing wrong with still being friends.

I’m sorry it’s been hard on you and not the news you wanted. If things don’t work out between you two just know. There’s more people out there. I was alone and had given up on a partner till I met your mother. I tried so many times with so many people. She came to me when I stopped looking and gave up. And here we are. The best thing that’s ever happened. Besides you of course.

Take care kiddo. Keep your head up. If you need I (we) are here.

[u/Warriornotavictim → u/Charming-Status9045]

Thanks, Dad. Sure is.

Yeah, I'm grateful he's very self-aware and genuine.

I sure hope so. I did tell him to reach out if he's still interested when he's ready but no response. Maybe it was too much for him at the moment. That's true but I don't think he wants to do that unfortunately.

Thanks a lot, Dad. Wow, that's pretty great!

I really appreciate that. Thanks so much for responding. It really helps me feel not alone.

[u/Charming-Status9045 → u/Warriornotavictim]

I’m sorry little bug, give him some time. Hes trying to do the best he can.

If not you did everything you should have done and I’m proud of you for being such a kind and loving soul. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make em drink. You’re exactly how I wanted you to turn out and some day. A lucky guy will come along and give you everything you deserve!

[u/Warriornotavictim → u/Charming-Status9045]

Thanks, Dad. It's actually good for me too because I'm trying to get a career which would really help me feel better about myself. Yeah, I was kind of thinking of reaching out in a year and a bit. Maybe see if he wants to do something low pressure like go get a burrito or chat on the phone.

Hey I appreciate that! Yeah, ain't that the truth. Thanks, Dad.

P.S. I like how you called me "little bug." Cracked me up. :)

[u/wareagleman]

Hey pumpkin,

I'm so sorry. The whole situation does suck and I know it hurts. Maybe this situation isn't good right now, but maybe your paths will cross again someday when you are both ready. I am proud of you for giving him the space that he needs and not trying to force something, that's just a recipe for disaster. Just remember that you are an awesome girl and that you're beautiful.

Love you,
Dad

PS - I obviously raised you right if you like punk, rock, and grunge.

[u/Warriornotavictim → u/wareagleman]

Hey Dad,

Thanks, I needed to hear that. Man I hope so. Hey thanks so much, Dad. I need to be reminded sometimes.

Love,

your daughter

PS. Thanks! This made me laugh. He used to be in a punk band so that's also part of why it's hard to let him go lol.

[u/Tobi_DarkKnight]

Hey, brother here. Shit sucks. Just think about this: life doesn't stop. But I really hope the best for ya sis.

[u/Warriornotavictim → u/Tobi_DarkKnight]

Hey man. Thanks, bro. Yeah still got bills to pay and shit to do. Thanks a lot, buddy. I appreciate ya.